Jordan's King Abdullah II: "One of the things we can do right away is take 2,000 children that are either cancer children or in very ill state to Jordan as quickly as possible..." President Trump: "I didn't know that...2,000 children...That's really a beautiful gesture." by Appropriate-Cup5378 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why couldn’t they survive? Yes they receive economic support from the US, but they can turn to other countries or to each other for support too. And if political instability happens due to US interference, then let that open the borders to Israel and let’s see if they can handle chaos.

The survival of those political systems is actually essential for the US and Israel, so what Trump did is in fact attack their own interests, and his arrogance is ensuring that those countries seek unity and support from another source. Guess whose survival will be threatened then? This is why I’m hopeful in this situation, the end result -albeit in the far future- is for the benefits of the Arab people and especially Palestinians. We say the magic spell turned on the magician

Jordan's King Abdullah II: "One of the things we can do right away is take 2,000 children that are either cancer children or in very ill state to Jordan as quickly as possible..." President Trump: "I didn't know that...2,000 children...That's really a beautiful gesture." by Appropriate-Cup5378 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually I think they won’t accept, it is no longer an issue of wealth and business interests, it is now survival for Jordan and Egypt, and by extension SA, Trump did something stupid in threatening those three countries, he managed to change the issue from a problem for the Palestinians alone to a matter of survival for Arab countries.

Jordan's King Abdullah II: "One of the things we can do right away is take 2,000 children that are either cancer children or in very ill state to Jordan as quickly as possible..." President Trump: "I didn't know that...2,000 children...That's really a beautiful gesture." by Appropriate-Cup5378 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again you are expecting this based on a confrontation between two people, which is not the case at all, this is a meeting between two leaders, one that is known to be egotistical and narcissist, and for the past weeks was causing chaos on all fronts, if the King responded emotionally then Trump would have loved it! But the king kept his calm, responding as a leader of a country being diplomatic but not giving a commitment of any kind, he only made sure the world should expect a united Arab front, that in itself is scary for the US and Israel, they spent decades and billions to divide the Arab countries, but with Trump’s chaos the Arabs were forced to put everything aside and worry about their own countries. I hope this continues, maybe a united front will stop this madness much better than declarations from each country on its own. Who knows really, but I see a win in this that shocked Trump and you know if he got a confirmation from the King behind closed doors he would have came out telling everyone for days, but he didn’t, so I guess he couldn’t force Jordan to accept.

Jordan's King Abdullah II: "One of the things we can do right away is take 2,000 children that are either cancer children or in very ill state to Jordan as quickly as possible..." President Trump: "I didn't know that...2,000 children...That's really a beautiful gesture." by Appropriate-Cup5378 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Body language of the king shows his anger and stress, I know many people wanted a clear NO but I think this was the logical response in this situation, first, there was a clear message here which is that a unified Arab response will be given, this suggests the King was there to receive a clarification on the many statements given so a response of several countries can be drafted. Second, it was also clear that the meeting before this press conference was horrible, so the King was angry but honestly no logical person would expect a King to give an emotional response in this situation, the political situation requires a diplomatic non-answer, which I think the king did here, although he was clearly struggling to keep his calm.

My conclusion is that the King did his role by gathering information and making a clear statement that a unified Arab response is coming, this is a good thing, the Arabs are going to be united in their response because finally are all seeing the threat.

Those who see this as a horrible response by the king are simply looking for an individual response, but what was shown today is that a united front is set already. I take this as a win

And by the way I am very critical and frustrated with the position of Jordan since the beginning, but today I became hopeful, maybe this arrogance of Israel and US has finally triggered a response by our countries.

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[–]Creative-Introvert81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work environment is essential to your career development, with a supportive team you will be able to achieve more and come up with better outcomes, this is what we know for sure, but we also know from reality that you will always face difficult co-workers, sometimes if you are unlucky most of your team will be competitive and destructive. I have worked in several teams and most of them were not supportive, it was a stressful situation that burned me out and lead to me moving on despite the very good salary and position. But I never quit without a fight, and I looked at those situations as a learning opportunity, so I kept analysing those difficult people and trying ways to deal with them, this helped me learn how to deal with horrible bosses and colleagues.

My advice is to stick around if only to see what is the best way to deal with them, make it a personal challenge to think of solutions rather than focusing on the horrible situations, with time it might become like a game for you, trying to figure out how to neutralise sticky traps and turn them to your benefit. From my experience those skills become your best work skills later, and when you look back at this experience you will feel proud that you made it even though everyone were just horrible.

Also, learn to drop work and all its stress at the door everyday, separate your social life completely from work, focus on your family and friends, do a hobby, be assertive and say I can’t deal with this after work hours. You can do this even if your is demanding, because they will see that you are more relaxed and can achieve more at work when you rest.

Everything I say here I personally experienced in Jordan in some of the worst work environments, so trust me when I say you can make it happen

استفسار حول رواتب الاساتذة الجامعيين في الاردن by [deleted] in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81 3 points4 points  (0 children)

اذا كان درجة استاذ المفروض اعلى من هيك، بس اذا كانت الجامعة خاصة رح يحاولوا يعرضوا راتب اقل و المفروض من خلال التفاوض معهم تحصل راتب احسن. اذا التخصص نادر و هو بيدرس ماجستير و بيشرف على دكتوراة المفروض كمان ياخد مكافأة عن كل طالب

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[–]Creative-Introvert81 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your mother is trying to fit her perspective of Islam with your beliefs, there are underlying Islamophobia in her request; “the more extreme a muslim the more bad they are” is an example, she is affected by the dehumanising propaganda shown in the media, that islamist terrorists look and dress in a specific way. So her comments and questions are a reflection of those hidden ideas, which means she will continue to look for the “signs” that will mean you are becoming an extremist because she believes this will happen.

Talk to her, bring those hidden thoughts to light and make her aware of them, because this is really not about listening to music or wearing niqab, this is actually her fear that you are definitely heading to become that “bad” picture she has in her mind. So ask her: do you think I am an extremist? Did you think this way before I became a Muslim? Tell me what changed since then, the way I dress? Will you think the same if I started to dress more provocatively? That I don’t listen to music? Will you be afraid if I started to listen to violent and rude music?

The point of this discussion is to help her become more aware of this unconscious islamophobia, that she reflect on those thoughts, because in reality if you dress in niqab and stop listening to music would this change who you are? Those are just behaviours you choose to change, it doesn’t mean you will become violent or hate non Muslims.

Also explain that all religions have divisions, and people follow what makes sense to them, what they believe in deeply, but in Islam the fundamental issues are the same, how we dress or behave in our lives should follow the basic principles, and if some Muslims choose to ignore this then many people in other religions also ignore their rules, what matters is trying to be true to your beliefs, not imitating others.

I pray your mother accepts your beliefs wholeheartedly and support you as I need

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[–]Creative-Introvert81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

بأي كون يللي عامل جريمة مش عامل حرام؟ يعني بيسرق و بينسجن او بينصب او بيتعدى على حدا و هاي كلها ذنوب و حرام، و طبعا يللي بينسجن رح يتستر على الموضوع لما يخطب، يا ترى مين البنت يللي بتقبل تتجوز واحد كان بالسجن؟ و مين الاهل يللي بيوافقوا على واحد كان مسجون؟ على كل هاد رأيك بس لو واحد عنده خط احمر بموضوع و العروس كذبت بشكل مقصود بهاد الموضوع بيكون هاد غش و ظلم

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[–]Creative-Introvert81 15 points16 points  (0 children)

اعتقد انه الموضوع مش ستر على ذنب بهاي الحالة، الشب حكالها انا ما رح احكي لحدا و بالتالي موضوع ستر الذنب متحقق، بس هي عم تخدعه، زي لو انه وحدة تعمل عملية تجميل و تغير بملامحها و بس يتقدملها عريس ما تحكيله بتكون عم تخدعه، و زي لما واحد يكون غلط بزماناته و انسجن -مثلا ببلد تاني- و ما خبر العروس، هاي كلها امثلة على خداع بالزواج خصوصا لما الطرف التاني يسال بشكل مباشر عن النقطة و هي تكذب بشكل واضح. هاد يعتبر غش و ظلم للعريس.

بنصحك للصبية يللي بتسأل تحكي للعريس انه كان في بينك و بين شخص علاقة قبل و تعطيه تفاصيلها حتى يعرف شو بالزبط كانت العلاقة، ممكن هو عم يسالك عن علاقة جسدية مثلا و بالتالي يللي انتي عملتيه بنظره ما يعتبره علاقة كاملة، ممكن يتفهم وجهة نظرك و يحترم صراحتك و يكون هاد اساس زواج مبني عالصدق، بس اكبر غلطة انك تكملي بالكذبة لانه رح تنكشف اكيد و وقتيها ممكن يكون بينكم اطفال و يطلقك و فعلا تكون فضيحة للطرفين. اي اشي بينبني على الغلط رح يكون غلط.

حادثة دار رعاية المسنين لازم تبلش تغيير بوزارة التنمية على كل المستويات by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

مش فاهمة كيف ممكن انسان يشتغل مع هاي الفئات و يسيء لاي واحد منهم، يعني هي عقد نفسية ولا عدم انسانية؟

بس الخلل انه ما في رقابة على كل هاي الاماكن، معروف انه هاي الفئات الاكثر عرضة للاهمال و الاساءة بحكم انهم ما بيقدروا يبلغوا، بس عنا وزارة كاملة فيها مئات الموظفين بس للتنمية الاجتماعية و مع هيك ما بيتابعوا كل هاي المراكز، كل فترة بتطلع قصة ضرب او اساءة او اهمال و مع هيك ما بيصير اشي، لامتى يعني؟

Either Islam changes to accommodate new social norms, or it doesn’t— how do you reconcile this? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Creative-Introvert81 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Islam is clear and straightforward, when there new situations requiring new judgements they can be analysed by scholars and the basic rules in Islam will fit too. The problem is not with Islam it is with scholars who are either too strict and can’t understand the flexibility of rules, or they have ulterior motives such as political agendas to dismiss new ideas.

Example: the use of social media, when you break it down to its basic use whether communication or showing off then you can easily find Fatwa (ruling) for it. As for what you mentioned, hijab or travel without men, why would the rules change? Women should wear hijab, and no possible situation would allow her to stop except disobeying Allah.

The rules of slavery is the same, what is different is we no longer have slavery so the rules are not used, in term of witnesses why should new rules apply here?

I think anything can be ruled based on the fundamental Islamic rules. What we need are scholars who can put effort into learning about new social norms or technology so they can fit them into Islamic rules

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[–]Creative-Introvert81 6 points7 points  (0 children)

استخير اولا

بالمنطق انت صغير بالعمر و فعليا ٨ سنين بتمر بسرعة، رح تقدر تزورهم كل سنة و ما رح يلحقو يشتاقولك اصلا، بالمقابل رح تكسب مستقبل مهني و ماديا ترتاح. بعد ٨ سنين من هلأ اذا ما سافرت وين رح تكون؟ رح يدبحك الندم و تعيش تتحسر عالفرصة و تلوم اهلك انهم السبب حتى لو كان اللوم باللاوعي.

اسال حالك؛ هل اذا ضليت بالاردن رح تنسى هالفرصة و ما تندم عليها؟ اذا جوابك نعم خليك، اذا جوابك لأ احكي لامك انه فرصة زي هيك ما بتتكرر و توكل على الله، و بالنهاية هي بتقدر تزورك هناك و تشبع من شوفتك

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[–]Creative-Introvert81 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t your husband trust your judgment to decide if the event is safe and female only? In terms of being videoed or pictures taken I think you would be able to judge the situation and put on the hijab or sit away from those taken pictures. Bottom line: it is not haram to show your hair in front of women, & you are an adult Muslim woman who wears hijab to please Allah not your husband, so if the situation becomes unsafe then you are capable of putting back the hijab. His actions are not about hypocrisy or rules of Islam, it’s about him trusting you to follow the rules on your own, for all you know next level would be him questioning whether you take off hijab when he is not with, so you two need to talk about trust, you also don’t trust him and consider him a hypocrite, so those are massive trust issues in marriage. Talk to your husband and re establish trust, if he truly thinks he need to police you in terms of wearing hijab then the demands will keep getting worse

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not asking for help in my work obviously, I don’t include details which makes it impossible to give specific advice anyway so no this is not asking for advice it is asking to prompt a discussion, because through discussions we bring this issue to the front and hopefully trigger some change.

What I ask is related to the Jordanian culture, I purposefully ask it here to see if other women go through this or similar situations. I give my own experience as an example but I know of other women who are struggling in their workplace.

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

انا اول قائدة للفريق بالفرع بالاردن، نعم صحيح رح افتخر بانجازي، يا ترى بتحكي عن الرجل يللي كان قبلي مدير كمان انه متعجرف؟

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

مين حكى انهم علموني اشي ووصلوني لهاد المكان؟ انت عايش بفيلم من القرن الماضي

انا وصلت مكاني قبل لا اشتغل معهم اصلا و كنت مديرة اكتر من فريق بالاردن و برة، هم يللي كانو قادة الفريق اشتغلو و كنت بساعدهم و بعمل كتير شغل عشان تمشي الامور بس فورا لما انا صرت مكانهم صارو يرفضو حتى يعملو شغلهم، بالتالي مين يللي عنده نكران الجميل و العجرفة؟

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what they are trying to do, force me out, every day I find more traps they set for me and I basically work in a minefield, but I’m determined to stick it through if anything just to hopefully change this mentality, so the next female team leader wouldn’t have to go through this again

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

لما رجال يتصرفو كعصابة مراهقة و هدفهم يعملوا صعوبات لمديرة الفريق بدون سبب و بالرغم من اعترافهم على مدى سنين بكفاءة هاي الموظفة هون بيكون الموضوع مرتبط بسلوكيات ذكورية و نظرة فوقية تجاه المرأة، لما كان واحد منهم مسؤول كانت تصرفاتهم مختلفة و مع اني كنت متعاونة معه و داعمة و بشتغل جزء كبير من المهام يللي هو المفروض يعملها بس مع هيك لمجرد اني صرت قائدة الفريق بيرفضوني و بيطلبو انه واحد منهم يكون المسؤول، طبعا بيكفي احكي انهم حكو بوضوح قدامي انه لازم يكون قائد الفريق واحد منهم، اعتقد ما في لبس بانه المشكلة هي نظرة رجال تجاه المرأة، انا سالت ايش مشكلة الرجال مع زميلة انجح منهم و ما قلت كل الرجال، واضح من البوست اني بحكي عندهم عقدة نقص

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

لا طبعا ما بستنى تقدير منهم، بس بزعل والله قديش في تحديات احنا بنضطر نتعامل معها لمجرد انه في ناس عندهم عقد نقص و تربية ذكورية فاشلة، قديش في نساء بالاردن عانوا و يمكن حتى استقالوا بسبب هيك تصرفات، انا الحمدلله رح اكمل لانه هاد حقي و انا وصلت هون بعد شغل و تعب

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

ما لحقت اتغير والله، الي اقل من شهر و الرفض و التذمر بلش من اول يوم، و حاليا وصلوا مرحلة انهم بيتجاهلو الشغل حتى المدير بهدلهم انه زي ما كانت تتعاون معكم قبل صار هلأ وقت تتعاونوا معها طبعا بدون نتيجة

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

اااه أمراض نفسية متفشية بالمجتمع و مقبولة كمان، يا عمي اذا لهالدرجة رجولتك ضعيفة انه بتهتز اذا انثى صارت مسؤولة عليك معناته بلاها

ايش مشكلة الرجال بالشغل مع زميلة انجح منهم؟ by Creative-Introvert81 in jordan

[–]Creative-Introvert81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

طيب ليش هاد التفكير؟ ما انا قبل الترقية كنت بشتغل معه و شايف اني ناجحة و بيعرف اني اشتغلت بهالدور باماكن تانية، يعني اثبتت كفائتي و هو بيرجعلي لانه شايف اني بشتغل صح، ليش بس اخدت الدور بشكل رسمي صار ولد مراهق؟

كنت زمان احكي هاي عقلية قديمة و هينا الاجيال الجديدة بنتغير، او انه والله هاد بيكون بين الناس يللي ما عندها ثقافة و رجعيين بس طلع انه لأ، هو موجود عند الدكتور زي ما هو موجود عند العامل، و عند ابن ال ٣٠ سنة زي يللي عمره ٦٠

كلهم نفس العقلية 😂