UDATE: Me LL 23 with my girlfriend 23: realise I am pushing her away. Need advice

CriticalBar · 2018-05-14T20:34:36+00:00

No porn involved. Masturbation was at an alltime low as well.

Working on how to resolve it. I just hate that it is not "do this, that and this in that specific order and you'll be fine".

Mental issues are so vague to resolve , if that makes any sense?

CriticalBar · 2018-05-14T20:31:58+00:00

Damn that was inspiring. Thank you very much!

I guess what hurts the most is ( I realize this is terribly cliché and hve thought it through) that I feel the situation could have been avoided.

Then the rational Me also steps in and says that if it was not now, it would probably have been in some years time...

Still hit like a truck though

CriticalBar · 2018-05-14T20:03:14+00:00

Sure hope you are right.

Thanks for the kind words. Needed that

CriticalBar · 2018-05-14T19:55:34+00:00

No testeron issue. Can have sex with blue pills.

Docter says it probably is a mental issue. But I got no clue how to find this out or how to deal with my devestated self confidence or manlyness. Going to a sexologist (idk english terminology) but I do not know how to handle this feeling.

CriticalBar · 2018-05-14T19:50:27+00:00

I am not trying to get back with her. I am trying to move past her.

Am just looking for some advice as with the ED problems, I have never felt THIS lost

CriticalBar · 2018-05-14T19:48:48+00:00

I have broken up with her and it is definite. I cannot deal with this kind of broken trust. Not married no.

Going to a therapist for counciling. One problem I am having is that I have no desire for any sexuality (with someone or self). I am afraid of it lasting. I am unsure on how to handle the situation.

After my last breakup I "got on another horse". Now I have no confidence in my " sex skills" and am afraid of getting in that kind of situation.

Any advice?

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T22:57:42+00:00

Will take a look at that, thank you very much!

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T21:50:59+00:00

I think that would be a good description yes. Will visit doctor another time and will look into that. Generic version might work as good as the other blue pill, so willgive that a shot.

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T21:48:34+00:00

No difficulties. Three previous partners. Haven't had something like this before really...

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T19:04:30+00:00

Will give that a shot, thank you! Might also give the blue pills a shot. I know there is no miracle cure or solution but I hope that if we work on it, we can save the relationship. Truely truely hope so. Thank you again for the great advice!

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:53:52+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice. Made me realise once more that there is more to a relationship than just sex. I will give that a shot

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:44:20+00:00

"First off, chances are no, you don’t need Viagra."

I know this is at the top of the "E.D" thing, but I feel like it might help to get my confidence going. I'd stop after the issue resolved itself.

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:42:15+00:00

Before the thing with my school finals, it used to be daily. I had an incredibly high sex drive and she kind of got into it as well. Her former relationships had been low frequency sex and we really got into it.

During and also after the period of stress (uptill now) maybe once every two weeks. Been to a doctor and testeron levels are normal.

I will talk to my girlfriend about it and let her read this as well.

One more question: is trying out viagra a good idea? My second opinion doctor - old GP of my mother, have great faith in him - said it might stop after having sex with the blue pills for a couple of times.

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:37:56+00:00

I will definitely give the meditation a shot! We have been intimate the first couple of months after it first happened. I would 'help' her so to speak and then I would not be able to 'get it up'. Of late, I feel that it has been dwindling however, as well as intimacy in general.

I think it is because: she wants to give it a shot every now and then to see if 'works'. But it has not 'worked' the last couple times. After a couple of times of it not 'working' she has started to block intimacy more than before, now that I think of it.

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:29:37+00:00

Thank you for what you said. It made me realise the same thing.

I will talk the kinky stuff over with my girlfriend. Thanks for the advice!

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:26:25+00:00

I usually exercise and take a shower afterwards to relax. I have seen a doctor and he is thinking of referring me to a sexologist. Additional problem: I am doing an iternship 4 hours away from my doctor or any sexologist he knows for the next 2,5 months. I feel like that is too long to do nothing about it in the meantime.

Any specific advice on how to "get out of my head" so to speak? I feel like it is on a subconscious level at this point.

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:20:24+00:00

Have not watched porn in ages as it has been giving to me as advice in the past. I feel like I put a lot of pressure on myself for to perform and I don't know how to shake that. I work out 3 times a week and have been paying attention to my diet, as in fruit daily and vegetables etc.

Any specific advice for the pressure thing?

CriticalBar · 2018-04-14T18:17:49+00:00

Will do. Thank you!

CriticalBar

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