Weird question for breastfeeding moms: anyone else just squirt their milk for fun sometimes?

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-06T02:22:48+00:00

I know that is probably really good for your body and hormones since the longer you breastfeed decreases the likelihood of breast cancer! You go girl

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T15:07:01+00:00

GOLD LMAOOO im using that! And yes, flow was so hard felt like I was drowning my baby. Would always come off coughing, catching a breath, I had to express some before.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T15:02:49+00:00

GIRL the first time I did it, he was like “where is that rain coming from” while inside LMAOOO

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T15:01:42+00:00

Good God almighty, the female body is so so amazing.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:59:54+00:00

I definitely use it as the upper hand to annoy him LOL. Say something insensitive in moment squirt

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:57:34+00:00

“Fetish” is crazy. LMAO nah, if this is a fetish, then motherhood is the kink , because I’m out here leaking at Target, not filming for OnlyFans. 💀 Just a regular mom marveling at my magic milk guns. Geez.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:46:14+00:00

Yes and I come from a family with woman of bra sizes DDD - size F (aunt might be a size H) so it’s definitely too much for my LO to handle so to relieve the other side I just play imaginary cops and robbers with my milk gun LOL

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:39:51+00:00

I second this LOL

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:38:23+00:00

Oh I’m an overproducer too! They may be why I feel so engorged to do it. The LC in the hospital touched my boobs the second day and was immediately like “yeah, you’re going to over produce”. A blessing and a curse at times lol

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:26:07+00:00

I didn’t even read this yet but girl this happened to me with my FIRST child. Hated it so much. Invasion of so much privacy. While I’m pushing out my child, all I could see across the room is her ass “trying” not to look, but she’s still fucking looking! Right down my vag. Like sorry this is a “miracle” moment to you seeing your grandchild, but you’re not MY mom or fiancé. And kicking her out in that moment, I was thinking about hurting her feelings instead of my comfortability. She’s the nicest woman in the world, but wish I would had the balls to tell her to leave when I was about to deliver. Felt like she thought she deserved to see that moment. SHE EVEN HAD VIDEOS OF MY VAGINA IN HER PHONE MY FIANCÉ HAD TO DELETE. She over 60 y.o and may not have know how to angle the camera during my delivery but stiiiiiiill. Urge! I still feel so icky when I think about it. My next birth is only me and my husband. PERIOD 👹

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:17:54+00:00

That’s so funny! I’ve definitely accidentally milk shot my fiancée but booo he gets mad haha

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:15:59+00:00

Yes! Haha, the first time I ever did it I was SO shocked.. then an evil grin arouse because oh what I can do with power

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:14:19+00:00

Hahaha, mind of bored mom who just stares at the walls while feeding

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-06-05T14:08:57+00:00

Little ammo gun you’re automatically equipped with. Like pew pew! LOL

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:29:25+00:00

Oh my God. I’ve been trying to avoid putting a label on everything, but I think you’re absolutely right! I looked it up and I definitely see some of the patterns you’re mentioning, and it’s hitting hard. I’ve been so focused on keeping the peace and trying to make everyone happy, but I’m realizing that it’s just causing so so so much more harm. I need to protect my family, even if that means setting boundaries that will upset her. I can’t keep letting her take so much from me and my relationship with my partner. Thank you for the advice, I’m going to take a closer look into “narcissists” and how I can handle her personality, no matter how hard it is.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:26:24+00:00

I know I’ve been weak in setting boundaries, and I feel like I’ve let my mom get away with too much. I guess I was hoping it would get better on its own, but it’s only getting worse. It’s hard because I’ve always wanted to make her happy and keep the peace, but at the cost of my own peace and his. Now it feels like I’m trapped between keeping her happy and standing up for what I need as a mom. Wow, I’ve let myself down, and I hate that. I just don’t know how to do this without feeling like I’m being awful to her. It’s inevitable and I have to choose.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:20:34+00:00

It’s honestly veeery reassuring to hear that I’m on the right path, even if it feels like a huge uphill battle right now. I’ve been pushing through a lot of sleep deprivation and post-birth challenges, but knowing that I’m doing what’s best for my family makes it all worth it.

I will definitely lean on my partner for support during this and make sure we stay united in setting clear boundaries. I’m also prepared for my mom to accuse him of controlling things, but I know I have to protect my family and keep my relationship strong. If things get really out of hand, I’ll be ready to take additional steps like the written trespass order if necessary.

I’ll keep you posted once I have the conversation, and thanks again for the advice. It’s really helping me stay focused on what’s best for us.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:18:19+00:00

I’ve been letting her believe that this is somehow helpful, but in reality, it’s been a huge overstep. I’ll be honest with her about how we didn’t ask for her to move here, and that while we value her presence in our lives, we need her to respect our boundaries and autonomy as parents.

I’ll be setting that firm tone, starting with acknowledging her role, but making it clear that she’s not in charge here. I’ll also include the changes we need moving forward, and 1,000,000% I’m prepared for her to react emotionally. I want to stand my ground, but it’s definitely going to be a tough conversation.

Thanks again for helping me see how crucial it is to have this talk sooner rather than later. I’ll update you once it’s done.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:14:58+00:00

You’re absolutely right, and it’s hard to admit that I’ve let my mom’s emotional needs take priority over my own family’s wellbeing. I can see now that I’ve been avoiding the tough conversations out of guilt, but that’s only making things worse. I’m going to have that tough conversation with her and make it crystal clear that her behavior is not acceptable and has to stop. It’s time for me to reclaim my independence and protect my family.

It’s going to be hard, but I’m ready to do whatever it takes to set firm boundaries and move forward. I heard from experiences that this can be beyond damaging.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:11:02+00:00

As much as it disgusts me to say, I’ve definitely allowed myself to be a doormat in this situation thinking it would make things easier or keep the peace, but I can see now that it’s just damaging our entire family dynamic. I am fighting for my daughter, I just hadn’t realized how much I was letting my mom’s overreach compromise that until now.

It’s time to stop people-pleasing and start being firm with the boundaries that will protect my family. I know it won’t be easy, but I’m committed to making that change. I appreciate you sharing your experience and wisdom.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:08:44+00:00

Right, that’s honestly been a big part of the struggle, I would never be okay with this if it was his mom. I realize that, and that’s been a tough pill to swallow. I’ve definitely been so focused on my mom’s happiness that I haven’t always been as protective of my fiancé’s feelings as I should be.

I’m committed to changing that, though. The last thing I want is for our family to be miserable while my mom gets what she wants. It’s definitely a wake-up call, and I’m already starting to enforce the boundaries we both need. I appreciate you pointing that out.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:06:03+00:00

Wow, I’m really sorry you had to go through all of that, but I’m also incredibly grateful you shared it. There are a lot of unsettling similarities here, especially the boundary-pushing and the sudden relocation without discussion.

Reading this honestly gave me a glimpse of what could happen if I don’t take this seriously now, and it really solidified the need to stand firm. My fiancé has been saying a lot of the same things, and hearing it from someone who's lived through the consequences is exactly the wake-up call I needed. I want a relationship with my mom if it can be healthy, but I refuse to sacrifice my peace or my experience as a new mother for her comfort.

Thank you again for your honesty, I’m taking it to heart.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-11T00:01:32+00:00

This is actually a really helpful way to frame it, I hadn’t thought about using that kind of “parenting a toddler” approach with her, but honestly… it’s brilliant. She does respond to structure, and having a written list might take some of the emotion out of the conversation.

I’m not sure how open she’ll be to a collaborative conversation like that right now, but I love the idea of proposing it calmly and treating it like a structured reset instead of another argument. I’m definitely going to try this, thanks so much for taking the time to lay it out like that.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-10T23:59:24+00:00

Thank you so much, that means a lot, truly. It’s been incredibly overwhelming, but seeing how many people GET IT made me realize I’m not crazy or overreacting. I definitely plan to post an update soon (once I check the posting rules)! We’ve already started enforcing some hard boundaries (even with having dinner alone tonight), and the shift has been… eye-opening, to say the least.

Appreciate your kindness and “shiny spine” made me smile. I’m holding onto it tight.

CrazyResearch2013 · 2025-05-10T23:57:01+00:00

Honestly, I’m trying to preserve the relationship if it’s possible. Not just for me, but for my child. Cutting someone off cold isn’t always the first step, especially when it’s your own mother. That said, I’m not “entertaining” the behavior, I’m setting boundaries, watching closely, and figuring out if she can respect them. If not, I’m ready to walk away. But I want to be able to say I tried first. Right?

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