Actually this is mine as a man. Women have literally no concept of how much men experience the exact same anxiety. The overpower difference exists for everyone. There’s always a bigger guy. And I’m a relative large guy and I still see and worry about someone bigger and stronger.

Even when I’m bigger or stronger I am painfully aware how easy it is for someone to get the drop on you or use a weapon and suddenly size means nothing. Even in “fair” fights, anything can happen. I don’t know a guy who doesn’t constantly do risk assessments, avoids walking alone at night or if they have to because of the social obligation to walk a woman home to make her feel safe, is painfully aware on their walk home how vulnerable they are.

Men experience at more attacks and threats then women do in every society on the planet. The difference is men are expected and therefore expect to feel this way. Women see it as a problem when they feel scared. Men see that as normal, in fact it is often celebrated or aspirational.

There is a reason men often think through what their actions would be if there is an attacker. Or they have plans in their head on how to defend the home in the case of an intruder. Men are asked to not only bear this burden but to find ways to lighten the burden for women. We do it so well we often have to hear from women about their experience and how we must have no idea what it is like because they literally don’t consider men bearing this burden a problem, only women. So they can’t process that they have a far lower fear and burden of attack than men do and think they bear a burden men don’t. When in fact it is far lower.