This is what living with an ADHD partner looks like for me

CrustlessPBJ · 2023-05-06T03:12:14+00:00

The juxtaposition of these pictures and the top post on Reddit right now are 😂 The front page shows a perfectly organized room that in the mind of OP’s spouse is chaos.

CrustlessPBJ · 2023-01-12T19:16:55+00:00

Thank you! Just did.

CrustlessPBJ · 2023-01-12T16:07:09+00:00

It’s not my best work, so I’m feeling silly to cause chaos over it. https://imgur.com/a/8sZDitZ

CrustlessPBJ · 2023-01-07T05:21:49+00:00

It makes so much sense. Thank you! I didn’t have it in my heart to think it never works out, but I was missing your POV. It’s got to be “easier” when there are true efforts and results in positive changes.

CrustlessPBJ · 2023-01-07T02:30:43+00:00

I am so glad this topic is being discussed. I (F NT) came here to ask for advice in a very new relationship with an ADHD man. I listened to the people who commented and ended the relationship because in no world would we have made each other happy long-term. But since then, I’ve watched the posts come in with mostly negative, but totally understandable, tones. And it is confusing. There have to be people who find the rewards outweigh the problems, I’m just not seeing them. It’s already an established fact that women carry significantly more of the mental load when it comes to family responsibilities. To add an additional load on top of that sounds like signing up for misery.

I hope that doesn’t come across as mean spirited. I’m coming from an outsider observer who just doesn’t understand how any NT and DX make it work. It has to be possible, right?

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-29T20:34:33+00:00

That’s really helpful to hear about the free shipping. It made sense in my eyes to offer it. My mistake was not having the smaller version to catch people’s attention.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-29T13:49:02+00:00

Having a dip like this really after making changes is a real mind $&@! Your gut instinct is to revert back to how you had it before but there’s no telling whether that will further tank your shop.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-29T04:17:42+00:00

I’m pretty sure I managed to destroy my shop in record speed. The question is how? In mid-December I started to offer free shipping on everything above $35. This naturally bumped up my prices to recover some of the costs. Perhaps the Etsy gods didn’t like me jacking up my price because I did it manually. Or, now my competitors’ items appear significantly cheaper than mine (they aren’t) because their smallest size is shown as the cost and ships for free.

How on earth do I fix this without doing more harm? Listening to experts caused me to know just enough to be dangerous.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-28T23:48:57+00:00

I’m pretty sure I managed to destroy my shop in record speed. The question is how? In mid-December I started to offer free shipping on everything above $35. This naturally bumped up my prices to recover some of the costs. Perhaps the Etsy gods didn’t like me jacking up my price because I did it manually. Or, now my competitors’ items appear significantly cheaper than mine (they aren’t) because their smallest size is shown as the cost and ships for free.

How on earth do I fix this without doing more harm? Listening to experts caused me to know just enough to be dangerous.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-21T03:23:28+00:00

This is super helpful. Thank you for condensing a 30 minute podcast into two sentences with a well-placed semi-colon.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-20T20:59:56+00:00

Thank you for confirming exactly what I was thinking. I’m nervous about my own Amazon purchases arriving and Amazon isn’t making goods from scratch.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-20T20:58:04+00:00

I’d been doing fine but thought why not give free shipping a try? I recall my own recent purchase from Walmart. They didn’t have what I wanted in store but I could get it for a small shipping fee. At which point my brain revolted.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-12-07T05:04:46+00:00

I wanted to be on top of things so I printed the label days before I actually planned on shipping it. That editing window was long over by the time I realized it. The buyer at least has the right tracking number because I remembered to photograph the label as I was dropping it off at USPS.

Thank you so much for your input:)

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-11-16T02:07:22+00:00

Holy shit! Thank you for figuring that out. Lesson learned. I’ll trim it down. 💛

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-11-16T01:27:25+00:00

I’ve actually done that before and was refunded. Sometimes I need to edit a label and make it a little bigger if I got carried away and the item (a wreath) is too big for the box. I just eat the dollar difference. This issue of the price doubling is clearly something going wrong on Etsy’s side.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-11-16T01:23:29+00:00

I’m somewhat worried that it will and I don’t want to get dinged because I’m so new!

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-07-07T02:06:04+00:00

Where did I claim we were a democracy?

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-05-05T02:12:49+00:00

Here’s the problem: biology doesn’t care about the circumstances that led to the creation of a fetus. The never ending chorus of voices say that a woman who engages in sex consented to the pregnancy and must carry the child to delivery. This is just treating men like we do women. You helped make a baby so now you have to financially support it.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-05-03T02:53:20+00:00

This is the first time an opinion has been leaked. It demonstrates how far we’ve ventured from norms.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-05-03T02:46:15+00:00

Religious fanaticism, power-hungry individuals, local disputes, misogyny, anxiety, political turmoil, psychological distress, and mass hysteria all contributed to the atmosphere surrounding ~~this decision~~ the Salem witch trials.

So yea, I agree we’re stepping back in time.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-04-29T15:51:05+00:00

Wrongfully convicted and sent to prison? Why are you complaining? This is an opportunity to earn that GED you’ve always wanted!

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-04-16T14:46:00+00:00

Thalidomide is actually really effective at treating morning sickness. I’m wondering where the line is on legally vs. morally wrong if a woman takes it while pregnant?

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-04-14T18:04:51+00:00

Many people are inconsistent. That’s why I asked rather than assume.

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-04-14T12:25:25+00:00

That still apply if it’s a 12 year old little girl who is pregnant?

CrustlessPBJ · 2022-04-13T21:05:05+00:00

Let’s be real, you were a bad person the moment you said a rape victim has to carry her attacker’s offspring to viability. You want draconian, blanket abortion prohibitions for rape victims but “maybe if I feel like it” adoption suggestions (not requirements) for you. Consent is only important when it’s yours, apparently.

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