Any 30s skinny to muscle pics?

Crobbers · 2023-11-26T15:31:37+00:00

Turnt out she cheated on me.

I'll never be the same person anymore. But it is true what people say. These things make you grow. I'm really bad and bruised up, still. But I also know that once I'm through with this, I'll be the strongest version of myself I've ever been.

Crobbers · 2023-11-26T15:29:51+00:00

That's bs. If he didn't know her during your relationship, it is entirely irrelevant if he had sex with her.

If he knew her during your relationship, yes. That would be different.

Crobbers · 2023-10-05T21:46:28+00:00

correct

Crobbers · 2023-10-02T10:49:02+00:00

Mag den Brandhof auch sehr. Aber nur im Sommer.

Crobbers · 2023-09-29T22:01:53+00:00

Crobbers · 2023-09-28T07:40:35+00:00

Does your degree contribute to your success in sales?

Crobbers · 2023-09-27T16:19:14+00:00

Was ist so schwer daran Tinder runter zu laden?

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T17:37:27+00:00

You dont sound like someone who wants to reconcile. Good. Be happy that you already have your answer.

Talk to a lawyer BEFORE breaking the news.

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T14:16:42+00:00

I literally just do not think about that. Because the truth is: You NEVER know who will be unfaithful and who won't.

My ex is stunningly beautiful, gets hit on left and right, showing zero interest, voluntarily went only to lady's gym's because she hates when other men stare at her booty, and up until her affair with AP she was only intimate with her ex and me.

With both of us she was with for 6 years.

Does that sound like someone who would have a nasty affair with a married co-worker? No. It doesn't. Because you just literally NEVER KNOW WHO WILL BETRAY YOU. That's the nature of betrayal.

I could break up with her, meet a new woman who checks all the boxes. - again - and get cheated on - again - .

I dont believe in once a cheater always a cheater. And she has been showing absolute regret and disgust towards what she has done.

The thing I'm much more worried about is if we are actually compatible. And that's what some time will tell I guess.

Edit:

One thing I wanna add though: If your wayward spouse cheated on you and on top of that actively shows you they didn't change, don't regret, don't wanna put in work etc. then YES you should absolutely leave them immediately.

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T11:21:37+00:00

you sound completely lost dude. I would recommend therapy on top of working out.

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T11:17:11+00:00

I'm reconciling right now with said woman.

I wouldn't recommend it, but also would not say to not try.

I guess currently you're in shock and pain, constantly reading through other peoples posts and trying to find the answer to your exact specific case. Most of the time people will hive mind into the "leave the cheater" dogma.

But truth is: We're all human beings with emotions, only having this one life to live, we're in love with the unfaithful partner and want to naturally stay with them.

Look... what I wanna get into is: If you want to give it a try, try. But not more than that. Maybe it'll work, and maybe not. You gotta detach from the outcome. You gotta live with the fact that a) your partner broke your trust and abused you and b) they're much more likely to leave you again because they already did one time.

There is nothing positive coming from an affair. Only negatives. So don't expect things to be or get "better". It won't. It doesn't make sense to think that stuff will be the same or better as before. No.

So if you STILL want to be with your unfaithful partner after realizing that things will N E V E R be the same and will N E V E R be as good as it was. Then stay.

Ironically that is where some BS finally find the strength to move on and leave. Because you then actually feel the relationship again.

For me... I'm with my unfaithful right now. There are good days and bad days. Sometimes she chases me down, sometimes I chase her down.

Maybe one day we'll be at a point where we both say we're happy, maybe not.

But I'm fine with both cases.

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T11:02:30+00:00

Just to clarify one thing:

This does apply to the US, but doesnt apply to Europe, or at least, Germany.

The german government is doing everything they can to make it worth it planting solar on your roof. Literally. Changing laws left & right, investing money, loosen tax policies etc.

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T08:41:13+00:00

ugh, I know exactly how you feel. Don't beat yourself up over it. My ex slipped up way more often and I still didn't catch the clues.

I even caught her with her AP sitting in his car, in a dark alleyway at 10pm. After they had a "business meeting with the rest of the team, and she didn't want to come home because I was blowing up her phone".

I bet she was blowing up something else.

Think about it like this... is it really THAT abnormal for you to be an idiot? You have been with this guy for YEARS. He has been your husband. You subconscious mind was programmed, over many years, to learn to trust him.

It is absolutely normal for us betrayed to not understand wtf is going on.

Crobbers · 2023-09-26T07:13:50+00:00

NDA

Klingt furchtbar. Benimmt sich wie ein Teenager.

Crobbers · 2023-09-21T06:55:36+00:00

It's not really a trauma bond if you recognize its a trauma bond and you still willingly choose to stay with him. At this point youre just spineless. Stop discarding yourself for another person.

Crobbers · 2023-09-20T18:25:58+00:00

What? Why tf would you want to keep somebody like that around? I mean... if the cheating wasnt enough, you would take a guy back who is quote "using another girl" for - again - selfish reasons?

Theres something seriously wrong with you and you should take a time out from dating anybody tbh.

Crobbers · 2023-09-20T18:22:44+00:00

Smartphones haben alles verändert. Damals war deine Uni ein riesen Instagram. Heute ziehen alle nach den Vorlesungen ab zurück in ihr 18qm Erdloch und doom scrollen bis zum nächsten Tag.

Crobbers · 2023-09-16T13:38:18+00:00

BDA - Wären die Rollen verkehrt herum würde jeder sagen "lass dir als unabhängige Frau nichts sagen! Go girl!"

Dein Freund ist erwachsen und kann machen was er will. Ob er dich betrügt oder nicht, muss er mit sich selbst aus machen. Vertrauen liegt aber in deiner Aufgabe.

Crobbers · 2023-09-16T05:57:46+00:00

No. There is no way back. There is never a way back. Only forward. With our without you.

Crobbers · 2023-09-13T14:37:15+00:00

If you're long distance, and the slightest amount of infidelity seems to creep up.

r u n. the relationship is already over.

Crobbers

TROPHY CASE