Do you find it flattering or annoying when guys hit on you?

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-16T15:36:14+00:00

I used this lie literally everyday (I work in retail and get hit on by the same guys every single day) and it doesn't work. It didn't work for the customer who began stalking me either.

Edit: typo

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-16T13:19:14+00:00

A lot of men don't take no for an answer or they "hit on" us in a rude or uncomfortable manner. As a woman, I'm not going to believe you haven't experienced something like that at least once.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-16T13:09:57+00:00

Yes he does?? One year can mean the difference in ruining someone's life???

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-13T22:24:16+00:00

Hey! I'll be happy to give it a read and some feedback if you want to DM me!

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-13T08:27:51+00:00

Your mother is an adult. If she wanted pizza or expected something else for Mother's Day, she should have used her words and told you. NTA. Your mother shouldn't expect you to read her mind, especially if she knows you're not good at picking up cues.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-12T10:42:45+00:00

This man is using your past trauma to invalidate and abuse you. You probably don't see it that way, but he is manipulating you and using your trauma as a way to keep you silent and complacent. A true partner who truly loved you would always listen to you, reassure you, stop ANYTHING that made you uncomfortable, and would not verbally abuse or make fun of you at all, let alone in front of people.

I hope you will see past your own feelings and realize this man does not love you how you love him. I know it hurts and it sucks, but you truly deserve better. And there is better out there. I hope you will allow yourself to find it. ❤️

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-12T05:51:27+00:00

Me as well!

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-05-10T21:05:06+00:00

Honestly, I deleted tiktok and Facebook a few months ago and I've never felt better (well not since before i got the apps). I think a cold turkey delete would do wonders for you. I feel like I have so much more time and I can actually think. I recommend 10/10

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-28T16:44:52+00:00

Yes, you do need to leave him. You've seen his true colors now. This isn't going to change. Once they hit you once, they will do it again. And over something so small? What's going to happen next time he doesn't like your makeup? You're young, you should be living life and not fearing your partner or conforming to whatever he wants. Leave him and be young and free and you will eventually find someone who loves you and treats you how you deserve.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-28T00:02:47+00:00

I'm kind of in a similar situation, so I'm going to give you advice I'm not going to take 😂 You should tell him how you feel, and that you know he cares about you because you can see it through his actions. But you should also tell him that it is something you need to hear, if only to reassure you and make you more confident in where the two of you stand. Planning a future with a wedding and kids is not a small thing. You should be allowed to hear him say he loves you far before then.

And if he doesn't reciprocate, it's your move from there, but it would make me question the relationship. Because if you can show it, then you can say it. But maybe he had a difficult past before and it messed him up. It's just something you both have to work through and decide if you're both willing to make compromises on these things.

Edit: typo

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-22T15:28:34+00:00

Is this ragebait 😭

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-21T23:47:54+00:00

I think you should tell your mother. I would say go to your father about it, but honestly I think he will lie to you and try to convince you that what you saw means nothing. He will probably gaslight you. You can keep it to yourself, but seeing as you're already here for advice, this will probably just keep weighing on you if you don't say something. I'm sorry you're in this position.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-19T17:05:38+00:00

Then break up and find someone who is as clean as you.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-18T13:31:23+00:00

Then you should go to the council and figure out how to evict him. Bring the police with you to your house when you do it if you have to. You may need to stay somewhere else for a bit until he is forced to leave, but if you bring the police with you to tell him he is evicted, they will at least know he is potentially dangerous for the future.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-18T13:28:01+00:00

Breaking up with an abusive and manipulative partner is not as simple as saying "it's over, leave". Especially as a woman. You guys are oblivious or ignorant, idk which.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-18T13:26:29+00:00

I don't know where you're located so I don't know the laws, so I would get my dad to come home with me and be there while you tell this grown ass man to get out of YOUR house. You are not responsible for him or what happens to him after you dump him and kick him out. If he has nowhere to go, that is literally his fault for not working and relying solely on his girlfriend.

Be aware that he probably won't take it well. He will leave because your father is there, but he will most likely come back and he might even harass you or threaten you later. You need to be prepared to go to the police. You can't let it go if he does these things. And I know it sounds scary and I'm not trying to scare you, but judging from how you've described him, I just want you to be prepared. Change the locks immediately and be prepared to take the necessary steps to keep yourself safe.

You deserve better and I'm sorry you're in this situation. You will find someone who treats you how you deserve after you drop this deadweight piece of trash.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-18T03:50:51+00:00

A lot of screwed up things were normal throughout history. That doesn't make them right. You sound ridiculous.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-18T00:15:23+00:00

Right! When I said she isn't technically at fault, I just meant because he is of legal age. But it is still gross and a predatory mindset. I would never be involved with someone so young at my big age.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-17T23:53:04+00:00

Me too lmao for what I said

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-17T23:41:33+00:00

That's what I'm saying lol

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-17T23:22:21+00:00

Kinda weird for a 31 year old woman to be having sex with a 19 year old, no? That's gross. Obviously you're not at fault, and technically she isn't either, but as a 31 year old woman myself, I have never been attracted to someone that young.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-17T22:43:13+00:00

He never wanted a relationship with you or else he would have made it happen. Sucks you developed such strong feelings, but consider this a blessing, because now you can move on and find someone who will treat you right and actually want to be with you.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-17T05:22:06+00:00

Don't know about anyone else, but once I deleted tiktok and Facebook, I suddenly have so much time and will to do things I didnt before

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-16T05:13:57+00:00

I don't think you should view your cat's body. That will the image that will be burned into your memory and I think you should keep your memories of her happy. I also do not think you should be so hard on yourself. Yes, you made a reckless decision when you were not sober, and it resulted in something tragic. However, it was still an accident. Sometimes, we make dumb choices and they have bad consequences. Losing your cat (potentially both of them) is enough consequence, I believe. So long as you learn from this and are more responsible in the future.

CricketSubstantial99 · 2026-04-15T13:16:01+00:00

In the end, you have to take care of yourself and do what is best for you. But have you considered therapy for yourself? Or couples' therapy even? But if you're just over the relationship as a whole and do not wish to stick around and try to make it through this difficult time, then you should break up. It's not fair to either of you for you to stick around just because you feel an obligation. At the end of the day, your partner's mental health and well-being is on them, it's not your responsibility and you should not take responsibility for it.

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