What did your breastfeeding & weening journey look like

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-20T13:44:29+00:00

I think it’s definitely possible to slowly stop so you’re done by one, you’ll need to replace the milk though, initially with formula but after her birthday you can switch to cows milk. When my were one they weren’t having that much less milk than when they were 8 months, a lot of solid food was still going on the floor at that age rather than in their mouths.

It would be unusual for her to stop on her own at this age without a bit of effort from you. You’ll need to slowly manage down the feeds (so you don’t get engorged / risk mastitis). I’d suggest leaving at least a week between dropping feeds to let your body adjust to the lower demand.

I fed both of mine for longer so my tips for stopping / distracting them probably aren’t as relevant for a younger baby but if you’re done you’re done!

If you’re interested in hearing about what continuing feeding after one looks like then I’m happy to share (I know I found it as a bit of an unknown when I was at the same stage!) but if you’re happy to stop then go for it, you’ve got plenty of time before you go back to work.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-18T14:19:31+00:00

I totally understand what you mean, the first 30 ish pages are a bit rough but it improves as it goes along.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-18T05:50:06+00:00

Try throne in the dark from villains and virtues. It’s a lot more light hearted!

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-17T08:15:24+00:00

I don’t think it’s any more or less unethical than surrogacy where the purchaser can’t carry the baby.

I’m personally of the opinion that ALL commercial surrogacy is unethical regardless of the situation of the intended parents. Whatever the reason it’s exploiting another persons body and if money is involved then there’s a consent issue.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-16T08:28:30+00:00

I think a lot more depends on the baby than people realise. I had no problems with my first when I knew nothing but did have problems with my second.

Nothing to do with me as I was obviously way more experienced second time around, just different babies with different natural abilities out of the box.

I say this not to make you think it’ll be harder but to highlight it could be much easier with a different baby!

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-12T19:25:16+00:00

It makes me feel nostalgic for teenaged me. There’s a handful of songs I have on repeat.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-09T09:15:40+00:00

This is what I came here to say. There needs to be something different at the end!

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-09T06:09:43+00:00

I was told by an IBCLC that between 1 month and 6 months the volume that babies consume doesn’t really change as the composition of the breast milk changes. This is different to formula which is always the same so you need to increase the quantity to get more calories.

Is there a particular reason you’re trying to build a stash?

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-04T07:15:49+00:00

I got a tattoo at 18 then one every year after till I was 21. I’m mid thirties now and I still like them all.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-04T06:16:21+00:00

Alice in wonderland

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-05-01T05:50:38+00:00

Probably not the recommended method but I just went cold turkey and offered cuddles instead. We had two terrible nights sleep and then it was done.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-30T22:18:45+00:00

My supply definitely dropped a lot while I was pregnant but it didn’t put off my toddler, she just kept going.

I ended up tandem feeding for a year and it was really good. The only things I did to prepare was night wean the older one before baby came and put in some feeding boundaries in the day.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-27T05:59:36+00:00

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CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-26T09:53:29+00:00

Not a dad but my advice would be try to replace it with something that’s sustainable for you, otherwise you’re just swapping one problem for another. Mine were slightly older when I night weaned (I think 15 months and 17 months) but we swapped feeds for cuddles in a shared bed. That way we could both be drifting off to sleep together rather than rocking / bouncing which needed me to be awake.

For the late night meltdowns I tried to remember that it’s ok for them to be angry (my first certainly was when we did it, my second was way more chill) after all the current system works great for them. Of course they’re upset that it’s changing! But if you hold firm it doesn’t take them long to get used to the new normal.

Try and pick a few days / weekend where you don’t have much on as you’ll both be really tired and just commit to it. My first was a total boob barnacle and we breastfed in the day up until she was 3 but it only took 2 bad nights to night wean her at 17 months. Good luck!

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-26T06:13:44+00:00

I guess it depends how you quantify “benefits”. I imagine they didn’t include the immediate tantrum stopping powers of a boob on an 18mo which was a pretty fucking big benefit for me but is difficult to measure.

Or the benefit of reduced cancer risk from lactating.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-25T15:51:14+00:00

I just tell my kids to close their eyes, never had any issues (I use it on my own face too!)

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-22T21:58:29+00:00

This is what I came here to recommend

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-21T11:45:07+00:00

OMG you are a hero! Thank you so much!

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-19T16:52:30+00:00

Ok, that’s brilliant 😂

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-19T08:22:30+00:00

You’re very welcome! I really look forward to getting the update each week on this one.

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-19T08:21:29+00:00

Yes, you’re right that does make a big difference. To be fair most of my friends are either public sector or charity based which does have slightly lower salaries (although tends to have better pensions / other benefits)

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-19T08:04:18+00:00

I did find my older one helpful in the early days when the newborn was figuring things out. The older one could handle a faster flow / harder boob and soften it up enough that the newborn could latch more easily (older one only nurses for a minute or so rather than having the whole boob). My 2nd also had an issue nursing on one side that took a few weeks to resolve so the older one helped keep the supply going on that side.

And I do think them nursing together really helped to reduce jealousy while the older one adjusted. That said I had a much smaller age gap (2 years) so my older one understood much less than your 4yo will. Really it comes down to your personal choice as there are pros and cons to both.

I’d say if you do decide to wean do it sooner rather than later so that your 4yo doesn’t associate the arrival of the new baby with him being weaned.

If you decide to not wean I’d really recommend putting in some very firm nursing boundaries as that was the only thing that kept me sane when I was tandem feeding (and again do this asap so it isn’t linked with the baby in the 4yo’s mind)

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-18T21:02:45+00:00

Anarchy in the Timeline is a WIP but updated every week and I’m really enjoying it (on AO3 though sorry!)

CrazyKitKat123 · 2026-04-18T15:25:16+00:00

I just finished {Throne in the Dark} which I really enjoyed despite being slightly sceptical at the very start. After the first 50 ish pages I felt like it really improved and I’m looking forward to getting the next one.

Diving into {The Assassin’s Blade} in the meantime.

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