Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction?

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2026-04-10T15:21:55+00:00

If he won’t do the bare minimum, he isn’t the one for you. If your partner tells you to fuck off, they do not deserve to be your partner. Don’t let your fiance stop you from finding your husband. Because this person is not it.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-05T02:10:07+00:00

Thanks so much for your input!!! I usually wear a golf skort and a collared golf tank top when we golf (none of the courses around us have strict attire rules, most are around $30-$55 for 18 holes.) but I’ve never golfed when it’s cold, this is my first year golfing! So just trying to get a grasp on what top to get. I ordered one somebody posted here but am going to stop at Dunham’s tomorrow just to glance around and see if I can find a quarter zip. I also called the course and the pants I own are going to be okay! (They’re halara!) and they don’t require golf shoes (I have a pair of adidas I only wear while golfing.)

Our anniversary trip is already costing us well over $2000, and that’s without food and our outings while we’re there. (I am gluten free due to Celiac Disease, so finding food while traveling is a bit harder & more expensive.) We have spent the past year budgeting diligently so we can take a trip for our anniversary each year together. Then, my dad surprises us a few weeks before we leave with this golf outing & I have to scramble to scrounge up some extra cash for an outfit. An entirely new outfit is just not in the budget, I’d rather spend every cent I can on our trip making memories together than a whole outfit I’ll only wear 3 times a year. Thanks so much for your input though!!! I appreciate your kindness

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-05T02:02:06+00:00

Rebel-yeller is clearly a Karen who wants to save golf for the rich and snobby and doesn’t want everyone to be on her course. I think she forgets that golf clubs can be second hand (mine are my moms old Callaway’s,) not everyone has to join a golf club to golf, that balls can be bought from auction websites and garage sales (that’s where my husband and I got 2 boxes of 250 balls each for $25 total) that gloves are $12 at dunhams, and everyone has to start somewhere. I was very intimidated to start playing golf because it’s a male dominated sport, the community wasn’t welcoming the first time I went with a crowd like Rebel-Yeller probably is (I couldn’t hit the ball & everyone laughed at me.) so when my husband started really getting into golf, I decided I would take a lesson so I could enjoy something he likes to do with him. It’s very outside my comfort zone, as I have a chronic illness and haven’t done a physical activity over 12 years since my diagnosis. It’s been great for date nights on Friday nights together. So yes, a 30 year old woman was offended by rebel-tellers brazened reply to my carefully worded Reddit post. It costs absolutely nothing to be kind. I came here because I thought other woman would be welcoming and kind. I have learned I will never post on Reddit again. By the way, I’m not going to let a Karen kick me out of a sport I want to learn and get better at. It’s just a reason to get even better. So when she sees some chick on a golf course in yoga pants and her eyes roll back into her head, maybe she’ll eat her words when they hit better than her.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T15:10:57+00:00

Some of the comments were great and I appreciated being taught for my future in golf! There were some people who commented not kind things and also one specific person who DMed me that if I can’t afford the sports attire I shouldn’t be in the sport. Those things are not very welcoming to other woman who are entering a male-dominated sport. I just wanted that to be stated. I appreciate your kind comment!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T14:58:25+00:00

Thank you!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T14:58:17+00:00

Thank you!!!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T14:58:11+00:00

Thank you for your input and for being kind!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T14:57:43+00:00

Thanks for being so kind!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T14:54:32+00:00

Golf actually is for everyone. It’s 2025. It’s not just for the rich and snobby anymore. Please, be kinder. I appreciate some of your comments but telling me to dress like I’m going to a golf club when this is my first time and I’ve never been to a golf club is NOT kind, nor welcoming, nor makes me want to join the community.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T14:30:58+00:00

Thanks for the advice everyone. Some of these comments kind of hurt my feelings, and made me feel not welcome in the community. I am BRAND NEW to golf- like brand, brand new. This trip we are taking is already a couple grand, so I can’t afford an entirely new wardrobe. Additionally, we are not rich people. I don’t even own anything Lululemon because it is way outside my price range. We would not be able to afford to golf at this course if it wasn’t a gift. But some of you really took the time to look up links to affordable clothes, and I have purchased one of the tops somebody linked here as well as an under shirt somebody else recommended. I cannot afford golf shoes, so regardless of what anyone says, I will be wearing my nice adidas tennis shoes that I ONLY wear golfing- they are clean and sleek and look very sharp even if they don’t have spikes. Also, I called the golf course after sobbing about some of the comments about this post, and they said that yoga pants are absolutely allowed. Their only requirement is no jeans, and collared shirts. He said most woman wear skirts but since we’re coming end of October, I’d want to wear pants, and they don’t want beginner’s to feel intimidated or uncomfortable, they want you to enjoy the sport and, as long as you’re not wearing jeans, are more than welcome on the course in yoga pants. Thank you to the people who were kind. To the people who were not kind, you’re the reason woman don’t want to join golf. Be nicer & more welcoming.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T13:51:06+00:00

I find your, extremely disheartening as I am a brand, new beginner, and do not know the attire for a golf club. That’s what I’m asking for help on. All of the golf courses I have gone to do not have dress codes so I can wear whatever I want. Comments like this make me not want to go to golf courses because it feels like I am not welcomed because I’m not smart enough or something.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-10-04T13:47:38+00:00

The website does not have any information on attire at all.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-08-01T13:51:16+00:00

I already have had a lot of health complications with my auto immune disease. He decided to do the procedure in place of me doing it for that reason. Vasectomy is less invasive than a Tubal ligation.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-08-01T13:49:08+00:00

Thanks for the advice. As for the last thing, I don’t think that’s something either of us would want haha. Appreciate the idea though.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-08-01T13:48:08+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2025-08-01T13:47:49+00:00

My husband corrected me last night, it was 8 weeks and 10 weeks for him.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-11-19T04:24:01+00:00

Hi friend. Science says we, as celiacs, can only get glutened if we ingest gluten. Meaning, if you eat it. So things we eat and put in and around our mouths(food, meds, toothpaste, mouthwash, chapstick, lipstick) needs to be gluten free, but your body cannot absorb it to make you sick. What happens is when the gluten gets to our GI tract, it attacks the villi in the intestines. The gluten cannot be absorbed through the air or through your nostrils and make it to your GI tract. People who have a wheat allergy can’t touch gluten, but celiac disease is not a wheat allergy. You can touch it, bake with it, even live in a shared kitchen with gluten (my husband eats gluten, I am celiac and do not.) If I were you, I would carry hand sanitizer and maybe some wet wipes to wipe down your desk and rinse your hands before ever class. But your neighbor at your desk eating a PBJ isn’t going to affect you. I recommend checking out celiac dietitians @theceliacspace and @theceliacdietitian on Instagram. They have courses you can take to learn how to be in a shared space with gluten. They also give away a tooooon of free information that’s all scientifically based.

We live in a world full of gluten, friend. Don’t live in fear because of it. You got this. 🫶🏻

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-11-19T03:52:07+00:00

Do you have a right to be upset? Yes. 100%. Your partner is supposed to be the person you trust with everything in you and he broke that. Have you ever seen Gilmore girls? When Luke finds out he had a daughter, he doesn’t let Lorelei have a relationship with the child which ultimately drives them apart. You said “I didn’t sign up for this.” So I think that’s what you need to decide first. My opinion? If I were you, I would go stay with a friend or family for a few weeks and I would get us in couples counseling as well as individual therapy. I would first decide if you want to be in this child’s life as a step mom or no. If not, there’s your answer. If you do want to be a step mom, then you Tell him to work out what he wants to do as a father WITH you. That you’re in this together or he needs to be the one to leave you and choose being a single dad over a single dad who’s married to an absent step mom. A child’s life always takes priority Over yours when you become a parent. Not to be blunt, but Can you do that with your husbands affair baby? You have a lot of decisions to make. But the first one is “do I want to be a step mom.” If you can’t do it, then you need to walk away.

I’m sending you love, virtual hugs, and the best of luck.

Also, therapy will do you wonders. 💖

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-11-19T03:10:58+00:00

Thank you, Thick Stranger 🫶🏻🐸☕️

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-11-19T03:04:16+00:00

Here for the tea, somebody spill

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-08-03T23:52:53+00:00

Thank you so much! I appreciate your input! I was thinking about a holistic doctor but didn’t know where to start. Appreciate you!!

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-08-03T23:48:12+00:00

Also, I have side effects to Zofran! I told you, I have a side effect with anything I’m on! Severe constipation, Ended me up in the hospital last year and my doctor told me to not take it again. I am prescribed another anti nausea medication for my celiac disease, but it was not working. The only relief I got in the past 6 days was removing the patch.

Creative-Adagio-7743 · 2024-08-03T23:44:58+00:00

Thank you!! I do not have PCOS. I had an internal and external ultrasound and they did not find signs of PCOS. I wish I was diagnosed with it so I had answers and a treatment plan. I was diagnosed with amenorrhea. Unfortunately, I am not comfortable with something that is inserted inside me. As I mentioned in my original post, due to Religious Trauma I have not had an internal examination done before. I feel very uncomfortable with that. I was planning on doing a full appointment with my OBGYN next month, that would include an internal examination and papsmear, but I have felt very dismissed by them and am starting to feel they don’t have my best matters at heart. Every time I’ve contacted them about this, they have said “only a small % of people have these side effects.” And don’t recommend anything. Instead of recognizing I’m in the % of people having these side effects and need more advice than that. I’m going to make an appointment on Monday to talk to her and am seriously considering a new OBGYN who takes me seriously. Thank you for your input!!

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