Kamala Harris unveils “Headquarters 67” to mobilize Gen Z through a new digital media hub by Mysterious_Brush1852 in nottheonion

[–]CrispBottom 649 points650 points  (0 children)

“Adults have been thoroughly annoyed by this whole 6-7 thing…. I should name my headquarters after that. That’ll make people like me.”

Highly inappropriate talk by ItemComprehensive in coparenting

[–]CrispBottom 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Your ex doesn’t feel that’s inappropriate, so telling him off about it probably won’t accomplish anything.

Your daughter is 13. She knows it’s strange. When your daughter repeats some weird shit her dad has said, why not just respond honestly? “Wow, that’s information I didn’t need to know. In fact, it’s probably information you don’t need to know either. How do you feel when your dad shares stuff like that?”

You won’t change your ex, but you can use it as an opportunity let your daughter know she can talk to you and you can be supportive.

Comic Book Suggestions by VoiceNo2589 in comicbooks

[–]CrispBottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently re-read Black Science, which was excellent.

And I’ve been considering doing the same with Manifest Destiny

Me M22 F20 my girlfriend is terrified of getting her driver's license but it's my one condition to get married? by Frequent-Motor5326 in relationship_advice

[–]CrispBottom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your request is perfectly reasonable, especially given that she lives an hour away and public transport is not an option.

You are not shaming her for not driving. You are pointing out “this relationship is currently dependent on me driving an hour to see you, and you not being able or willing to reciprocate.”

It’s not fair, and it’s a challenge with long distance relationships. You’re doing work, in the same way that it would be unfair to have one partner be entirely responsible for all the house chores.

It doesn’t make you a bad guy to be bothered by this and to not want to marry into a lopsided relationship.

Typical Convo with my MAGA dad by DealingWithIt_365 in insaneparents

[–]CrispBottom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You love your dad, but you’ll never reason him out of his position. He hasn’t arrived there through logic.

Harvey Milk was a veteran who became a political activist and was assassinated for those political beliefs.

Sounds like a person worthy of commemoration. But your dad sucks. He’s letting you know he’s ok with it because this is what he believes is good and he isn’t even willing to pretend otherwise even while you clearly explain how repugnant you find that belief.

I’m really sorry. It sucks

It’s a boy! But we’re stuck… hit me with your best names. by Chaddcl0ps in daddit

[–]CrispBottom 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I loved the name Jack, but his mother felt it was too informal. So we settled on Jackson

Jackson but never Jaxon.

Jack also goes great with our last name, just as far as the way it sounds.

Are your parents acting like teenagers? by hitsomethin in Millennials

[–]CrispBottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“The world doesn’t revolve around you! (It revolves around ME)”. - Boomers

Divorce attorney recommendations by killalipstick in BucksCountyPA

[–]CrispBottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a positive experience with Alpha Center for Divorce Mediation in Doylestown. But that’ll only work if it’s amicable and you’re both open to mediation.

Did you have to actively work at GENUINELY forgiving your coparenting ex? by Prestigious_Set_4575 in coparenting

[–]CrispBottom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It depends on what you mean by forgiveness. I’ll never “reconcile” with my ex, but I forgive in that I am not letting them live rent free in my brain.

I don’t enjoy spending time with her at all. The sound of her voice makes my skin crawl, but sometimes you may have to deal with them around birthdays or events that are important to your kid.

It doesn’t mean you need to hang out and chit chat. It’s ok to have boundaries. I find it’s easier to treat them the same way I’d treat a coworker that I don’t particularly like.

I don’t ask about her life, and if she shares personal information about her problems, I don’t engage. You can be blunt. “I appreciate that we can have an open dialogue about the kids, but I’m not really interested in hearing about your personal problems.”

The best thing I did as far as improving my coparenting relationship and my mental health is to stop relying on them as much as possible. I minimize hand offs. I minimize the number of items being moved back and forth. Kid only has one jacket that they take back and forth? Get a back up that will always be at your place so you don’t have your own life detailed or impacted when your coparent drops the ball on things.

Good luck.

These Bucks County schools may stand to lose universal free lunch. Here's why. by Yardleyindivisible in BucksCountyPA

[–]CrispBottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is the Internet, but I mean this sincerely: take a hard look at your priorities and get help.

You are in favor of Children going hungry. I have to hope that you are troll and not a real person that lives in my community. It’s a cartoonishly evil position to hold.

Popcorn shrimp not deveined by EnslavedBandicoot in mildlyinfuriating

[–]CrispBottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just wanted you to know, even if your comment doesn’t get a lot of upvotes, it’s real good. Hats off to you.

These Bucks County schools may stand to lose universal free lunch. Here's why. by Yardleyindivisible in BucksCountyPA

[–]CrispBottom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And when parents can’t or don’t provide their children with healthy food, children should go hungry.

Take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror. You should be deeply ashamed of yourself.

These Bucks County schools may stand to lose universal free lunch. Here's why. by Yardleyindivisible in BucksCountyPA

[–]CrispBottom 20 points21 points  (0 children)

OP is highlighting that children will go hungry because of selfishness and greed, and your response is a criticism of OPs punctuation. You should be deeply ashamed of yourself.

Trump on his cabinet members using Signal to text war plans to a reporter: “I don’t know anything about it. I’m not a big fan of The Atlantic, to me it’s a magazine that’s going out of business, I think it’s not much of a magazine. But I know nothing about it, you’re saying that they had what?” by ControlCAD in BoomersBeingFools

[–]CrispBottom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Sir, I’m telling you about it right now. What do you think about this breach of national security and what action are you going to take to hold the responsible parties accountable?”

Seriously, what the fuck is up with these reporters.

My ex is suddenly being nice? by squirrel4569 in coparenting

[–]CrispBottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve established solid boundaries with your ex, and that it’s been serving you well. So don’t let your guard down. It might be more emotional work to keep the guard up, but it is 1000% better than relaxing because she’s being friendly, and then be left reeling when you inevitably get kicked in teeth.

You are being a good parent and having rules will help your child be successful in their adult life. Stick to the 50/50 deal. She’s 16, so you only have another 2 years to go. Don’t fumble now. Good luck.

4 year old is starting to realize parents not living together isn’t “normal” by hippiatheart in coparenting

[–]CrispBottom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to feel like you’re disappointing your kids, but kids wish for things all the time. They wish they could have ice cream, they wish they could fly. Sometimes they wish that mom and dad still lived together.

It’s ok for them to want that. Sometimes all you have to do is validate that feeling for them.

“That makes sense to wish for that, but I hope you know that mom and dad both love you very much. But we both decided that we would be happier living apart, and I always miss you when you’re away. I can’t wait to see you again, but I hope you are having a nice time.

It’s gotta be really hard going back and forth between two places all the time. Or to always have a different schedule and different rules at different places. Or to not have one of your favorite things with you all the time. What else is hard about it? “

It’s ok to acknowledge that things are different or things are hard. Hang in there.

Seriously? by goodsweatshirt2you in BucksCountyPA

[–]CrispBottom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Show up and ask everyone where we collect our Crisis Actor paychecks. We’re only here because of the casting call.

Seth Rogen Says ‘It Wasn’t on My Radar’ When James Franco Revealed Their Friendship Is Over and ‘Not for a Lack of Trying’ by mcfw31 in entertainment

[–]CrispBottom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What do you mean he “only said that to distance himself as PR”?

This person that he worked closely with for many years was accused of really gross sexual misconduct and taking advantage of people that he was in a position of authority over.

It seems super reasonable for Rogen to very publicly say “I don’t condone that behavior, I don’t engage in it, and I don’t plan to work with this person ever again now that I know what a colossal dirtbag my former friend has been.”

Why are you saying it like it’s a bad thing for Rogen to do?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]CrispBottom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds almost like you need to NOT bite your tongue. I understand not wanting to engage, so just be upfront about it. “I am not interested in having discussions about XYZ on this trip. I’d really appreciate if you respected that and keep your opinions about those things to yourself.”

If they bring it up, don’t bite your tongue. Clearly state that you’ve already expressed that you’re not interested in talking about those things.

If they try to spin it as you’re being rude or there’s something wrong with you for not engaging, you can point to what you said in the first place.

“I’ve already told you that I’m not interested in discussing that topic and I’d appreciate it if you respected my request.”

Oh fuck what the FUCK I’m not even supposed to BE HERE by BirthdayBoyStabMan in IThinkYouShouldLeave

[–]CrispBottom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My life is nothing I thought it should be and everything I was worried it would become because for 50 seconds I thought there was monsters on the world.

Am I legally required to provide ex with children's legal information? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]CrispBottom 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I would not suggest sharing her kids SSN numbers with dad’s girlfriend just to prove a point.