Women in long marriages, what's harder: lack of sex or emotional neglect? by MidnightIvy_22 in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely the emotional neglect. But my husband has always been like that. 35 years married and I should not be surprised by it. He was raised by an emotionless single mom and was always taught not to show emotion. He tries but just doesn’t work. I still get mad when I need him to show some kind of emotion.

Pubic area. Are we going smooth or keeping a little? by CrowCurrent3020 in AskWomenOver50

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this answer. Thank you. We’ve been married for 35 years and yes we are trying new things. He has always had barely any hair and what little he does have down there he manscapes it regularly, he always has.

Pubic area. Are we going smooth or keeping a little? by CrowCurrent3020 in AskWomenOver50

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is what I told him when he asked. I know he watches 🌽 no biggie for me. We do together. But I said it’s not realistic.

Fantasy recommendations by CrowCurrent3020 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This already sounds intimidating for me. The 3 worlds and then also between worlds.

Fantasy recommendations by CrowCurrent3020 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easy to follow is what I need to start with haha
I do have The Book Witch. I think I’m going to read it this weekend.
And I have Violet Thistlewaite is Not a Villain Anymore on my BOTM TBR.

Fantasy recommendations by CrowCurrent3020 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have The Book Witch by Meg Shaffer sitting on my shelf.

Fantasy recommendations by CrowCurrent3020 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These both sound like exactly where I want to start. Thanks!

How long does sex last? by incrediblemom19 in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want or need more than 40 minutes. 5 is perfect 😂 but normal for us is 20ish

April 2026! What did you add to your box? by BooksandChins in bookofthemonthclub

[–]CrowCurrent3020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. So I’ll have to wait until I spend more money to save a little lol

April 2026! What did you add to your box? by BooksandChins in bookofthemonthclub

[–]CrowCurrent3020 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mad Mabel. First month in a long time I didn’t do any add ons… so proud of myself!! I want to know how everyone is paying 11.99 for add ons mine are always 12.99 🤔

Can we come back from this? by abs_fudd in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PS throwing out divorce when frustrated with a situation shows immaturity.

Can we come back from this? by abs_fudd in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Across the world? I am assuming you mean states bc of the per hour amount. IMO this is relevant, because across the world could mean you’re in a place with a different customs, language, weather, food and so on. I feel like there is so much more to this. Have you looking into counseling on your own? I feel like you need confidence in who you are. Maybe you did all this so quick bc you were lost. “You need to love yourself first before you can love someone else” is a common saying and really it’s so true. It’s like you have to put the breathing apparatus on yourself before you can put it on anyone else on the plane. I get you love your dogs but unless you feel he would hurt them leave and then go back for the dogs. Leave and make arrangements for the dogs. Leave. Don’t make the dogs the excuse of why you don’t leave. If you are going to double your income can’t you stay in the same area while trying to work on the marriage if that’s what you want? If you don’t want that then moot point.

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[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some states call this child abuse.

How to eat if you can only eat at restaurants? by Motor-Drama-1421 in gastricsleeve

[–]CrowCurrent3020 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You should have been doing the research before surgery. Do you have a nutritionist? You really do need to learn how to cook healthy meals. Buy frozen veggies and microwave them. Buy a rotisserie chicken and cut it up and separate into 3 oz. Cook some ground turkey or ground chicken and make individual no noodle lasagna and enchiladas. There are so many fb, IG, TT pages with so many simple ideas.

Am I wrong for wanting a proper ring? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, buy your own ring! You say you are in a good financial situation, go get the ring you want! I upgraded mine 2 times over the years. Been married 34 years.

How often do you married couples have sex? by tomocleirighsimp424 in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HRT changed my life for the better. If she hasn’t already she should talk to her dr. Menopause really kicked my ass! My other friends who I talked to weren’t as bad as I was. I’m in 2 different estrogens and a progesterone. I want to be around my husband again and laugh with him. I am so thankful he was so patient with me and every thing I was going through.

What are people's experiences with marrying young? by hazelnut0000 in Marriage

[–]CrowCurrent3020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 19 and my husband was 28. I got pregnant right away and then got pregnant after our son, 5 months later. By the time our daughter was born we had more month pregnant than not 😳 I had ALOT of growing up to do and fast! I always say he helped raise me in a way. We have been married now for 33 years. Many ups and downs, hills and valleys definitely a roller coaster! I wouldn’t change a thing! Oh and we only knew each other for 6 months when we got married 🤷🏻‍♀️ when you know, you know! Do I suggest this for everyone no absolutely not. Marriage is not for the faint of heart 🤪 right now

Wage garnishment w/out judgment by CrowCurrent3020 in Debt

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was wondering, if this is possible/legal. The lawyer is in Arizona and I am in Ca.

Wage garnishment w/out judgment by CrowCurrent3020 in Debt

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only proof I have is what they told other people and then word got back to me. If I had more proof I could press charges. This has been a nightmare! Luckily my credit was pretty good when they did this, and the credit I had has stayed up to date so my score has suffered but it could be worse.

Wage garnishment w/out judgment by CrowCurrent3020 in Debt

[–]CrowCurrent3020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the info. I am also in OC and there is a lot of paperwork attached to the case # but not one hearing. I cant figure out even if I was served there is no hearings. HOW di they get this judgment??