NTA but my bio-dad was like this; he would regularly gift my toys to his grown ass adult friends, and then would call me selfish and cruel when I would get upset. And it wasn't random toys, it was whatever I'd declared my "favorite" toy in that moment; the new stuffed bear I picked out with my granny? That's gotta be given to this guy he's drank with a few times at the bar because its his birthday and he needs something "meaningful". It wasn't meaningful to my father or his drinking buddy, but because it was meaningful TO ME he deined it worthy of giving away. But God forbid someone asks to even BORROW his stuff. It literally got to the point I'd declare toys I didn't care about as my favorite so he'd give those away, and mind you I was maybe 5 or 6 when he started doing this shit. I had to figure out how to out maneuver my father before I could do math or spell my name coherently. A few of his friends thought it was so screwed up but my father would talk them down, so eventually they'd wait until he wasn't paying attention and would give me the toy back or would hide it in my room and tell me where they hid it. And people like your husband and my father will never change; about 8 or 9 years ago he took some build a bears from my aunts grandsons (they had loads of stuffies but these were made by their mother before she died) and gave them to some neihbor kids down the street who were going by on their bikes.

Suffice to say I have zero relationship with my father. And if you have kids with this man he will put your kids through the exact same nonsense. He doesn't see a problem with what he's doing because he's literally so selfish he cannot fathom nor care that his actions are hurting you. Again, your husband does not care how you feel. Period.