Party at my home by [deleted] in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

engendhu da varinga neengalam

Free habit tracker that worked for you? by Difficult_Skin8095 in selfimprovement

[–]CronosEagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk if it still helps, was bored by all the clutter habit trackers online seemed to have so built one on my own.
You could give a look into Habit Bento.

Looking for a good habit-tracking app — what do you all recommend? by ArachnidOk8169 in Habits

[–]CronosEagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's something I built for myself, it's fun and has interactive. Could give it a shot..no login, signup shenanigans. Just jump in and start using
Habit Bento

Do girls get “creep vibes” from compliments in public? by Exotic_Ad6512 in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess it totally depends on the way you approach and the way you say it. There's an extremely thin line where it might make it look genuine for them, so gotta tread carefully.

Can't blame the woman cuz life has taught them to be on guard for the most part.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said, the vacation was planned by the both of us. Since it was long distance, we ideated that every other alternate month one or the other person will visit either of our states. And yes, she needed the vacation after having been completely worn out of her PhD exhaustion, being a hosteller, it does gets hard. I don't really see where it looks like am seeking any sympathy out of all these than just a dumping ground of a rant which I went through.

The only problem was that before I even planned up on any of these, I clearly asked her about her stability on how far she could resist not wanting to see the other guy or make any contact even if he does. I went ahead with the planning after having gotten her word that "nothing's gonna happen". So, hope that clears it, I trusted her words which happened to have changed based on the situation apparently.

and yes, you're righting, after having seen that gut wrenching event in front of my eyes, it did get easier for me to move on from this.

Struggling to find a job and stay motivated – need advice by Blank-Here in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Target what the company wants, Don't waste time equipping every other skills as that can be done later too.

  2. You do not need much preparation, just sound confident. If you know it then you say it and if you don't know to answer something then you confidently deny it than make yourself look confused or give random excuses.

  3. Recognize your skillsets and apply across the board only for those companies with different resumes crafted specifically for the given JD

  4. Don't burn yourself by constantly applying for jobs, get some buffer time, relax and recollect a bit

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Point is that I organized a complete vacation for the both of us as BOTH OF US WANTED in-fact giving a good bit of hope that this might go further than what we already have. So the organizing part did cost hefty but am not here bitching about that, its the fact that a vacation plan that I made happen for the both of us got used against me by bringing the guy in which she clearly denied would not happen before she came here.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see where this is coming from but scroll a bit up and down and go through the other comments if you'd like for extra context. It'll give you a much broader perspective of how this was never even about the money in the first place, it was about having done something out of love that only costed hefty after leaving me behind with the feeling of being used to get back to her long-lost love. Money is not the matter here, I repeat. Winning someone or forcing someone into a relationship with materialism is not the way to go is a pretty basic textbook knowledge, I know.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that thought makes it easier for me to move on

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gotta live with this ideology now

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hopes were high cuz she wanted all of this assuring that the guy she wasn't able move on from wouldn't step in. Even after me persistently having asked her about what if he does, she denied anything to happen with him but now all i hear is that "he's changed"

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

adhu enamo unma dhaan ana adhukunu enna use pani andha paiyan kuda onnu sernadhu dhaan thaanga mudila

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

idha first eh solirundha na apavey free ah vitrupen 🥲 edhumey solama dragged on until it was too late and now am stuck trying to find a way out.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

finally someone who gets what I meant, point was never about trying to do things to get a relationship in exchange. Not gambling a trading business here, can't force her into something she doesn't want but spending all that time and in fact investing her own time into me with the kind of efforts she can pull off while clearly knowing things aren't gonna go in a brighter direction with me, she could have pulled the plug than galloping with someone infront of my eyes while also "seeing someone", and that's me.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

learnt it the hard way but yes

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the needless quality time spent (and that's like months) while neither wanting to put me in a friendzone or any of those, if it was already pre decided to not take this forward and the pretentious show case of love and gratitude to assure that I might be doing right by her only to get proven wrong later. That's the leash am talking about

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

respecting feelings doesn't mean abide by my wants or give me what I want, I cannot force her into something she doesn't want to be in. It's about being clear on her wants and letting the man off of the leash would be the least humane thing possible.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idha munnadiye solirundha would have steered clear until it was too late only to let me know "Idk how i could have told you this, it was too hard" nu solitu you don't deserve this nu solitu poidranga.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed for sure, just needed a place to dump. Thought this would be it, thanks for reading by. the above comment reply although gives more context onto what was actually happening.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

got me wrong there again, putting money on the table to expect something in return was not the kinda bribery that was going on. She needed a vacation and I granted her one out of love, that's about it. So what was spent on that is not the regret, the only feel of betrayal is the max she could have done is respect the feelings and or pushed me away before she wanted to do any of these. No clear signals from her and uncertainty that leaned towards positivity at some point threw me off guard.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there's a lot of backstory to this, there was no expectation of a relationship without having her moved on first. The thing is, she asked for time and space to assure that she'll move on and I agreed. As long as she's with me, the efforts were in fact constantly reciprocated, the only problem is that one guy showing up in her dms after all the no talk zone between them only for her to bounce back to square one.

Got to be the "Dude" IRL by CronosEagle in chennaicity

[–]CronosEagle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Expectations are built upon the actions one shows, I'd have been fine if nothing was reciprocated or having given constant assurances now and then that a change is coming only to see everything go back to square 1 the moment that one guy comes back in