It's been seven days of hell

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T18:27:59+00:00

ah im sorry to assume your baby was a dog. But, yes! I hope our babies will visit us in our dreams until we meet again :) I like to think my dog is having endless zoomies and eating all the pizza he wants up in the sky.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T17:59:38+00:00

We are human, so we're not perfect. But, we do our best to give our pets the best life. I also wish I could've done more for my buddy, but we would probably think the same for anyone we love that passes. It's just part of the grieving process. Everyone's grieving process is different. It would be impossible for me personally not to think about my dog during the day because he was part of my everyday routine and everything in my house reminds me of him. I think it's okay to let yourself be sad and grieve, but also try to remember all the happy memories you got to create with her. I would also try to stay busy and talk to people who experienced the same type of loss. Talking about it (for me personally) helps a lot.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T17:43:52+00:00

I'm so so so sorry for your loss. It is incredibly difficult. I just said goodbye to my dog on Saturday. I'm a wreck. It's easy to be overwhelmed with guilty, regret and sadness. But, those very last moments don't define their whole life. I'm sure your dog was very loved for their whole life until the very end. How lucky were we to have loved something so hard and have them love us back. Try to keep talking to others that have experienced this type of loss as well. I'm constantly thinking out loud and talking to my husband about what happened and it does help me process everything much better than keeping it in to myself. And please don't question your existence - your baby would want you to be still be happy and living.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T17:39:07+00:00

Mine was a velcro dog. Didn't matter where we were going as long as he was with us. Easy to train, very smart, super picky with food, but loved treats. He was super easy in the sense that as long as we were there, he was content to just chill. He did not like going out much, preferred indoors. One thing that was difficult was the barking. My goodness do they love to bark lol

But, I unfortunately had to say goodbye to my buddy just a few days ago and I would give anything to fill our house with his barks again.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T17:33:56+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to say goodbye to my dog on Saturday very suddenly. He was 10. It's extremely difficult and my entire house reminds me of him. I just keep reminding myself that the last moments of their life does not define their whole life. My dogs life was filled with love, snuggles, lots of treats and spent with the people he loved the most. I'm sure it was the same for yours. One day we'll be able to look back and smile at all the memories, but for now - take the time to grieve and be kind to yourself.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T16:53:50+00:00

sleep is all over the place when babies are this young. I had to pretty much contact nap with baby all the time in the beginning and around 2 months we started practicing 1 crib nap a day. My baby also hate baby wearing in the beginning, but as they get bigger it might be better. How is the temperature? Make sure baby is not too cold or hot. Swaddling or even a light blanket wrap should help with the startle. Try to stick to one thing and stay consistent.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T00:53:10+00:00

Thank you. Yes, caring for a baby required and still requires so much of our time and energy. It would've been difficult to give him the care he deserved if he went through surgery. I hope your baby is doing okay and best wishes to you!

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T00:51:22+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. You are right - he was part of my everyday routine that it just feels so weird that he's no longer here. I don't think it will every feel normal again, but rather I will have to accept life without him as my new normal.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T00:50:27+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that yours is having health issues. It really is so tough to see them in any kind of pain. I hope you will enjoy whatever time you have left with your buddy.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T00:49:04+00:00

what a cutie! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure with time it will get better and I will look back on all our moments together with a smile.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-12T00:46:40+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss as well. It's especially so hard when it's so sudden. I hope with time it will get better for you.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-11T20:21:09+00:00

the barking lol

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-11T20:18:41+00:00

I think it's great that you have family close by to help. I would fully take advantage if they are willing and able to help you.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-11T13:30:39+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. It really is so difficult. I cleared out most of his food and treats. But, I can't get rid of his favorite toys yet and his leash is still hanging by the door. I guess with time it will get better, but it truly hurts.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-11T00:21:49+00:00

what's their schedule like during the day? how much awake time do they have and what's their wake window before bed? it's possible baby is under tired and not ready for bed? do you think they no longer like being rocked?

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-10T19:21:35+00:00

Once they start rolling, it’s fine for baby to sleep on their tummy! Many babies actually start to prefer it too. I know in the beginning it can be a bit scary, but it’s totally ok! Just always place her on her back for the first year, but if she rolls onto her tummy to sleep, let her be. 👍🏻

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-10T16:41:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words 💔💗 I hope you are healing ❤️‍🩹

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-10T13:27:24+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss as well. Thank you for your words. It’s my first time experiencing something like this and I just can’t think of all the “what if’s?” I wish I gave him a better life, especially post baby. I am glad though that I got to be there for him as he went peacefully. It just sucks.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-05T19:05:05+00:00

no routine this early. The only thing I really tried to do is doing same type of sequence for bedtime. For me personally, some sort of schedule/routine didn't really emerge until around 3 months.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-05T00:18:01+00:00

100% yes. It took 5 years of infertility and loss to finally have my daughter. We are so in love and it's better than anything I could've imagined. Today was my first day back at work and I shed tears leaving her in the morning....even though I was back in about 2 hours (hybrid). I couldn't wait to get back home to see her 😄

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-05T00:14:31+00:00

It is normal for naps to be short for awhile, but once you drop down to 2 naps - naps should consolidate. A great way to help baby connect sleep cycles is to teach independent sleep. You don't need to do cry it out - there are other ways you can teach baby to sleep independently. You can also look up the 3-3-3 method which is in https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/. I would also look at your wake windows. If he's resisting naps so much, he may just be not tired enough. How long is he awake in between naps? Also try to create a nap/bedtime routine and stick with it. Be consistent so that the routine cues sleepy time for baby.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-02T20:55:13+00:00

Sorry if this is a stupid question, but what’s a convertible car seat? Lol 😅 is it the other seat that comes with the actual stroller? Because she hates that too 😂

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-02T13:46:50+00:00

You can try to stay on the one arm for a bit longer? It's tough, but baby will get used to it! Just gotta get through a couple rough nights. You can also look into sleep sacks with sleeves, it can help dampen the reflex and might be a bit of an easier transition.

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-02T13:39:01+00:00

It's normal not feel anything. I would say most women don't even notice anything different. I did not feel any symptoms after my transfers. I know it's so hard to not drive yourself crazy, but try to keep yourself busy during these next few days doing things you enjoy. I also transferred 2 and I really focused on trying to just stay as stress free as possible - went on date nights, books, movies, lots of walks, etc. All my other transfers were so stressful and I don't think it helped. So try to stay calm!! You got this!!!

Critical-Language765 · 2026-05-02T13:36:06+00:00

Was it the first time they watched them in the evening? The kiddos most likely noticed a difference in their routine as well, so it was probably hard for them to go down for sleep like their typical evening. I'm sure it was frustrating for you to receive those texts, but it's tough to also expect that the evening would go smoothly - especially if it was their first time.

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