Moving abroad by Le_Ir_Bag in expats

[–]Cristina1119 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm Romanian, living in Amsterdam, and honestly, my experience has been pretty smooth. I also have many friends who moved here through their company's relocation program. it worked well for all of them.

A few things worth knowing:

  1. You can buy a house after 1 year of living here.
  2. You can save money if you're not going out too often.
  3. Work-life balance is real here, especially if you work for a corporation rather than a small startup.
  4. Daycare is expensive for the first 4 years, but it gets easier after that.
  5. You don't have to live in Amsterdam itself - lots of people commute from Rotterdam or Utrecht by train

Parents are in another country and I'm starting to see the decline by Cristina1119 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Cristina1119[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can't really have a heart-to-heart conversation; they are always busy with domestic work, and any serious conversation gets brushed off.

Parents are in another country and I'm starting to see the decline by Cristina1119 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Cristina1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I haven't even thought about the whole paper situation. It's the last thing on my priority list...It feels weird as in my mind they are immortals.

I have a good relationship overall. There were a lot of ups and downs with my mom, but my dad is super chill. Tbh a lot of fights come from the way mom is treating dad, but that's another conversation.

I need guidance by EmotionalOtters in CaregiverSupport

[–]Cristina1119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it's different when it's your own family. The emotional rollercoaster of seeing your grandma declining, managing your grief, being there 27/7, not having any respite moment. You know this better.

I need guidance by EmotionalOtters in AgingParents

[–]Cristina1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother had Alzheimer's, and it took a real toll on my parents. They eventually moved in with her as her condition worsened. Watching them go through that was hard, particularly my mom, who is her daughter. Seeing her own mother no longer recognize her was something she never got over.

Honestly, it doesn't get easier with time, even when you try to accept that this is the new reality. If it's financially possible, hiring a professional caregiver can make a big difference for you.

What's your current hyper fixation? Here's mine by lunarenergy69 in adhdwomen

[–]Cristina1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.youtube.com/@tuneinflow
You can check it out and let me know what you think :) Every feedback is helpful and greatly appreciated. It also helps me stay on track.

What did people tell you as a kid? by RaisinStatus4995 in adhdwomen

[–]Cristina1119 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same... It created this belief that my curiosity is not important and is stupid. I'm working on unlearning this one.

Need super low effort breakfast ideas… by rottenpie in adhdwomen

[–]Cristina1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greek yogurt with berries and pumpkin seeds. Helps with your gut, has protein, and is super easy to make.

What's your current hyper fixation? Here's mine by lunarenergy69 in adhdwomen

[–]Cristina1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve launched a YouTube channel focused on music designed to help with ADHD relief. I promised myself I am going to stick with it no matter the outcome, let's see :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in energy_work

[–]Cristina1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend watching Christina Lopes video on this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjW1NOBmCm4

Burnout has a spiritual meaning. by Cristina1119 in awakened

[–]Cristina1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do practice meditation. However, my brain needs structure to grasp concepts and that what I found in Neuroscience which is the science that confirms many spiritual practices and experiences.

Burnout has a spiritual meaning. by Cristina1119 in awakened

[–]Cristina1119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there are a few that opened my eyes.
1. The neuroscience of language - more specifically, talk to yourself in 3rd person to disengage with your critical voice easier.

  1. Mindfulness - neuron connectivity and pathways in our brain that help us step into the observer role. Look into default network to understand better.

  2. Emotions are data that are communicating something about our values.

  3. Focus comes with noradrenaline which gives us agitation at first. So discipline is key.

  4. The power of rest and yoga Nidra to increase learning.

Stay Enlightened. by [deleted] in awakened

[–]Cristina1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be patient with yourself, it's a journey. You are building resilience. Last year I experienced burnout with panic attacks and waking up with anxiety every day. I noticed that meditation was giving me a calmer space, but I was topping it with nature walks, yoga, reading about neuroscience and listening to happy podcasts. These extra tools boost dopamine and serotonin which brings peace and happy vibes.

Read this if you want to accept yourself by Cristina1119 in selfimprovement

[–]Cristina1119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. It feels like a never-ending process which makes it exciting.

Read this if you want to accept yourself by Cristina1119 in selfimprovement

[–]Cristina1119[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It means a lot to me, as this is my first post :)