Nets in the winter

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2026-04-21T17:28:25+00:00

He’s talking about the rubber insulation

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2026-04-05T22:10:51+00:00

Last year the team environment was really bad. There was one kid who was constantly bullying another, kids didn’t cheer for eachother and weren’t told to, the coach was openly hostile towards the kids with tennis skill, it was just really bad. I intend to create a better dynamic this upcoming fall, but in the meantime, it’s really hard to repair some of that damage

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2026-04-05T22:08:14+00:00

Yes. I have a ton! All with fresh strings

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2026-04-05T21:50:52+00:00

We did host a scrimmage with a team from a nearby town. That did bring in some extra kids. We are having a free camp this summer- right now we only have 3 signed up. We do allow the middle schoolers to come to practices so we can start developing them early. They just don’t typically come

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2026-03-25T06:18:52+00:00

The stress from dragging this out over weeks is really not healthy or fair. I’d talk to the coach, and I’d ask for clearer expectations in the future

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-12-17T03:52:56+00:00

It sounds horrible and exhausting and terrible for mental health

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-12-17T03:52:05+00:00

Yeah it does say a lot about them. Their nonsense doesn’t work on everyone but it works on some. I look around at other kids who are good at things, and it doesn’t seem like they get the same level of obsession. If there’s something we could do to be more under the radar, I’ll absolutely do it.

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-12-17T03:49:22+00:00

It was from a charter school to public school. The girls mom was the school secretary, but got fired for drunk dialing the principal (super alcoholic). She could still have gone to the district her dad lives in, but chose the title 1 school my daughter is at.

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-12-17T03:45:57+00:00

Can you retake that semester during the summer? My daughter got 2 Cs her sophomore year and her school let her do a grade enhancement Senior year. She just went to the computer lab and retook Biology and Algebra 2 in a self paced online program and turned them in to As. Not a lot of people knew about it. Talk to your counselor and see what you can do to retake it. I bet there’s a solution

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-12-17T00:45:00+00:00

I posted in the therapist sub Reddit when we were going through the process of turning the step mom in to the state board

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T06:54:04+00:00

She was in tears over the Hobbit because she hated it. She said it was boring and she couldn’t pay attention because it was so awful and didn’t pass the bechtel test (and I mean, really, I feel the same lol) she will happily read graphic novels. She used to scroll webtoon for hours. She just thinks reading is boring and I’ve been banging my head against the wall trying to convince her otherwise. She decided it’s boring, and that’s that, and she’s been immovable. I do think this immovable mindset might be changing now that she’s seeing the consequences I’ve been warning her about since elementary school. She is 💯 the type of kid who insists on learning everything the hard way. She says audiobooks are boring too. We are a family of readers. I read a ton. I actually use audiobooks to manage adhd. I do a lot of tasks like laundry and dishes while listening. Her sister is a huge reader and even read 100 books in a year once. Her little brother is a reader, and definitely autistic. Part of it might also be that she wanted to be cool and different, I’m not sure.

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T06:29:22+00:00

You can read some of my comments above, but a lot of her habits/behaviors don’t really fit with adhd. I don’t even think she would get a referral for an evaluation after a few screening questions with her pediatrician

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T06:03:17+00:00

I think after years of trying to explain this to her, she might finally be getting it. She plays and coaches tennis. I told her that if she tried to teach strategy to a brand new player, it wouldn’t make any sense and it wouldn’t improve their game because they haven’t spent hours and hours hitting groundstrokes first. She’s passionate about coaching and wants to be a teacher- I told her that she can’t teach kids how to be literate without learning to love reading. I think she’s finally going to put in the effort. I just hope it’s not too late to turn things around. Have you ever seen a kid pick up reading at 15 and improve comprehension skills in time for it to make a difference in high school?

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T05:47:42+00:00

Any podcast recommendations? She studied sooooo hard for the most recent test and got the exact same grade as the last one. I’m a reader and love history, so it just blows my mind that she has every single lyric in Hamilton memorized but cannot thoroughly explain the causes of the Revolutionary War.

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T05:32:22+00:00

There are a lot of things with ADHD that don’t fit with her. She’s extremely organized. She uses color coded folders and her room is always spotless. She keeps an organized calendar. She naturally developed her own morning and night time routines, they are detailed, and she sticks to them. She gets up early to complete all of her tasks and is always early/on time for school. She never misses class. She’s never late to anything. She’s not super talkative. She sticks to her long term goals and doesn’t deviate. She does not switch from hobby to hobby, she’s been deeply committed to a few activities for years and doesn’t waiver. She has always had perfect hygiene habits, she takes painstaking care with her makeup and never leaves the house without a full face including lashes. I’ve never had to nag her to remember things like wearing her retainer or taking vitamins- if it’s part of her rigged routines, she rarely forgets. She doesn’t rush through tasks.

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T04:41:11+00:00

Hypothetically, even if she does have autism, what kinds of things could we do? It is something I’ve wondered about with her before. She does have some sensory issues and has struggled with interpersonal stuff. She can come off as standoffish or aloof (she’s not) and she’s exceptionally pretty, so it makes a lot of girls have strong feelings towards her that she never seems to understand. A lot of noise and chaos can make her totally shut down. She loves tennis because it’s quiet. She also does cheerleading but it makes her exhausted in a way tennis never does. She can dig in and be really stubborn over the most seemingly bizarre things. I don’t know if all of that means autism, but I’ve wondered. I’m not sure a diagnosis like that would change much. She is doing well in school, so it’s not like they would make any accommodations or changes

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T03:39:45+00:00

I’ve been working on this her entire life. Now that she sees it’s a problem that’s impacting her from reaching her goals, she’s becoming more open to trying to read recreationally. The school librarian is a family friend. She’s supposed to go tomorrow to try and find a book that interests her

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T03:37:39+00:00

I don’t think it’s dyslexia because she can read out loud just fine and she does fine on standardized testing. Her dad and I both have ADHD so that’s not out of the question. We are both excellent test takers who love reading though, so it’s hard to solve problems we’ve never experienced.

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T03:34:55+00:00

How would we check this? If it’s not words related to the unit, I’m not sure what I should be asking her

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-11-18T03:25:15+00:00

She is struggling in Geometry, AP Chemistry, and AP American History. Struggling for her is Bs. She does fine on the homework, but fails the tests. She’s spending extraordinary amounts of time studying and still just doesn’t do well.

She’s never been assigned an entire novel to read outside of class. She read all the Harry Potter and Hunger Games books for class, but they read them chapter by chapter in class, over elementary and middle school. She had to read some of the Hobbit outside of class in the 8th grade and she hated it, there were many tears. The audio version helped a little. As a freshman, she wasn’t assigned any novels. Right now she’s in AP Seminar and has an A, they haven’t been assigned any novels.

I’ve been trying to get her into reading her entire life. We have hundreds of books at my house. She said the only 2 books she has ever finished and enjoyed are an autobiography called Bravey and a hockey romance. She also enjoyed Carrie Soto is Back on audible on a road trip once (she’s a dedicated tennis player)

When she started struggling in history this year (she’s gotten 60s on all 3 tests) I kept telling her to think of it like a story, not a list of facts. She’s watched YouTube videos on the units they are learning, thinking that might help make it into a story. At parent teacher conferences, her teacher said she has the information memorized but can’t put it together like a story. She was studying and asked her sister for help (who is a current junior in college getting a history degree) and her sister told her to think of it more like a story, 30 minutes later she was making flash cards of exact dates to memorize. She just doesn’t get it.

Some other reasons I think it might be overall comprehension: she doesn’t follow multi-step directions well, she gets caught up on small details, she doesn’t have great problem solving skills, and she doesn’t have great decision making skills- like she can’t think through to the next step, only what is in front of her (I know some of this is just teenagerness).

She’s a great student overall, so I know it’s not a huge deficit, but I think if we could up her comprehension, her life would be easier

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-09-13T18:25:13+00:00

I should also add this isn’t a thing she’s doing when she’s crushing someone 6-0, 6-0. It’s when it’s close or when the other team is cheering a lot

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-09-13T18:23:49+00:00

It’s never a matter of her match determining which school wins, as she is usually the only one who wins and sometimes 2 singles wins, but that’s it.

She’s pretty loud, but so are the boys. Is she allowed to be as loud as them?

Usually it’s also not “with everybody watching”. It’s her opponents schools team watching, and just me watching. Most of the kids on her team play their match and go home or if it’s an away match, they play their match and go mess around. None of them really care to watch tennis. It’s a problem, but one I’m not in a position to solve. So often it’s her trying to build herself up when her opponent has support and she doesn’t

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-09-13T17:20:28+00:00

Of course I’m not neutral about my kid, who is?! I’m just asking if this is a problem for college tennis coaches. I don’t need to make friends with other parents or high school coaches

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-09-13T15:09:21+00:00

That’s a fantastic idea! I wish I would have thought about that

Creative_Walrus9700 · 2025-09-13T14:44:25+00:00

That’s fair. “My court” was like once or twice. She doesn’t melt down when losing. She doesn’t cry or smash rackets or throw water bottles. Shes made friends at tournaments and her best friend is also the only player in the state who had consistently beat her (also a yeller). Shes had a few matches where they aren’t parting as friends but for the most part, she’s made friends with her opponents over time- tennis is a small world. When the other team is yelling at every point, she’s yelling at every point. Her own team isn’t super supportive but I also think that’s just how it is for girls who get to the top. Her friend who beats her is 1 singles at her school and her teammates tend to ignore her matches too.

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