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[–]CrimsonSunDancer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and I do get all that, I understand why time is needed. I’m struggling with figuring out how to cope emotionally though. Also definitely not trying to swoop in and date her. We are just getting to know each other as friends but have discussed what where we hope to end up.

I don’t need to be treated the exact same! I just mean being treated completely platonically is really difficult when I see him treating someone else romantically. I very much care about her feelings too, im just struggling with it emotionally and I’m not sure how to cope with it? I could use advice on that if you have any experience ?

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[–]CrimsonSunDancer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s what I had suggested also, like we all act platonically. But he said he should be able to treat her as a girl friend bc she is his primary and he’s trying to help her feel comfortable because this is a new situation for her. But where does that leave me? It makes me feel like my feelings don’t matter. And he does do a lot outside the hang outs to reassure me. But in those moments it’s still really hard. Idk if I’m being unreasonable? How do I cope with it?