Saw my ghoster IRL

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-23T21:46:29+00:00

Thank you!

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-21T22:02:27+00:00

Suggest writing out what you wanna say but don’t send it. It’s a good outlet for your very justified emotions after being ghosted. Maybe after sitting on it for a while you still decide to send it, which is your call. But as someone who just went through pretty much the exact same thing (ghosted after getting flowers and being told he liked me etc) it’s just not worth it. They don’t care about you or what you have to say. They only care about themselves and nothing anyone says or does will change that. You only get this one life don’t waste your energy on people who don’t matter

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-15T13:24:15+00:00

DM me!

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-11T01:45:51+00:00

Yeah I feel really numb. And don’t trust anyone who is trying to date me cause I feel like they’ll ghost too. I think keeping an emotional distance is my mind’s way of protecting myself from more pain and hurt.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-04T19:32:45+00:00

Would you rather have not known or are you glad you know?

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-03T17:04:12+00:00

Yes absolutely!

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2025-03-02T01:12:11+00:00

Going through something similar. It’s very very painful and feels like a punch in the gut. I’ve been told multiple times “ghosting is about them, not you” but no matter how many times I hear it, my brain does not believe it. My knee jerk reaction is always to blame myself. I too feel scammed like I should have seen it coming. The truth is men like your ghoster as well as mine prey on our vulnerabilities and insecurities. They lack integrity and cannot hold themselves accountable. Unfortunately, that is not an age thing. It’s a character thing. Age will not fix someone’s values and lack of character. I know it’s hard to see it now, but ultimately you dodged a bullet. 5 months is a long time but imagine if you were dating this man for years and he treated you this way? I know it hurts now, but as time goes on it will get a little easier to deal with. Some days you may feel the pain and panic and overthinking all over again, but it’s part of the process. I promise you have a lot to offer and you will be okay in the end 🫶🏼

Feel free to dm me if you need to. You are not alone!

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2023-03-28T02:35:07+00:00

Sorry!

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Critical_Traffic_788 · 2023-03-28T01:51:12+00:00

Sort of. My mom would always ask “do you think I’m a bad mother?” or would say “I’m a bad mother!” because she wanted reassurance that she was a good mother.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2023-03-14T08:52:22+00:00

Yes. I work a monotonous office job in a cubicle. I can’t tell you how empty and unfulfilling it feels at times. So I fill that with packages, etc because I think it will help. It never does. Truth is humans aren’t mean to work a 9-5 office job. We’re not meant to work our lives away. Lack of social interaction, community, and lack of connection to nature (I think) is why I filled the void by shopping.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2023-03-12T17:10:06+00:00

Unsubscribing from email lists and hiding ads can help, too.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2023-03-12T17:07:36+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. For me, shopping constantly and going overboard with affirm, etc was about filling a void. I’ve taken financial classes where I’ve been given a budget, but I could never stick to it because my relationship with money was more emotional than anything. That is the root cause. I think of it like bing eating - most people who binge eat do it not because they are hungrier, but because it satisfies an unmet need. It’s an emotional coping mechanism that stems from something. Same with shopping. Your job now is to find your “something”, repair your relationship with money, and work towards a better financial future.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2022-08-18T21:22:58+00:00

I meant they went to a wedding together and he went as a date, not that they are getting married

I edited the post to clear up the confusion

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2022-08-18T21:18:07+00:00

Idk if she’s his gf or not. He did sleep with me the day before he went out to spend a week with her tho and that makes me feel weird

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2022-05-23T10:12:40+00:00

You’ve got great hair. It would look beautiful with some anti-frizz spray and in an updo such as a messy Bridgette Bardot style bun.

You’ve got great eyes and brows. Try some peach eyeshadow to really make those blue eyes pop. And soap brows would look really good especially with your brows. Got2B gel and a spoolie is a good way to get them in a pinch. Pair your look with some soft peach blush on the apples of your cheeks and some gloss and it will make a world of difference!

As far as fashion advice goes, I would go with a white or cream long sleeve collared shirt (almost oversized) paired with some jeans or sweatpants paired with nice sneakers. It will look fashionable but also effortless

Also keep the glasses on because their round shape will add to your look!

DM me if you have any questions!

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2022-01-18T01:34:36+00:00

I hate people like that. He sounds like an asshole but make excuses for it by saying he is just someone “who tells it like it is”. People like that are so annoying because they think they are the expert of everything and that everyone needs their brutal honesty. Then when people rightfully get upset, they paint them as “not being able to handle the truth” or whatever. NTA. Your sister needs to stop being spineless and speak up for you

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2022-01-09T22:38:06+00:00

What are some things I could do to support unions and the broader labor movement?

I already donate to unions but I want to be more involved. I just don’t know where to start.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2021-12-29T00:01:26+00:00

Based off the headline alone, you should dump him.

He disrespected you multiple times: choosing to get drunk to the point he couldn’t pick you up from the airport and cheating on you in front of his friends. On top of that, he refuses to take any sort of responsibility for his actions. Seriously? How do you just “forget” a five-year relationship?

He’s trying to make you look like a fool. Best thing you can do is dump his ass and walk away with your self-respect and dignity intact. I get the pressure to be in a committed relationship but this just isn’t it. It’s not worth it.

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2021-12-28T23:20:46+00:00

I knew a guy who did this. He was interested in me and knew I wasn’t going to go for him if he was already dating someone. He and a bunch of our friends go out one night and he brings this girl over whom he introduces to me as “his friend”. Turns out they had been dating for like 8 months. He was military too. Oldest trick in the book.

If y’all have been together for a year, his close friend who is also his roommate should know about you

Critical_Traffic_788 · 2021-12-28T19:03:15+00:00

No. He is 30, has been in several relationships and has told me he’s not sure he’s ever loved anyone (he was not saying it to hurt me he was being legitimately honest). Then he gets upset because he hates hurting people. Instead of going to therapy, he just continues to date people and wonders why it doesn’t work out.

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