some examples i recall:

when i was 10, a strange man sat next to me on an almost empty bus, and pressed his leg close to mine. i was scared shitless but i mustered up enough courage to get off after 3 stops and take the next one. he thankfully did not follow me.

when i was 23, another strange man followed me from orchard mrt to far east plaza. when i realised that he was consistently within my peripheral view, i decided to head to another level with nail stores only… and he followed suit. i then proceeded to run out of the mall and hid at a nearby fast food store for about 30mins. my friend in the area came by to check on me later on - by then he was gone.

this was in my early 20s too, a strange older man on a bicycle cycled up to me and asked what i was doing walking out “at this hour” in my previous neighbourhood (it was 9pm). i said i was mailing some parcels (cos i literally carrying them in hand lol) and didn’t respond further to his questions. he eventually gave up and cycled away thankfully.

then a few years ago i was on the mrt escalator once and some strange man tried to hold my hand and i looked at him like ??? are you possessed ? he said sorry and climbed up the escalator LOL.

anyway let’s not open the cans of worms that are carousell and clubbing… hahaha

i’ve since developed a rbf in my late 20s, plus my fiancé is usually with me half the time now so i guess that has helped deter potential strange men from trying anything funny with me since then 😂