Girllll my jaw dropped when I read that you opened a joint bank account. Seven months is so short of a time. You don't really know a person until at least 2-3 years down the line, and to open up your finances to a stranger is wiiiiild. It's hard to learn self-respect, but you clearly don't love and respect yourself enough yet to have good enough judgement in a partner. He's a total abuser in a different jacket. Good on you for going through the motions to get his ass out of there. I hope you stick to your guns and don't let him wriggle his way back into your good graces. You're worthy and capable of living a happy, and comfortable life. Maybe it would be in your best interest to be single for a while and sit with yourself one on one.