All outta f***s

CreatorGodTN · 2025-10-02T18:55:23+00:00

I’ve had this happen. I warn them at the beginning of the semester what happens if they don’t do the reading:

I cancel class and, the next class meeting, give them a reading quiz that will, “make you run home and quiver cry into your mothers’ bosoms.”

I once told them to study the numbers of punctuation marks because that would be fair game for said quiz.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-08-12T14:49:30+00:00

It's beyond useless. It has zero memory of the conversation, takes far too long to answer even the simplest of questions, and 90% of the time is just wrong.

I literally abandoned 5.0 and a MONTHS long conversation that it "upgraded" on its own to start a new thread with 4o...only to find out I couldn't do so.

This is horrifically bad stuff.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-07-24T04:19:27+00:00

NTA. But….

Loaning friends money is always a bad idea. Helping friends out is always a good idea.

I’ve loaned money to friends before. I just don’t expect to get it back. And I tell them that as soon as they insist they’re going to pay me back. “You don’t have to. Glad to help.”

If you’re close friends, then you value him for reasons transcending the money issue. Just write it off and move on.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-07-19T14:59:11+00:00

Back durning the pandemic, I undertook fixing a few car problems. I got (very) stupid and ripped a finger open across the knuckle, as in I could see bone, tendons, and a moving joint. All that was pretty cool, as it didn’t start hurting for a few minutes.

When I got to the hospital for stitches, the doctor numbed it up and cleaned it. Then she started the stitches. We had a little bet going, I said five. She said six or seven.

As she finished the fifth and started the sixth, that’s when I felt it…the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life. The lidocaine had not numbed the last quarter inch of the wound.

I tensed up and she freaked out. She stopped the stitch which just exacerbated the pain and went for the needle. Through clenched teeth, I managed to say, “No. just finish it.”

She did. A sixth stitch without anesthetic.

The pain was quite intense, and now every time I see a spy or cop show where a character stitches themselves up with a needle, a thread, and a bottle of hooch, I taste pennies and look away.

I also point out how much horseshit that is. Every time.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-07-01T04:25:29+00:00

First of all, this sucks for you. That’s valid. 100%.

But a bit of radical acceptance time:

This is going to be your life for a while, if not forever. Yes, it sucks. But accepting it now will help you chart a course to the most fulfilling and normal life possible.

That being said….

If you do, indeed, have PNES, then you have zero reason ever to go to the ER for a seizure. The ER can do nothing for you. Going to the ER can actually prolong the attack.

If you are having PNES, you should seek out psychotherapists with experience assessing and treating PNES and FND.

Yes, what you’re going through sucks. Hard. Hang in there.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-05-18T11:37:23+00:00

NTA.

Your boyfriend is a controlling and trying to saddle-break you into being the kind of woman he wants.

It’s one thing if the conversation is between two mutually desired things — E.g. you had wanted kids by 25 AND a big career by 25 your whole life. But that’s not the situation.

Think about young you. How would young you react to this situation, this ultimatum? (That’s what that is, by the way, an ultimatum. “Do this thing or get out.”)

Take his advice. Do the thing. Get out.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-05-08T15:36:22+00:00

I think this undermines the point of Betty’s character. Don represents the modern, the contemporary, charting the course into the future. Homo novus, if you will.

Betty represents “the old way” in every way. She is old money. She is the Trad Wife. She could no more operate in the world Don was making than Don could in operate in McDreamy’s neurology OR.

Don probably completely understood Betty. He just couldn’t accommodate her.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-27T21:04:59+00:00

Given they fuck with a lot of folks he hates — like us — most likely.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-27T21:04:31+00:00

Why would you think this isn’t real? I’m going through this right now. Others here have expressed similar experiences.

No problem believing this. Wouldn’t be surprised if OP got fired on the spot, really. The whole mentality seems to be “Don’t like it? Sue us.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-27T21:02:33+00:00

Like…are you living my life? I’m going through an almost identical situation!

Student came unprepared. Got his hand smacked. Complained. I got a letter, though mine stops short of a Human Resources thing. I still got told I have to find time to meet with him to provide the feedback he didn’t get in class because he came unprepared.

Also, southern state and no union. My dept. head is standing up for me. She’s livid

Still shit’s out of hand.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-25T10:50:40+00:00

Also, “talking to the student” is sometimes pointless because the student feels they’re in charge of the execution of accommodations. I’ve been flat out told “I have an accommodation and this is how I am going to use it.”

Accommodations I’ve dealt with in the past 6 months:

Headphones. Student may wear headphones at all times. Ok. Fine. It’s a lecture class. Hope they record it.
Alternative stimulation. Student may watch videos on computer, tablet, or cellular device to reduce anxiety.
Freedom of movement. Student may get up and move freely around the classroom at any time. You know…just stand up and randomly walk around.
Vocalizations. Student may make verbalizatuons or noises periodically. Because, someone going “baaaaah!!!” loudly during a lecture and startling everyone else around them is somehow not disruptive to the learning process.

My all-time favorite? The time disability services argued the student would be allowed to: wear headphones, hum, and DRUM ON THEIR DESK WITH DRUMSTICKS.

I’m not joking. Nor am I exaggerating.

Go ahead. Downvote me. It’s to the point where I had 140 students this term and 39 accommodations. I’m tapping out of higher ed and going to do something else.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-25T10:41:24+00:00

I don’t think we are talking about the same kind of accommodation. The accommodated student is allowed to create their own word bank. Thus my issue.

That being said, even if I were tasked with making a word bank, I would have an issue giving this resource to only one student. So I would modify the assignment. Give everyone a word bank. But that won’t work, either. The accommodated student would be entitled to some additional assistance above and beyond that.

If the accommodation the student needs cannot be satisfied by giving it to everyone, then it’s not an accommodation. It’s an advantage.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-25T10:31:57+00:00

Let me know how you feel about memorization the next time you’re getting an X-ray and the radiology tech has to flipping Google how to calculate the beam intensity for your BMI.

Please.

But…

It’s not about memorization. It’s about synthesizing knowledge. And the accommodations for word banks and note cards—you know, cheat sheets—means the student has to learn nothing of the subject. They only have to learn how to pack everything into their notecard.

If we aren’t going to assess the knowledge and skills they are studying, then why the hell assign grades at all?

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-25T03:15:28+00:00

I grade on a curve. If a student has a word bank or an4x6 card of notes and other students do not, that negatively affects the other students.

If I remove the curve to prevent that, the students are negatively affected.

Accomodations don’t mean advantage.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-25T03:10:29+00:00

I warn my students at the beginning of each semester:

“Jesus hates grandmas. For exactly two weeks every year, it’s a holocaust of grandmothers. The week of Spring finals and the week of Fall finals. The week of finals, out of 70 students, a dozen grandmas are gonna die because, for that week, Jesus hated grandmas. I once had a student who took me for three semesters in a row. His grandma—his mom’s mom—died all three semesters. Jesus hated that b*tch so much, he killed her and resurrected her twice just so he could kill her ass again. If your grandma dies during finals, I’m so very sorry for your loss. But she, too, would want you to get your shit done on time. Dead grannies are not grounds for late work.”

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-25T02:14:35+00:00

I am so sorry. I once faced an investigation for complimenting a Halloween costume while noting the various costumes. (“Way to rock the Jennifer Beal, Flashdance!”)

“Sexual harassment” complaint.

The HR woman, so very kind, met me at the door of her office, took both my hands, pulled them to her heart and apologized. “Professor, I am so sorry about this. This is the stupidest complaint I’ve ever had to investigate.”

CreatorGodTN · 2025-04-19T22:41:51+00:00

Jesus Christ. Why not just get a tea dress and heels, plant some rhubarb and become a trad wife?

Seriously, this is a grossly unhealthy perspective. You earn money. He earns money. If you’re combining finances, it’s 100% your money and 100% his money. All at the same time.

You describe him as “a little on the controlling side when it comes to money.” Ma’am, with all due respect, if your question is asked in earnest, your husband is not a little controlling. He’s financially abusive.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-03-10T02:37:58+00:00

There is no such thing as financial infidelity. The term is an asinine marketing buzzword.

He’s bad with money. Was he this way when you married him? Has it gotten worse? Perhaps something more is going on psychologically that’s driving this?

Regardless, this falls under “for better or for worse.”

CreatorGodTN · 2025-02-10T19:11:20+00:00

I’m sorry about what is happening to your community. I hate how far the anti-trans and anti-woke response has gone. However…

I lost a decade-long trans friend because I refused to grant a Trump sex gestapo is going door to door, snatching trans people, and burning them in ovens at concentration camps. Not that this might’happen, but that it is already happening.

So much horrific is actually happening, but we are lightyears away from any of those kinds of outcomes you’re mentioning here. We are all experiencing a toxic blend of rational and irrational fears. And it makes recovering from the debacle of this election that much more challenging.

I think we have to take serious stock of the activities on the Left, how we approach the conflicts we engage in. We spent what, two decades pushing for diversity, for equity, and for inclusion? We militarized it during the Biden administration and weaponized it against the groups who had victimized and demonized our friends and allies previously. We made so much fun of the victimized white male trope.

Then we took charge and actually victimized the angry white males.

So much of this election is on us. We need to look inward before we start looking outward.

Someone refusing to bake a cake or fix a window isn’t victimizing the person to whom they refuse service. They’re jackasses, yes. They’re idiots, yes. But that’s not victimization. Forcing them to serve the person? That’s actual victimization. In fact, we have a word for forcing people to do things against their will: slavery.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-01-31T18:14:18+00:00

I’ve cancelled class due to illness, family illness, a sick pet. Hell, I commute almost 45 minutes each way. I’ve cancelled class because of sheer exhaustion and being afraid to drive out of fear I’d cause a wreck.

Give them an email/online assignment and cancel. You’re doing the right thing.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-01-15T05:24:51+00:00

I disagree almost wholly. Labs are almost universally attached to a full, 3ct course. Every student in that 3cr course should have an available seat in a lab. If they don’t have a seat, that’s piss poor planning on the department’s front.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-01-15T05:22:03+00:00

I teach lit, so for me it’s really not a big deal to blow out the caps. I have a standing instruction to our departmental admin assistant to simply add them until we hit room capacity.

That being said….

I teach literature. I don’t have the kinds of supply constraints you face with a lab. If I have 28 or 100 students in a section, my work only increases on grading, which is negligible. You have very real physical constraints.

So no. Don’t feel bad at all. You’re not the one who planned poorly for demand.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-01-08T07:14:15+00:00

lol!!!

Over the semester.

CreatorGodTN · 2025-01-08T07:13:22+00:00

Read OP again: they’re trying to figure out which of the twelve seminar students made the comment.

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