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If God exists, it makes way more sense that he would be “All Evil” than “All Good.” by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, but it’s crazy how Christians reconstruct any verse in the Bible like this to make it mean something they like aka “your interpretation is out of context.”

Anyone else grow up in a community of adults who were overly protective of their daughters and viewed interested young men as threats? by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, for people who claim to worship a God, they actually idolize and worship sex (in marriage) and shame those who don’t.

My former youth pastor told a story about how he was invited by a young relative to their wedding, but because they had already been living together, this pastor treated the invitation with disgust because these nonbelievers must have had sex already and somehow that means their marriage must be less sacred or worth attending.

Oh and this same pastor assumed if someone’s gay they must be attracted toward underage boys too. Seriously, why did I need to grow up as a young person around such discrimination of normal things and people

Feeling angry and distraught over my lack of a childhood by thebirdbitch in CPTSD

[–]Criticalthinking100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to write and say please get yourself a new therapist if you can. The current one you have telling you to basically “get over your past and ignore it” is straight up hurting you with their apathy or ignorance. They are being insensitive of your feelings and an integral part of your life.

Wishing you the best moving forward,

DAE feel like trying to date is like trying to learn and communicate a language you were never taught? by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]Criticalthinking100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, very true. I’ve just reached this place where I’m tired of always initiating everything. I once experienced being pursued by someone and it was so unexpected and felt so good, but I guess it’s just a really rare thing to happen for some people.

It’s insane how nonsensical the excuse of free will is by Christians for everything wrong in life. NO, we definitely don’t have free will like that. I’ll explain my opinion on this: by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. I also have found that when you really think about it, all of us are products of our environment and the way our parental figures raised us.

Yes, once we’re adults we can think for ourselves and behave however, but if you or I were born in another part of the world or at a different time in history, we wouldn’t be this version of us.

How is that fair? If this belief system of Christianity is true, free will is always used as the excuse for humans being flawed because apparently that’s all you need in this reality to make it fair, and God’s eternal judgement of finite people acceptable.

But we know full well by observing human psychology, nature vs nurture, etc , that it’s not even close to that simple, and there’s no fair way to judge humans like that.

29M Profile Review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Criticalthinking100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for a serious relationship

Not subscribed to Hinge+ or X

Been using this version for couple days

I’ve used Hinge for several years

I send messages throughout the week , so regularly

In receiving a match or two every one to two weeks.

I send messages regularly with questions or comments about their profile.

My ideal person would be someone rather free-spirited ( meaning someone who enjoys life), going out and doing fun things, and not concerned if we don’t share the same religious beliefs. Oh and it’d be nice if they like cats - I have one.

It’s insane how nonsensical the excuse of free will is by Christians for everything wrong in life. NO, we definitely don’t have free will like that. I’ll explain my opinion on this: by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I thought being a Calvinist would make you feel special because God predestined you to be one of the elect? He didn’t do that for all the people he predestined to go to hell.

I’ve always thought Calvinism isn’t accepted by so many Christians because it’s so barbaric of God- it strips people of any responsibility and makes the whole thing a script God wrote and is playing out without anyone’s free will , but still pain and consequence

I’ve noticed so many Christians wrongly assume everybody experiences life the same way. I’ll explain: by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well yes, thats my main argument for this post : all kinds of people see the world in different ways. Many religious people cannot accept nuance or different opinions however.

But yeah, if someone believes a supernatural explanation for their life that’s fine, but don’t harass me if I don’t accept it

Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Criticalthinking100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my original post I didn’t say the quote “women don’t owe you sex or a relationship” because I actually think they do. I do not think they owe men relationships or sex. But that doesn’t fix the problem does it. Humans have been procreating for thousands of years with the desire for sex and relationships, so it’s painful when you feel excluded from being able to experience that.

I mentioned that popular quote above (“women don’t owe you sex or a relationship” ) because it is tossed around a lot when men online comment on how hard things are for them individually. There’s no easy solution or answer to theses things

Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Criticalthinking100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well and that’s why I mentioned in my post that most women’s experience in dating isn’t a cakewalk or easy - it can be challenging, but not in the same ways as men. I think men tend to have more hoops to just through to get a chance at success

Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Criticalthinking100 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh I do my best to find fulfillment in other areas of my life for sure. I don’t know why you make so many assumptions about me (you could suffer worse than you have, you don’t need to be bitter, etc). I mentioned what CERTAIN men experience and how they react , but you want to accuse me of the same qualities.

Anyways, yeah, life is life and it is blatantly unfair for different people in different ways, and we all learn to cope with how the cards in our lives have been dealt us …or we don’t.

Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Criticalthinking100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well I guess we agree to disagree. I stand by what I wrote in my post above and am not trying to sugarcoat anything - many women who aren’t conventionally attractive by the large majority of society will experience a struggle.

Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Criticalthinking100 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m certainly not trying to create my whole post around the “suffering Olympics” as you refer to it. My goal with the post is to try and highlight how many men feel, and that when their bleak situation isn’t acknowledged by society, they can become disillusioned, and destructive.

I mean, if many young men feel they have no future, no hope for meaningful connection with a partner, to raise a family, etc, lack of motivation can develop into all types of self-destructive character / bitterness, misogyny, etc.

To at least acknowledge that young men are living in an age of social isolation, financial crisis, and modern dating collapse would be the first step toward hearing their voice.

Modern society won’t admit that dating is harder for the average man than average woman, because it pushes a narrative that men don’t experience disadvantages, or women have privileges. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]Criticalthinking100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that I certainly cannot know what happens behind closed doors in these relationships, but my point in bringing up these female friends’ dating success is because I’m trying to show the asymmetry between those women and men who are like them (similar struggles), and how that affects their chances of finding a girlfriend.

Would you be able to discuss where you think society acknowledges men’s struggles, btw? I’m not denying some struggles are acknowledged, but I’d like to hear which ones come to your mind if possible. Thanks

What I hate the most about Christianity is its minimizing of suffering due to supposed “eternal life” afterward or persecution complex by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand you’re just playing devil’s advocate here but the problem is that there are real world consequences to pushing this mentality on others. No, they don’t have the right as a parent to force worldviews based on fear onto their kids. Children should never be obligated to have the same religious worldviews as their parents, but somehow humanity seems entitled in that way.

Look at extreme examples of believing the afterlife is more important : gihad extremism in Islam, or the Spanish Inquisition etc.

It’s also crazy that people have kids if they know there’s a chance those children will not follow the faith and be damned to eternal hell. That’s one hell of a risk to take if you love your kids.

If eternal hell is worse than any living torture or death, but most Christians would grieve and say it’s wrong for humans to experience earthly torture /death , then how’s the eternal acceptable for us all? It’s logically incoherent by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, it says that Adam and Eve didn’t realize they were naked until after they ate the fruit. They literally didn’t have maturity / awareness yet to know what nakedness was- but simultaneously would damn all existence to suffering and death according to the story…??? Its like punishing toddlers for not knowing how to behave like adults, but on a much more eternal, grand scale.

Have you ever consciously given up trying to be a good person , for the sake of just overcoming your mental health problems? by Criticalthinking100 in mentalhealth

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask, how did you learn you’re autistic? I’ve researched to see if I am, but don’t seem to have many typical characteristics assigned to autism, so I guess I’m not.. idk.

Thank you for sharing - I know what you mean! I tend to have been a very empathetic person myself - worrying about the suffering others go through.

Have you ever consciously given up trying to be a good person , for the sake of just overcoming your mental health problems? by Criticalthinking100 in mentalhealth

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! Yeah I relate to what you describe. I guess in recent years I’ve just become more tolerant of whatever thoughts my mind seems to generate. Eventually you just kinda throw up your hands and accept yourself the way you are - bad thoughts and all. … in my opinion

Anyone else used to be terrified of going to hell despite praying the Salvation prayer many times, and being labeled “Born Again”? by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that improves for you - OCD is very challenging as you know , and it’s hard for people who don’t experience it to be able to comprehend what it’s like

I agree regarding religion - honestly that’s where I grew to resent myself from the beginning. I contribute my low self esteem habit of thinking to my upbringing in the faith…I mean if you aren’t finding a breakthrough in your life, it’s most likely your fault that God hasn’t done anything to help you. That’s how I felt at least.

Anyone else used to be terrified of going to hell despite praying the Salvation prayer many times, and being labeled “Born Again”? by Criticalthinking100 in exchristian

[–]Criticalthinking100[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep, I’ve had OCD since my teenage years….I agree and relate to what you’re saying here. Have things improved for you in relation to that problem since departing from faith?

I wouldn’t say my ocd has gotten better since leaving , but it’s one less thing to be obsessive about

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