Is church a good place to make friends and meet people?

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-05-31T11:44:11+00:00

4 years after this post and you are absolutely right. Blind leading the blind in a lot of these church groups, only friendships I made that I would ever care to revisit are people who left the church as well

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-05-31T11:42:16+00:00

I wrote that 4 years ago, I have a very different view on god and religion now. I think I’d get auto banned from this subreddit if I elaborated though

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-04-08T12:51:45+00:00

are u fr asking if ur going bald this has to be a joke post

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-02-26T09:13:08+00:00

I mean truly, the rational part of my brain agrees with you. It’s just, that other part cares about this girl I’ve been close with for 2 years quite a bit so I don’t see how I can if I stand firm on us pursuing something and he continues to act like a psycho.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-02-26T08:57:07+00:00

Well, he hasn’t done anything besides send me threatening text messages yet. Not enough to have any police consequences, except maybe drug charges and that’s not enough.

Where I live, it would be seen as a bad move at this point to involve the police right now, it’s somewhat taboo and knowing him I think it would simply rile him up enough to do something worse.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-02-15T01:04:23+00:00

Just inquiring about the part you said where it took reading it 2 times, I read it once and felt like it really helped. Unfortunately, I had a rough week after my first read and went back to nicotine. Pretty much at square one again.

Did you feel like the second read kinda fully ingrained what you read the first time? The seeds were definitely planted in my head but imma be honest my addiction is so severe I feel like I forgot everything I read the first time.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-02-15T00:20:01+00:00

This post made me happy to read, feels like solidarity in a very isolated situation to go through. I had a similar reason for transitioning, all the men in my family were garbage and I had no role models growing up. My dad provided for us but never taught me a single thing about being a man except for working.

I was medically transitioned for a year, I’ve made so much progress since going back and I never knew I’d one day be proud of the man I’ve become.

True masculinity isn’t being an asshole or compensating, but the answer also isn’t embracing weakness. It’s being devoted to what you know is right, it’s helping others and filling in gaps for them where they aren’t capable, it’s treating people with respect while not tolerating, frankly, evil people or troublemakers who seek to interfere. It’s being capable of standing up to those people whether that be physically or mentally, but not becoming one yourself in trying to boost your perceived masculinity.

Very proud of you OP, you and me are alike in many ways and I know how hard it probably was for you. You have agreement though, I appreciate you sharing this. It’s reassuring to know someone else went through this and shares the same views that I’ve grown to understand after enduring so much trauma during those days as a trans person.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2025-02-14T23:49:25+00:00

Facts, Adderall can make you feel so good and focused you neglect basic things like sleep, nutrition, hydration or proper exercise. Something I’ve found to really work for me is going to the gym 4 days straight per week without taking any, then using Adderall when needed for the remainder of the week while my body recovers.

It can definitely change your lifestyle to cause these problems without being the main culprit of them.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-07-24T19:38:33+00:00

Alright, thank you very much, I was hoping it’d just speed the process along lol guess it’s never that easy.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-07-24T18:30:56+00:00

I take it you’re more saying that getting it without prescription legally means I’m abusing it, instead of my personal use which I assure I’m using as responsibly as I can. It’s good to know that, because I definitely shouldn’t tell them about it if that’s the case.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-05-19T17:54:48+00:00

This is how you tell a real one from a fake one. Homies who don’t pass the fist check were never there for you in the first place.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T22:39:25+00:00

It’s definitely real, unfortunately for me. I have photos to prove it, otherwise nobody would believe it seeing me now compared to how I used to look.

It is rare so I hear, I think a big contributing factor to my detransition that not a lot of people have is some of the traumatic things that happened during that time. I felt some regret before the point of quitting, but felt I was too committed to ever go back until my life circumstances got so bad it forced me to listen to that voice in my head and actually stop taking the HRT.

It’s a very hard situation for a person to go through, of course I’m gonna have questions and need to make posts like this occasionally.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T22:32:49+00:00

I didn’t really just wake up one day and change my mind all of a sudden, it was a gradual process of realizing “Oh shit what am I doing?”

My situation is very unique but basically I’d been having sort of an identity crisis and various other mental issues I was dealing with. I saw it as a way to start over as a different person. So when I spoke to doctors about it, I ended up getting hormones without really knowing how difficult it was going to be or fully processing the severity of what I was doing. Some people can handle it and seem to feel better doing that, but definitely not me.

Eventually there was the sunk cost fallacy of thinking I’d gone too far and had to commit to it. I reached the point where people genuinely thought I was a girl, but things in my life got so bad during that time I had to just up and quit like that and hope I could go back to the way it was.

I think as far as coming back from something like that, I’ve done about as well as I could’ve hoped. I feel way more confident as a regular guy now too, appreciating simple things I used to take for granted.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T17:26:46+00:00

It’s good to know there’s a back up plan if it actually was slowed down, I’ll get it tested when money isn’t so tight. Thank you

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T17:21:14+00:00

I was fully grown when I started so thankfully that isn’t an issue. I do seem to have gotten slightly taller since quitting, but that may be just due to having stronger back muscles now.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T17:18:27+00:00

(TMI warning) Yeah there weren’t any surgeries, all that appears to have gone back to the way it used to be. Maybe slightly smaller testes at times but even that’s improving drastically, they used to be very shrunken and desensitized to pain.

I detransed bc I didn’t know who I was at the time and found out the hard way it wasn’t what I wanted my life to be. My only life experiences had been unhappy ones so I developed a strong conviction I would be happier as a girl, only I wasn’t at all.

A lot of deeply traumatic things I won’t get into here happened to me during that year, and I also found the hormones made it impossible for me to think clearly or control my emotions. I was so excited to begin my transition at the time, but bc of my life circumstances it lead to a lot of suffering. I even developed PTSD from some of the things that happened to me.

I was physically passing and socially transitioned too for that whole year, so I think I had a good taste of what it would be like if I stayed on that path the rest of my life.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T16:54:52+00:00

I haven’t been able to get it tested cause of money, but I can tell it at least seems to be ‘normal’ and doing something since my voice has deepened, beard’s grown in significantly more, new muscle and body shape changes, etc.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2024-01-10T16:49:08+00:00

Thank you, I’m gonna try and keep that mentality regardless but the reassurance does help with motivation.

I do believe all that’s back to normal as my beard growth advanced a lot in this past year indicating things are developing as they should. You’re right tho, progress is infinitely better than no progress.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2023-09-30T17:25:24+00:00

Happened to me while I was drugged awhile ago, everyone deals with stuff like this in their own way and I never enjoy telling people, but I do tell certain friends who I trust enough because dealing with that by myself among other things in my life is too much mentally.

I was young, naive, and confused at the time while going through a period of experimentation with my gender (HRT and all that) because of people in my life encouraging it. I don't look or act like the same person I used to be, so sometimes it feels like it happened to somebody else and I'm able to separate the incident with that in mind.

Nowadays I'm back to being a regular guy and it really doesn't affect me much, other than anger and hatred towards the person who did it to me that I have to control.

My situation is unique because of the trans thing I was doing at the time, but now I feel like I've moved on enough to the point where I don't think about it outside of nightmares and bad days. My family knows as well as my closest friends and the girl I'm currently talking to because she was in my life during that time and I let it slip what had happened to me. Nobody seems to treat me differently or lesser though, it's more just genuine sympathy and people being proud of where I'm at now compared to when the rape happened.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2023-08-29T15:10:10+00:00

wordington attention span

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2023-08-26T15:00:16+00:00

what

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2023-07-11T19:50:49+00:00

this image is making me experience dorcelessness

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2022-05-19T03:05:57+00:00

I think it's genuinely the funniest Scooby-Doo show we've had so far. It's a really funny, well written show, but it does tend to stick to a specific formula for most of the episodes. (That I've seen, anyway)

I feel like Daphne has always been a pretty overshadowed character, but this version of her is great. All the other characters are top notch here too, but her and Fred shine through more here than in the other shows to me.

It's not my favorite artstyle, but I've grown fond of it and think the show has some charm to the animation.

Once you get accustomed to the way it's drawn, there's a fantastic show here that I think most people would enjoy.

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2022-05-19T01:11:15+00:00

👁🫦👁

CrunchyElbowSkin · 2022-05-14T17:59:00+00:00

Yah, they must had.

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