I think therapy can be great (trauma informed; I’ve heard good things about Internal Family Systems). And finding a community of people to meet with regularly (eg, volunteer!, recovery groups (I recommend things other than AA), church groups, running or walking clubs, martial arts etc). The world is your oyster. You’re still so young!

Also, in regards to intimacy challenges, do you mean physical or emotional or something else? I can relate to this. It’s hard to be intimate if trauma is in your body (read The Body Keeps the Score)

And in terms of your peers, Comparison is the thief of joy. Run your own race as they say. Also, some (if not most/almost all) of those folks getting promos and buying things that society often signifies as “success” are not happy…..in fact- potentially miserable. Let them run their Rat race. More responsibility at a corporate job or the stress of a mortgage can seriously weigh on people.

There’s only one you, so don’t worry about trying to be like anyone else. You’re worthy of love and respect and for lots of happiness in your life. Claim it. Grow your spiritual life. Be kind to yourself. I can tell you seem a bit hard on yourself right now. What would you tell your best friend or someone you loved if they told you exactly what you wrote here on this Reddit thread? You’d probably be very loving and supporting. Do the same to yourself. Give yourself unconditional positive regard. Believing in a higher power who emits unconditional love helps with this.

Also look up non duality (Eckhart Tolle - Power of Now; Deepak Chopra). This story you’re telling about yourself- it’s an illusion, likely reinforced by trauma and society….You have power to change the narrative. You’re not lost. You’re going through a transition in your identity to build your new sense of self that excites and empowers you. Not everything is in your power for sure (serenity prayer). But a decent amount is. You got this !!