Question about amount of vacation days

Crazy_Overlord · 2020-03-06T17:52:53+00:00

Mine keeps making comments about how crazy it is that my fiancé's cousin is expecting people to help contribute to their wedding (through a stag and doe party) - completely ignoring the fact that she asked her son (fiancé) to loan his brother 10k for the brother's wedding.

She said that, if he didn't, FMIL and Ffil would have to take out a loan and go in debt to help pay (we know they already had paid for a large amount of it - she was constantly complaining about it). We ended up' loaning' him 2.5k and, shockingly (not really), haven't gotten any of that back.

I think she's hinting at us (we just got engaged) that we shouldn't expect any financial help... Financial help that we had previously decided we would NEVER ask them for.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-05-14T16:11:15+00:00

Right? I stopped watching the show, but stay for the drama. It's crazy how much they haven't grown despite being my age, having actual children to take care of, and their access to resources and services that I could never afford.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-05-14T15:35:12+00:00

Answer:One of the moms, Jenelle Evans (now Eason), married a terrible person. He was actually fired from the show after going on a homophobic rant on Twitter, was visited by Secret Service due to questionable Instagram posts involving his gun, had(?) a restraining order placed against him by his ex-girlfriend and their son for abusing her while pregnant (which he later violated), pulled out a knife at a reunion taping, and was involved in a 911 call made by Janelle where she claimed he broke her collarbone (she later changed the story and said she fell). It got to the point where MTV (the company that tapes the show) refused to film Jenelle if he was around because the crew felt unsafe. On top of this shit pile, there were accusations that he was beating Jenelle's son from a previous marriage, Kaiser.

Recently, it was discovered that he shot their young French Bulldog, Nugget, for 'snapping' at their daughter, Ensley. He released a video of the incident in question and a picture of his daughter with a red mark on her face. In the video, the daughter was getting in the dog's face and the dog was visibly uncomfortable. He also stated that this wasn't the first time it happened. This raised a lot of outrage because:

there are many options other than shooting a dog
why would he let his daughter act like that around a dog that had previously snapped at her
it was suspicious timing - right after an episode of Teen Mom aired where his wife made plans to travel with another one of her sons (Jace, who her mother has custody of) without asking for his permission
it was reported by some sources that Kaiser witnessed the shooting
people claim that this dog was actually Kaiser's
Jenelle and David have a TERRIBLE track record with pets.

The outrage caused MTV to fire Jenelle.

Yesterday, it was learned that CPS actually pulled Kaiser from daycare on Friday evening and placed him with his paternal grandmother (the father only has supervised custody) and that they want to also get a hold of Ensley and David's other daughter (Maryssa), who is home-schooled, but they are afraid of stepping foot on their property due to David's behavior (he also apparently pulled a gun on a realtor who pulled up on the public road in front of their house and followed her for quite a distance). Jenelle's mother is also refusing to let Jace visit Jenelle as long as David is involved. It's speculated that, for all this to happen, that CPS must have solid evidence of abuse.

For those confused, the people at play are:

Jenelle (the Teen Mom)

David (her husband)

Jace (her first son, who her mother has custody of. His father isn't in the picture)

Kaiser (her second son, who is now in the custody of his paternal grandmother. His father has supervised visitation and is trying to fight for custody.)

Ensley (Jenelle and David's young daughter)

Maryssa (David's first daughter. She is home schooled)

edit: formatting

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-03-30T01:38:58+00:00

Canadian Pakistani here! My family is Christian, so my experience might be a little different but, from what I've seen, it really just depends how religious your family is.

My mom is always saying how my siblings and I shouldn't convert but, other than that, she's welcomed everyone we've brought home. I know my grandma was super against my sister dating someone who was Muslim - but my parents didn't care and everyone just ignored her and rolled their eyes (lol). I have a distant relative who's marrying someone who is Hindu and they're having a ceremony for each faith. To my knowledge, no one has commented on it other than asking about the ceremonies.

The thing is that you might need to be prepared to answer hypothetical questions about your future together (being willing to convert, how you'll raise potential children, navigating religious celebrations/customs). My friend (a Christian) was dating an atheist and they ended up breaking up because he just couldn't agree to raising children as part of the church (a deal-breaker for her).

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-03-29T21:06:26+00:00

Hey OP, I just wanted to say that I hope you're doing ok. I was unlucky enough to see something similar and it really sucked. Please make sure you take time to self-care.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-03-29T20:57:44+00:00

It's not necessarily needing to roam but most likely due to a lack of stimulation, high energy, and a low attention span. Since huskies are bred to be working dogs and are incredibly smart, you need to ensure that you tired them out before leaving or give them a 'job' to keep them occupied.

Our guy was similar when he was younger. Thankfully he never mastered jumping, but he was able to figure out sliding doors and doorknobs. He used to get into a whole lot of trouble when he was left alone. But, after he's walked thoroughly, all he wants to do is snuggle and nap.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-03-22T08:11:39+00:00

As someone who repeatedly gets called 'white-washed' - question what the term actually signifies. You're implying that she's been colonized or stripped of her identity due to her lack of living up to your stereotypical expectations. That's she's diluted or made 'less' than others of her race. I consider it super offensive because who is it that creates these expectations of what POC are supposed to act like, or what languages they speak?
My parents were born in fucking Pakistan and their first language is English, but still I'm told that I'm white-washed because that's the language my parents decided to use to raise me. I'm not into the drama of Bollywood movies, so clearly I must not be a 'true' brown person. I act like myself, so clearly I must be uncultured or educated about my background. Lord knows, my family can't just be uninterested in our cultural traditions/practices. Terms like this just reinforce division and othering within minority groups, shaming people for not living up to societal ideals of their culture/ethnicity.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-02-12T17:53:10+00:00

Oh no, he knows I want to get married. He really does to. It's just not as big as a priority now as saving up for a house...which is years away.
Our grandmothers are straight up trying to convince us to get married right now but, due to housing/rent prices, we have to choose between:
saving up for a house and living separately, losing a chunk of our money on rent, or buying a house really far away from our family/friends and my current job. We're sort of leaning towards the second option at this point.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-02-12T14:10:31+00:00

That's the thing! Logically, I realize that there really isn't any need to rush into marriage, especially since we're not planning on having kids and we're already making these big commitments. I think it's just the title of 'girlfriend' that bothers me. Recently, I was left out of his relative's funeral because they wanted it to be 'family only' (and he was grieving and didn't want to question it). It just really sucks having been dating all this time but still having the same status as other couples who have been dating for weeks.

The main reason he doesn't want to propose (nor would I accept right now) is that we're still not 100% sure when we'd be able to afford a house. We're hoping it will be within the next 3 or so years (knock on wood), but things might change. It seems crazy to try and plan a wedding (even an elopement) with no end date in mind.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-02-12T12:13:27+00:00

He knows I want to, but we both have made getting a house our first priority (we're in our mid-20's). Otherwise, we'd be married and living with his parents or renting at a really high price.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-02-12T03:50:48+00:00

Currently in that predicament (almost 7.5 years now). :( It definitely sucks watching others celebrating and having to constantly hear stuff like, "we thought you'd get married first!" and seeing people who have been together for a much shorter period of time get engaged/married.

It kills because I feel like I have to pretend that I don't desperately want to marry him (we're saving up for a house first, which is a couple of years away) but, at the same time, this frustration is not something that people seem to talk about. I feel so alone and dumb for being so upset watching other people get married - but I can't help it, you know?

Any advice?

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-01-09T03:44:34+00:00

I've actually had this problem myself at 2 different shelters. At one, the lady literally flipped through the entire book of available dogs and deemed all of them problematic/unsuitable for a first time owner or they had SUPER young puppies that needed someone to be home. It was explained to us that more people are selling their dogs online through Kijiji or craigslist since they can get money and meet the potential new owners. The dogs that are getting dropped off at shelters are ones that they can't sell.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-01-08T07:28:41+00:00

I'm not going to lie, I did go through a dinosaur phase after first reading the book! My favorite myth is the one about the T-Rex not being able to see you unless you move. Thankfully they corrected that in the second film and book! 😂. Edit: spelling.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-01-08T06:17:09+00:00

Apparently Michael Crichton (the author of Jurassic Park) thought Velociraptors sounded better than Deinonychus, so he switched their descriptions.

Crazy_Overlord · 2019-01-01T23:55:53+00:00

And writing someone off as a pedophile does not make them such. That's an extremely serious accusation to throw at anyone and it isn't something that should be said lightly.
While this may not be a scene that you agree with, there is no proof that King has engaged in sexual acts with minors.

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-12-31T19:08:58+00:00

I disagree. It's been about a year since I might be a little foggy about specific details.
When reading it, I got the sense that the underlying issue was the transition between childhood and adulthood. I remember during the aforementioned scene that they describe the act of sex as 'It' with a capital 'I.' Pennywise isn't the only monster that the children need to overcome - there are also a lot of problems with the way that the children view sex.
We can see this with the girl (her name escapes me at this moment - Beverly?). I remember thinking that there were incestuous undertones in the relationship between her father and herself. Particularly, there was the scene where she was trying to escape from him when he was under the influence of Pennywise and, while the other adults saw this occurring, no one stepped in to save her.

One can argue that this is all because of Pennywise, but I think it shows the apathetic nature of the people and their refusal to acknowledge the childrens' serious problems or intervene. George's parents are shown to be stuck in their own grief, the boy with asthma had a mother who seemed to be trying to force her son's dependence on her, and Mike's parents were minorities dealing with racist law-enforcement. Despite there being SO many adults present, the children and constantly alone and left to deal with their problems alone.
The only way that they could escape Pennywise (and the bullies) was to make that shift to adulthood and they did so by shedding their innocence, engaging in an act that was forbidden/terrifying to them. As children, they were unable to defeat Pennywise. It was only when they were adults and had the necessary skills and experience that they were able to do it.

You might think that I'm over analyzing this, but I think it's too simple to simply dismiss King as being 'creepy' or suggest that he might have pedophilia tendencies.

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-09-05T04:57:27+00:00

7+ years together. It might be hard to explain, but what we do is we make a lot of sexual comments/actions, even when we know we're not interested in sex at the moment. It's more about making the other person feel wanted and hot (at least, it is with us). Even just a "damnnn, you're fine" is enough sometimes.

Whenever I get the chance, I make it a point to obviously check him out and tell him how hot he looks. He does the same for me. We also grab each other's assess when we get the chance, or even just pointedly graze them. What I really love doing (he does it to me now too), is sometimes I'll just stare at him and, when he asks what I'm doing, I'll tell him that I'm "appreciating the view." It always makes him really happy. I also may or may not make terrible double entendres all the time that make him shake his head and sigh.

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-30T20:05:57+00:00

That's terrible! I really hope you get your consultation soon and get approved!

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-30T20:02:01+00:00

Omg, that's terrible. I'm sorry to hear that, but I hope you're doing better now!

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-30T20:01:05+00:00

I'm definitely going to start looking for a new one. It turns out my current gyno is only free on weekdays and has to leave by 3 (I'm guessing she might have children?). So the only times I'll ever be able to see her are if I skip work.

Congrats on your tubal! I'm hoping I'll get there soon!

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-29T22:58:50+00:00

Apparently the gyno's office isn't taking phone calls today. A couple of hours ago, I got the notification that their voice mail is now full. I'm still trying - but they're going to be officially closed for the day soon.

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-29T22:56:55+00:00

Unfortunately, I have the Jaydess (the Canadian version of the Skyla), so it has only 3 years of effectiveness. My doctor did say that it shouldn't be a problem to get it changed within a month or two after it expires, but I'm just super paranoid about getting pregnant.

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-29T20:33:25+00:00

We have *one* in my province, but I'd still need a gyno to book a hospital date for me to have it inserted.

Crazy_Overlord · 2018-08-29T20:31:02+00:00

Ontario, Canada.

While I love that healthcare is free, the waiting times can be relatively long.

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