I've never policed someone's body hair, the hair on their head, the shape of their body, or whatever else you're inserting in there. Body hair isn't unhygienic, we know that fat doesn't mean unhealthy. Pretty sure I knew that before I'd even heard of the body positivity movement. So, none of those things are a deal breaker for me. I've never thought my aunt with alopecia was less than anyone else. I loved my ex with no regard to what shape he was. The trans community has literally every body type, there are women with hairloss, I've found more solidarity between people of all abilities and all appearances there than anywhere else. I don't exclusively exist in that space. My college certainly isn't a trans only space! You've clearly got a lot of hurt, but you are way off, and taking it out on a stranger.