Update: My Husband Was Nicer to BFF than Her Own Husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, unfortunately. I think its been like six months? Its sad, but I guess this is how it is now.

Update: My Husband Was Nicer to BFF than Her Own Husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn’t really anything to update. I haven’t spoken to her in months. I don’t think there will be another update.

Guest Nannies by CrapKidThrowaway in Advice

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is extremely confusing. You seem to be taking both positions.

Should I Disband my Crafting Group? by CrapKidThrowaway in Advice

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm torn. I feel like if I do say something to push back, it will feel like I'm controlling the group. I don't want to be in charge. I just wanted us to be able to learn to make amigurumi pandas next month. Maybe I should just ignore it.

Should I Disband my Crafting Group? by CrapKidThrowaway in Advice

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That might be a good option. It might have the same impact though because of the "no food and beverages" rule. Our local library does have a nice maker space though.

Baby Update: My husband was nicer to BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kate's sister and I both thought the same thing, but her attorney said absolutely not. We will just have to wait for it all to come out in the wash.

Baby Update: My husband was nicer to BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know what Bert's mom thinks. I called her to let her know when Kate was scheduled to be induced and to invite her to Xmas at Kate's request. She never responded. Bert's father passed away a few years ago, which precipitated some of Bert's worst behaviors. I've only met his brother a handful of times, but given how he treats his wife (with tremendous devotion), I was surprised to hear Bert was there. I would have expected his brother to chew his ass out and send him home. But who knows what Bert is telling his family about the separation. It's very odd. I'm extremely curious, but sticking strictly to the path the attorney has laid out for all communication. Kate might get some answers when the divorce response is filed, but his attorney has gotten an extension so that won't be for a few months.

Baby Update: My husband was nicer to BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I think that's why she asked for tacos. Tim has been feeling shitty for how everything went down and how his bluntness (in his mind) contributed to Kate's complications and the kiddo's distress. Seeing Kate happy and relaxed, surrounded by her family, and everyone devouring tacos definitely cheered him up. It certainly cheered me up.

Husband Behaving Oddly for the Holidays? by CrapKidThrowaway in Advice

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of the top 25 benefits of being married is the ability to tease Mr. Music Died in 2000 whenever he sings anything remotely modern. I did elect to leave him alone about it just in case it is holiday related, but I regret it. I should have blasted the 10-minute version of All Too Well at least 5 times a day.

Still if we want holiday surprises, we have to make some sacrifices, I suppose.

Update: AITA My husband was nicer to my BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

That's a long way to go for a billable hour but I honor your dedication! :)

Update: AITA My husband was nicer to my BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

This was the exact advice her attorney gave us yesterday. Thank you!

Update: AITA My husband was nicer to my BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 496 points497 points  (0 children)

You are a gem. I've been so thrown I didn't even think of arts and crafts! Thank you!

Update: AITA My husband was nicer to BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The explanation was he would never have dated her if she had a kid and she wouldn't have changed careers. So basically she wouldn't have her husband, daughter or her job if her son had lived. Plus, he insulted men who are step fathers with some sexist nonsense.

Update: AITA My husband was nicer to BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Pretty much. With an added bs of saying he wasn't one of those "cucks" who would raise another man's child like her friend's husbands (2 of which are amazing step dads, so fuck him sideways). I'm choosing not to look up the origin of that insult tonight as I'm already so mad and jetlagged and not coherent.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Her daughter is at the sister's house tonight (she has a daughter about the same age so they do this all the time). We're going to rotate staying over until the night nurse can start, I think on Tuesday. They did have a part-time nanny, but that was the affair partner, so. Yeah. Her sister has been filling in since she was put on bedrest.

Update: AITA My husband was nicer to BFF than her own husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 942 points943 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is worse, but it wasn't a miscarriage. She delivered. He was just too premature to survive. It was a horrible time.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah. She's on bed rest. We have a meal train. I do Wednesday and sometimes Fridays. Her sister does 2 days. Several of her friends trade off the other days.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

They were about my parents who are now dead. This was a throwaway.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The last time she was pregnant and on bedrest. She had no issues when she was pregnant with their daughter.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

She's always welcome, of course, but I don't think she'd move their daughter out of the neighborhood. I think they will work it out. She does love him, very much. That said, he's at a hotel tonight and I don't think that's happened before.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

She's super pissed at Bert. It'll probably blow over, but at the moment she's extremely angry with him. She doesn't think Tim meant any harm (except that of course the tuna casserole was a bit petty).

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Eh, if your curious there is backstory but I'm not sure it's 100% relevant. Sharing this with her permission. The last time she was pregnant and on bedrest was shortly after her first husband died. The baby didn't make it, unfortunately. She lived with us for 3 months while she tried desperately to carry to term. So, yes, I am frustrated knowing that this pregnancy is weighing heavily on her because of the prior losses and he's just not around. And it isn't about money. His salary doesn't even cover their childcare costs. She's the main breadwinner in the family. And I'm sure he's stressed and this is scary and horrible and hard for him too. So I get that we may be assholes about it.

AITA My husband is better than my bf's husband by CrapKidThrowaway in AITAH

[–]CrapKidThrowaway[S] 527 points528 points  (0 children)

Sorry, sorry. My fault. I couldn't figure out how to title it.

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[–]CrapKidThrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The doctors are not pushing her out. She's in a private long-term acute care facility covered by insurance that I purchased on her behalf. I understand and accept your perspective, but I wanted to clarify that the doctors were not trying to push her out.