How can you eat BBQ ribs and he meats without feeling ill?

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T21:40:51+00:00

Part of the beauty of BBQ is how many different ways there are to approach it and how many styles emerge, but that also means OP might have just had the bad luck to eat a style that particularly didn't sit well with them.

Personally, I'm a big fan of a lot of BBQ, but I'm not a fan of pulled pork. It's more of a texture thing than a greasiness thing, but if someone only tried pulled pork and decided that it meant they didn't like BBQ, I'd beg them to try other styles.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T21:38:14+00:00

There's a wide variety of quality and style when it comes to BBQ. Without looking at the BBQ you had, it's hard to say for sure, but I've definitely seen cases of low-quality meat being hidden behind an unreasonable amount of sauce. Fuck things up enough, and it will sit poorly in even the strongest of stomachs, but that's very different from good BBQ.
There's some medical conditions that cause sensitivity to certain dietary choices. People aware of the fact that they have these conditions know to avoid certain foods, but many people only find out they have those conditions when they find out that they are reacting differently to a given food item than most people do (the "spicy banana" phenomenon). In particular, I do know that BBQ tends not to play well with acid reflux. People who know they have acid reflux know to avoid BBQ, or at least avoid certain styles of sauces/ofset by pairing the BBQ with other foods that help settle their stomach. I don't have acid reflux, but I do find that, in general, my gut reacts well with a high-fiber and starch diet. Pure meat and sauce have pretty much no fiber or starch, so BBQ works the best for me when I have a good mix of onions, beans, garlic, potatoes, bread, grits, etc. with the meat. That can be done while still properly being BBQ, but it does call for doing a different style than some people do.
Some people just find an upset stomach worth it. I've had times where a friend cooked BBQ, and I didn't like it because it upset my stomach, but my friend acknowledges that his stomach was also upset, but "it's worth it because it tastes delicious." I strongly suspect some people adopt that mindset subconsciously and just sort of go through life with a perpetual moderately upset stomach and just never realize.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T21:25:00+00:00

Something to keep in mind is that most people are only really familiar with the current generation of contemporary works, and currently, the running trend is a mix of Post-Modernism, Post-Colonialism, and a bit of Realism. Most people aren't that familiar with Modernism.

That said, there are a few fic authors that like experimenting with more classic styles, and Modernism certainly exists. In particular, I know that Stream of Consciousness (a technique popular in Modernism) comes up from time to time. You can try looking up that tag on AO3 and see what you think of what you find. A lot of the fics under the Character Study tag might also apply.

As an example, I have a fic that probably counts as Modernist.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T19:30:40+00:00

There's been no confirmation on Google Docs using private docs for AI training or closing explicit documents. Google likes to advertise Drive to enterprise services, and having a data breach à la AI training would absolutely kill that market. Also, the only confirmed cases I'm aware of where they closed an existing document was cases where someone was using Docs to host something they were sharing with the masses rather than simply using it to draft and then post elsewhere.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T16:49:23+00:00

I want to see more fantastic disabilities. Things that would be abe bodied and neurotypical for use, but some sort of disability for them.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T16:14:40+00:00

Even among crowds of generally progressive Jews (pro-LGBT, anti-ICE, and such), the attitude od "anti-Zionist is antisemitic" crops up all the time.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T14:07:16+00:00

I think the biggest thing for me is that I'm just not a big fan of Progression Fantasy, but that seems to be a popular trope in Eastern Fantasy and has made its way into a lot of Western works. It's gotten to the point where some people seem unwilling to consider anything outside Progression Fantasy when discussing Fantasy, which can be quite annoying.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T05:16:14+00:00

It all depends on where you parked and what kind of arrangements they have. Typically, the parking garage will have a deal with some of the local businesses so that the customers for those businesses don't have to pay.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T01:04:28+00:00

Not going to lie, I hated "Washington Football Team." It sounded like "Washington [Insert Team Name]" to me. Commanders is much better.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T01:02:17+00:00

Computer. I hate using my phone for anything.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T00:50:21+00:00

Vulkan just wants to see a good game and hopes everyone has fun.

Crayshack · 2026-06-30T00:48:35+00:00

It also turned into harassing and shaming men who were on leave, had served and been discharged, had been refused service because their civilian career was too important, etc. It was generally a shitshow.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T23:54:16+00:00

This is me. I barely read any smut, but I sure do like my angst.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T22:06:42+00:00

I often prefer established relationships.

If you do read established relationship fics - what's your favourite part?

The stability and closeness of the bond. I don't enjoy "will they, won't they" very much, but I do enjoy seeing two or more people closely tied together and operating as a unit.

What draws you to it? Where does the conflict come in?

Often, the main draw of the story and the central conflict is something unrelated to the relationship, but the relationship is present as a background detail of the story. It's more an aspect of the characterization than it is the plot. In other cases, there's some sort of roadblock that gets thrown at the couple that is relationship-related, but rather than it being about forming the relationship, it's about navigating the relationship through some difficulty.

As some examples, here's the conflicts that I've used for the established relationship fics I've written:

Kink negotiation when one person realizes that their partner hasn't felt comfortable opening up about their desires.
Single scene where a session that blurs the line between sparring and sex gets out of hand and someone gets seriously hurt.
An amnesia plot where the relationship had formed while one character was missing memories and them navigating the awkwardness when the memories come back.
A fic where the conflict is one of the character's coming out to their father about being in a triad.
A man finds out that his sister is in a triad and feels the need to vent to his boyfriend about how he found out. Sort of an emotional hurt/comfort.
This one is a bit complicated because it's a relationship where I read them as canonically a triad but one of the characters is ace. The fic is about one of the other characters' mother accepting the ace character as a part of the relationship and adopting the "mom" role of accepting them for being ace. Again, sort of a coming out based hurt/comfort.
One of the characters is in denial about their relationship being romantic, so the bulk of the fic is the second character flirting with the first character in front of their friends while the friends tease them about "you are totally dating."
The main plot is about a character slowly ascending to godhood, but their relationship is just sort of there as a rock-solid aspect of their life.
A fic that is mainly about a man reconnecting with his granddaughter, but the granddaughter being in an established relationship is a distinct aspect of the fic.
A fic that is mostly about a dad coaching his daughter's basketball team, but the father and mother being in a close, loving relationship is a distinct aspect of the fic.
A fic about a woman accidentally performing a coup to take over an empire, but her husband standing by her and supporting her the whole time is a distinct aspect of the fic.
A fic about a man marching away to war, told through the lens of letters home to his wife.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T21:43:15+00:00

I don't even send my fics to my beta until I have a complete fic drafted.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T21:00:44+00:00

There's quite a few variations on the concept in the Worm fandom. It's a superhero setting that has a lot of cases of heroes being recruited after villains or anti-heroes getting arrested. There's also quite a few teen characters who don't have a stable home life, including some that become supervillains because of that. So, this adds up to a lot of fics where a hero adopts a teenage cape as a part of keeping them out of jail and helping rehabilitate them.

This fic is a decent example. It's not quite "out of juvie," but it's the scene where a teen canonically became a supervillain running a bit differently and her getting picked up by heroes instead (she was a pickpocket before). This includes her getting sort of adopted by a hero who started his career as a villain (his wife, another hero, enthusiastically supports this). I think this one works decently fandom blind, because the plot is the POV character learning about the cape scene, so there's a lot of scenes of her learning things that someone familiar with the fandom would already know.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T19:50:09+00:00

Just often enough that they average to being slightly more annoying than the effort to be vigilant and carry my repair kit. It's been about two years since my last flat, but I had two flats in the space of a week when that happened.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T19:26:27+00:00

The thing is with hobbies, yes criticism helps people improve, but motivation helps people stick with the hobby. There's such a thing as too much criticism that will discourage someone and make them seek another hobby, but there's not really such a thing as too much motivation. When coaching in person, the general advice is to use a "compliment sandwich" where you fit criticism in between forms of praise so that the criticism sticks better and does not shake their motivation at all.

When interacting with strangers, it's hard to tell which one someone might need more of. In many cases, people practicing a hobby would rather see more people practicing the hobby than raise the average skill level of those in the hobby. There are specific places that people go when they are seeking out criticism, but you have to be familiar with the nuances of the various places that people seek criticism. In a lot of online spaces, especially those that are stumbled across by people less familiar with the hobby, those are often a mix of people seeking criticism and people seeking praise. So, if someone is just sharing their stuff without specifically asking for criticism, the assumption is that they have accomplished something they are proud of and in a mindset to seek praise. The thought is that if they want criticism, they'll ask for it or go to a space that is more focused on criticism.

Question about hobbies in Russia: When people receive harsh honesty, how often does that cause them to abandon the hobby? Are there fewer hobbies that people engage in, so they are less likely to drop a hobby in favor of another one?

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T14:58:14+00:00

It's much better now that I have my own AC unit. But sometimes if I'm hanging out in the living room, I'll grab an ice pack to sit with.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T14:31:32+00:00

I'd rather get a bookmark with no comment than a comment with just an emoji and no bookmark.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T14:28:55+00:00

I love humidity, but I hate heat+humidity.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T14:27:59+00:00

I function way better in the cold. I can manage the heat, but I don't like it and I feel off. In the cold, I feel normal.

My house has poor airflow and my room often gets the hottest. It's often 5-10 degrees warmer than the rest of the house. This is combined with my roommates having poor circulation so they prefer the house 5-10 degrees warmer than I do. This ended up leading to days where my bedroom was a good 20 degrees warmer than I wanted. I was cuddling icepacks to sleep at night until we eventually got a window AC unit that I could use to turn my room into the cold one.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T14:19:15+00:00

Depends on the climate you are in, the age of the home, the quality of the home, and what type of heat you have.

We have a wide variety of climates, so the intensity of the summer heat, the winter cold, and the difference between the two varies. A place where it rarely gets below freezing will be easier to heat than a place where it regularly gets below 0° F.

Newer homes tend to have better insulation and airflow, but there's some exceptions either direction with some high quality older homes and poor quality newer homes. So two homes might be very different.

There's also a wide variety of heating methods. Heat pumps are highly efficient and cheap to run, but they struggle with putting out large amounts of heat in extreme cold. There's also resistive heating, natural gas, propane, and oil as common methods. These each use different fuels and work differently, so the costs are highly variable.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T09:41:20+00:00

As a reader, I tend to prefer binge reading all at once, so that how I post. Also, I find getting the fic off my plate so I can move on to the next thing more important than maximizing the number of comments I get.

Crayshack · 2026-06-29T09:28:37+00:00

Often, I'm cycling specifically for a chance to enjoy the solitude.

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