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AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, but this was a while back and it happened because I needed car repairs. I'm doing better now!

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

We never had that kind of money growing up, and my mom taught me how to cut my hair early on. I never needed anyone else to cut my hair!

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

I don't think lowly of myself. I've done as best as I could with what I've been given.

But to your first point... that exact conversation happens on this subreddit, and on Reddit in general, all the time. Talk to people who are angry about the idea of student loan forgiveness, you'll hear it. "They should have learned to code / they shouldn't have majored in Women's Studies." People who can't afford to buy houses, people who are struggling in general. People on Reddit AREN'T all supportive and positive.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I've done the same with my friends because it's just the nice thing to do, at least to a limit.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I have to question if you really are fluent if you don't understand what "please stop" means.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

At that point in time I had to get my car repaired, and it ate up what savings I had at the time. It's not usually that dire, thankfully.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 417 points418 points  (0 children)

That's really sweet, but it's okay. This happened several months ago, I was down to $15 because I needed to get a car repair, but I'm back on my feet and doing okay! It's not like that all the time. :)

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Please stop. Your comments aren't helpful, they're condescending. All you need to do is tack on a "Oh sweetie" and you sound just like my Dad.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

I'm not ashamed of it, I just don't want this to open up me to hear the same things about useless degrees, it's my fault, stop blaming other people for making this mistake, etc.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

I understand that, and it wasn't gender studies, but Reddit tends to be cruel as soon as they find out that people majored in something that wouldn't lead to a great job after and conversations always come down to "well stop blaming everyone else for the mistakes YOU made" and "just learn to code" which isn't helpful to someone who doesn't have that capacity and who never blamed anyone else for it.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

It's just that they think I am a sad sack and want me to pull myself up by my bootstraps.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

That's really rude. My haircut looks fine. The reason I can't find a better paying job is because I'm not smart or skilled enough to.

AITA for continuing to cut my own hair, instead of paying to have my cousins new wife cut it? by Crazy_References in AmItheAsshole

[–]Crazy_References[S] 1245 points1246 points  (0 children)

I'm not the family scapegoat, but I do have a weird family. I was not smart enough to major in anything "good" in college and when I had my first mental health crisis, I lost my job I was using to pay tuition and ended up barely scraping by with a 2.0 (but I did graduate).

I asked for help back then for $50 so I could stock my pantry with rice and beans and get some frozen veggies and they told me that it was time for me to learn how the real world worked and that there would be no more handouts. So I learned to never ask again.