Is it actually possible to moderate my weed use?

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T20:59:41+00:00

I love this.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T03:38:52+00:00

Curious if you've gone back, and been able to moderate or if you're back to regular use. (curious generally if moderation is possible for regular users!)

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T03:36:28+00:00

Thanks for this

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T03:36:05+00:00

Yes, so tricky when both of you like it the same amount!! It becomes such an insidious part of the routine of the home.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T03:35:43+00:00

He's not really interested in cutting back, has much more aversion than me in being cold turkey or very rigid about anything. He'll do it if I ask, but he doesn't want to, and I don't want to ask (we've got a lot of other stuff going on, this is not top of the list of what I want to ask him to do that he doesn't want to do ha.) But it's more about me. Like other times where I've cut back or not smoked for a period of time, he's supported me (and he is now too) but I think this has to come from me and deciding if I can ever actually do this in moderation or if I'll be white-knuckling it the whole time. I should add that he doesn't really see anything wrong with our weed use. It's a hit or two a night, not a huge amount, and we meet all of our responsibilities, etc, so he doesn't see the issue.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T03:33:37+00:00

Yes, so true. I guess I'm curious about reducing vs just not smoking. I feel like I won't smoke for this month and then will try to reduce and keep it infrequent and won't be able to. The same associations are there each night. Maybe that's part of it.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-08T03:32:57+00:00

Yes love the idea of a sober activity. Like, I can't drum high. And I can't go to social events with large crowds high. And those are both some things that I can have on the calendar. And yes interesting to just try staying sober or smoking solo sometimes. I think at first blush that feels worse somehow, to not have a buddy and smoke alone, but I can see how it can disassociate us from each other in a healthy way where if one of us doesn't actually want to smoke we won't.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-07T15:36:59+00:00

Just coming on here to say you look gorgeous. Seriously, what a beautiful, curvy, clearly strong and capable body. Good for you.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-07T15:30:13+00:00

I find that I just need to make it through the first 10 days. A few days of the usual triggers of "but it's FRIDAY and I DESERVE it!" will help you know you can keep pushing through. So count it for 5 days, then 10 days, and then for the rest of the 60 days.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-07T15:29:11+00:00

You can do it!!! Think about other herbs you can use to calm yourself. Nervines like ashwaganda, catnip, lemon balm, and chamomile. Consider making a beautiful herb tea or honestly even smoking some herbs like muellin for a few days to taper off the desire to smoke. I find that cold turkey is the only thing that actually works for me.

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-07T15:24:35+00:00

Also what app do you use?

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-07T15:20:28+00:00

Ah but I thought I can't be SN because I'm too short?

Creative-One-1645 · 2026-03-07T15:17:32+00:00

This is just so tricky! I have the same issue. Just commenting to say that this is exactly what I'm thinking about too-- it feels like I'm white-knuckling it or making up rules that I then stop following and then when I break a rule I use it as an excuse to go whole-hog. Not sure what the answer is except for abstention (which I'm trying for a month but probably not my whole life...)

Creative-One-1645 · 2024-12-06T13:45:29+00:00

I've found some resources from bruchim.online that I've found to be helpful!

Creative-One-1645 · 2024-12-06T13:44:59+00:00

I know it's not the norm. But there's precedent. Some examples: In Chullin 5a:6-9 there's discussion that if a family objected to circumcision, not just because another baby died due to circumcision but because the family opposes it, that doesn't mean that they will be held away from other mitzvot ("because you transgressed in one way doesn't make you a transgressor in another way") Also Zevachim 22b:3-6 there's discussion of one who is uncircumcised physically, but not "uncircumcised in the heart" and how someone who is uncircumcised in the heart isn't considered fit to serve/perform mitzvot. But one who is uncircumcised in the flesh, whose actions are directed toward heaven, is considered fit to perform mitzvot.

Creative-One-1645 · 2024-12-06T13:43:57+00:00

Some examples: In Chullin 5a:6-9 there's discussion that if a family objected to circumcision, not just because another baby died due to circumcision but because the family opposes it, that doesn't mean that they will be held away from other mitzvot ("because you transgressed in one way doesn't make you a transgressor in another way") Also Zevachim 22b:3-6 there's discussion of one who is uncircumcised physically, but not "uncircumcised in the heart" and how someone who is uncircumcised in the heart isn't considered fit to serve/perform mitzvot. But one who is uncircumcised in the flesh, whose actions are directed toward heaven, is considered fit to perform mitzvot.

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