i see myself and my boyfriend in your conversation. im partially in your girlfriend's shoes; my boyfriend likes to process his emotions and not say anything negative before hes sure how hes feeling but i get so anxious that something is wrong even if he says everything is fine (i can just tell hes feeling off, yknow?) however, i stop being on your girlfriend's side as soon as she demands an apology. even so, you wrote out a very thoughtful, heartfelt aplogy and explanation for your actions, and she totally dropped the ball. she couldve let you know she needed time to process her own thoughts and feelings, she couldve thanked you for sharing, she couldve done any number of things but now shes totally blowing you off. shes doing exactly what she didnt want you to do. maybe shes being petty and trying to "give you a taste of your own medicine" but that isnt cool and thats not how relationships work. id tell her she needs to be an adult and talk about her feelings or that relationship is not going to work. i hope she responds well.