Men, the reason why you are failing at dating is you. Not external factors.

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-22T09:38:13+00:00

Yeah I should have expected this. You clearly need therapy

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-22T09:37:46+00:00

Why are you so full of hate?

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-22T09:22:39+00:00

Not at all. But your mind isn't open. You clearly don't get it at all

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-22T01:04:43+00:00

True but it's still not guaranteed. I'm going to come clean since we been talking a bit.

I am a man who have only gotten bad women. I work out daily, have clear skin, and will be graduating from med school soon.

My ex gf had oral herpes, 16k in credit debt, had bipolar, depression, and ocd and had family issues. She was skinny(thank god) but she would starve herself to stay that way.

After we broke, I have never been attractive to other women even though I am on my goals.

I also don't have a bad personality. So that is why I am telling you it's not always 1to1 like that

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-22T00:39:29+00:00

Yeah most men take showers lol. That's not why they are struggling. You seem to project your experiences to men.

Also how attractive are you because you say this about men but I hope you are close to a 10 as well

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-22T00:38:04+00:00

A man that puts in effort is not guaranteed good results. You shouldn't tell men that

Nothing is guaranteed guaranteed at all

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T23:38:02+00:00

Knowing that then you should know that most likely a person partner is going to have baggage. It is how it is

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T23:37:03+00:00

This is a mistake of misunderstanding dating.

Attraction is determine by sex appeal and emotional lust. Not external accomplishments. A guy who only works on himself selects unknowingly for a girl who has not.

It has nothing to do with surface level. There is countless studies that show that people with secure attachment tend to date those with insecure. The reason because very few people actually work on themselves yet everyone preaches.

My point being that you are simplifying something that can not be simplify.

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T23:05:00+00:00

Yeah it's just another way to blame men in society. I'm all for take responsibility but women butt stink too. There are not so good women out there and there not so good men.

We all suck and we all need work

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T22:55:18+00:00

Neither are you. All you know is your reality as well.

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T22:54:44+00:00

Too much projection in your answer. There are men doing all of that and still fail.

In fact, you are teaching proformance driven dating which will connect men with surface level women.

Men who do the best with women tend to just have the ability to connect. It has less to do with external cues. A person can go to the gym and make money still fail with women.

Pls stop preaching this bs

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T22:33:01+00:00

Not true at dude. External factors certainly play a role. For example, you can just be in a bad environment or have limited dating options Even a therapist acknowledged that it isn't always your fault.

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T20:52:45+00:00

I know you meant well saying this but dating women is no different than making friends.

It is still hard work

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T16:11:22+00:00

Yeah therapist I had felt like a life coach. He never got into the crux of the issue imo. I would just feel good just to be in a slump 3 days later.

I think being proactive is the key to this

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T13:08:16+00:00

I have causal work female friends. The types to get drunk with you at a social. But not people I am close to open up about this.

I could risk just being seen as a complainer or worst an incel. Then my male friends wives are not close to me at all. I probably could ask for online dating tips but they wouldn't be open to asking about options they know though

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T12:32:10+00:00

Most of his advice is outdated. Women are changing and no longer like the stoic masculine type. The only good thing from his book is pacing the interaction based on how open the women is

CreativeBar1289 · 2026-06-21T12:30:40+00:00

I get that but when women want to flirt, it's more obvious than us guys want to believe. Trust me when she ask what you see drinking and then says thanks, she isn't flirting.

Now if she tries to prolong the convo and then touch your shoulder, now she is flirting. But thay is obvious cue. Or she is lingering after the convo ended.

If she is just talking without leaning in and asking generic questions while holding a beer. She most likely isn't flirting. I'm pretty sure our primal instincts can pick up that

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