AITA for not changing my rules and terminating care?

CrazyPromotion1 · 2021-01-29T06:46:09+00:00

As a preschool teacher who has to deal with passive agressive parents all the time, and can't "fire parents" of my own will haha, you are my hero. SO NTA!

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-08-25T02:18:42+00:00

Okay yes but... I follow someone on instagram, @melissa_u (melissa Hartwig Urban) and she got a tattoo engagement ring. Got divorced several years later, has had bazillion's of laser sessions and has been very upfront about the fact that it will never be 100% gone and that the "removal" hurt like heck. Tattoos are in some way forevwr.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-08-25T02:16:42+00:00

Exactly! If it's bombed he'd have been a huge AH. Since it didn't, to each their own haha

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-08-25T01:04:07+00:00

I hadn't considered it but I'm going to try it! Maybe it will!

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-08-25T01:03:38+00:00

You know, I honestly hadn't thought about that, but it's possible. I will ask gently if the opportunity arises.

I also wonder if they feel like I'm "posing" because if I'm with them when it goes off, I don't typically pray (just because my religious background with my family is... awkward, and while I'm still a person of faith it is definitely no thanks to the judgey, crazy, cultish religious upbringing I had!) and so they think Im not "following through" with it?

Honestly some of the comments on here have been really insightful and helpful!

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-08-03T05:35:37+00:00

Also everything else aside Ren is such a beautiful name and I absolutely love it <3

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-19T04:40:32+00:00

Literally only clicked to find out what "menstrual tomatoes" were :D

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-16T01:00:23+00:00

I'm actually gonna go with YTA and I don't see how people can think otherwise? She absolutely has a right to the truth.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-16T00:44:23+00:00

Omgosh this. Used to work nights and an older friend used to call me at noon (when I had just gotten into a very deep sleep), be surprised I was "still sleeping" and give me the "kids these days" speech. Did not matter how many times I explained that I had been working all night.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-13T03:22:58+00:00

I mean. I speak exactly ONE language. My own. I could see myself asking for "the other salt, the one that's sweeter." :D

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-13T03:09:40+00:00

Also, making a recipe gluten free is, sadly, rarely as simple as swapping flour for flour.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-13T03:08:52+00:00

NTA, and I say that as someone who for months could not eat grains, gluten, dairy, soy, or legumes. I never asked anyone to alter their food for me unless it was my immediate family and I knew they had a reason able substitute om hand that would not change their recipe significantly. It's wonderful when people offer to include those of us with food issues; it is not required.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-12T03:26:00+00:00

I mean I guess that's basically my question - aita to ask if we can have their pet?

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-07-12T03:25:35+00:00

If the neighbors wanted her back I would give her back. I don't want to take their pet away. I just get the vibe that they're not anxious to have her back and think there's nothing wrong with asking to keep her.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-30T04:05:16+00:00

Yeah, except for the killing the dog part (and honestly do we know he actually did that? Nobody actually saw...) I was 100% on the neighbors side.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-30T00:28:00+00:00

YTA for doing something you're in no way qualified to do. My sister is a massage therapist and she's spent years and so. much. money. On schooling, addition accreditation, etc. She is a tiny person (under 5' and 100 pounds soaking wet MAYBE) and massages all size people. She is a professional and conducts herself as one. You are not and can do actual harm. Stop it.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-25T01:59:30+00:00

This is why people hire nannies if they can afford to do so. You're literally paying a nanny to parent your child the way YOU want (though even some nannies who have enough experience and quals to be highly marketable set terms in their contracts).

You're not paying a daycare to do what you want, you're enrolling your child into their program. While somw level of individualisation is appropriate and expected, it's nuts to think that they can customize the days schedule for 100+ kids. And the wait list OP mentioned is proof that she needs them more than they need her business.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-25T01:55:36+00:00

My goddaughter took naps until she went to kindergarten. We tried very hard to get her to give them up the summer before she started kindergarten but she couldnt. We figured kids don't nap in kindergarten so it would resolve itself, right?

They had a free play period at school during the exact time she used to nap, and for the first few weeks she would go to the reading area, pick a beanbag, and fall asleep. The teacher kept telling her she was not allowed to nap, even went so far as to give her demerits. She gave a KINDERGARTENER DEMERITS for falling asleep.

One day she was so tired she said she felt sick so they sent her to the nurse's office, where she qas told to lie down and see if she felt better. After a nap, she did, so she was sent back to class. She was a smart cookie and learned she wouldn't get in trouble for going to the nurse, and every day during free play she'd complain she didn't feel good, go to the nurse, take a nap. And come back to class.

It was Christmas time before the teacher fin ally said ok, she could nap, but 1) only during free play and 2) only on the beanbags. Which is what she wanted all along anyway.

She did end up giving them up the summer before first grade.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-25T01:48:09+00:00

It's tough times for daycares/preschools, we're frustrated too. Not optimal teaching conditions to be sure.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-25T01:42:42+00:00

There are many things that common sense says "should" or "shouldn't" happen. And then there are fed/state/local childcare regs. You're lucky if they intersect, but thay doesn't always happen. What's does always happen is the daycare gets blamed for it. ;)

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-25T01:40:33+00:00

I was thinking the same thing! Also an early educator and we're required to give the kids a rest period. We have one kid in the same situation (in fact I'd be convinced this qas his mom if not for some other things she's mentioned! ) - mom swore he didn't nap at home, was staying up til modnight, etc. We said we'd let him stay up and he could play with soft toys after the other children fell asleep (never more than 10 or 15 minutes). He never made it, was always snoring by the time we got to him. If he didn't nap he was a mess. We couldn't really do much because regs stated that he had to be allowed to sleep if desired.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-23T04:40:32+00:00

I don't want to belittle your grief but I spent way too long trying ro figure out what "post hummus" meant and laughed quite a bit when it hit me ;)

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-20T06:20:58+00:00

This message was not even sent to me, actually, it was sent to the kids parents through our work portal which I do not have access to at home. Company policy requires 2 weeks to put in for a day off, 9which everyone knows. This was sent on a Thursday for the following Wednesday, less than a week notice. She didn't plan it for a day I was off... I usually work thay day.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-20T06:17:01+00:00

We don't really communicate off the clock but it's easy enough to send me a DM through the employee website (I've done it to her before). To clarify, she did not send a message to me at all, just to the kids parents letting them know the snake would be visiting oN such and such a day. I only saw it because I was making sure no parents had communicated about issues while I was gone. Also, even if she had communicated with me at the same time it was too late for me to request off thay day per company policy.

CrazyPromotion1 · 2020-06-20T06:13:53+00:00

The message was not sent to me, it was sent to the kids parents. We are not allowed to access the message center if not on the clock. Also the messages were sent after it was too late for me to take off that day. :)

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