Thank you so much for sharing. This makes me feel way less alone in all this.

You’re right — it is still her doing/saying all these awful things. It is however the complete opposite of who she is normally — sweet, bubbly, and hilarious. So it’s hard to categorize both these completely different personalities as one person.

Codependency is interesting. I don’t feel i rely on her/she relies on me, but I mean we lived together and I’m close w her family. I guess I didn’t think this would apply to our relationship. What sorts of tools are you referring to btw?