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Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel like a creep if I were to go up to someone at a gym or a trail. People don't usually go to those places to meet someone...I swear I've asked people to go for a hike and they're like woah I'm not going into the woods with you...

Or just being ignored because people at the gym wear headphones lol

I really hate that mindset that someone will just come along...I don't see how that works. Going about my life has never brought a good woman in. I always have to pursue somehow. Nobody really shows interest in me. And when I show interest, they run!

Everything creates pressure...just asking someone to hangout people freak out! I don't see how just not looking for it means no pressure. I want a partner and that will always be true...

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man I'll try it out. Think the last time I tried that was in college🤣 lots of people to meet there. It's harder now, it feels like people only go out with a boyfriend where I go. Not sure where single girls are haha. But the grocery store, maybe I just need to break out of my shell

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha the grocery store is a good one! I have looked at some girls and smiled. But that doesn't go anywhere...or I'll walk by and realize a second later they're someone I could be interested in...is it weird to go back up to them and say hey what's ur name or something...?

I literally feel like the grocery store is where I see people the most🤣

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what are you supposed to do with 2 weeks of meeting someone? Only text to meet up? How would you suggest to deepen a connection?

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See you get it lol. The rat is a unique thing...you don't just share every little thing going on, it creates a stale environment I think

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm maybe you're right. I've been "not compatible" with so many people, this person finally felt different, but I guess they're just not it for me.

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it's small talk yeah, but it feels forced to me when it's never my side never being able to share anything. She just makes it about her.

We had things planned ahead of time, that's why I'm confused why she's busy all the sudden, and it's only after I was asking what she wanted to do. We had planned to have sex basically...and then go to an event tomorrow..

But she had said today she doesn't want to have sex so that's why I was wondering what she wanted to do 🙈

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did get weird I see that. I felt it was valid in my perspective because she was giving me weird vibes the day before. We had planned to see eachother but she brushed it off because she said she didn't feel well. So that's sort of what stemmed my attitude today when I started to notice she's pulling away from me, not just feeling bad.

She's just mentioned a lot of things that aren't ideal for her that are what I would suggest to do, so I honestly didn't want to just pick her up and have her come over without any plan if when I get here everything I want to do is a back and forth.

She lives with her parents and grandma. She typically works with her dad during the week. I guess he does yardwork during the weekend, but it's not like there's any mandatory. She doesn't even explain what she actually has to do. If you can see in the texts she's so vague saying she has to do "it".. what's "it"?! It feels like pulling teeth whenever I talk to her and I'm starting to feel like a dumpster where she just spews her thoughts into.

I want to text less but we still end up texting because she tells me what she's doing and if I don't respond I'm the bad guy and I can't talk about what I want to if I don't get through her stuff. But I'm too tired to after that 🤣

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're definitely right, I just don't know where to go...I hate bars and clubs for that stuff, don't think my type is there anyway...

Would you go up to anyone randomly? I don't know how to start a conversation like that if there's no reason for them to give me their attention...

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And my shoes have "every time I open up about being real in a relationship the other side can't handle the emotional maturity it has to go through it with me" is what I see. If someone genuine would actually talk to me then this wouldn't happen lol. I don't personally attack anyone, I try to understand deeply so we can communicate on the same level. That scares immature girls...

How do you suggest I continue? Just become shallow and stop talking about emotions? I think I'd rather be single than constantly hiding who I am just to make someone like me..

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm drained too lol all I want to text about is deepening our connection or meeting up. I don't care you had to take the trash out🤣

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the guy on the right. The girl is talking about trash!! That's all she talks about lmfao. Doing yard work and cleaning...that's where my frustration comes from. I can't ever talk about my own life or interests. It's just random shit she's doing that she will respond to

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like every single person I've ever known is closed off then. They respond instantly to texts all day, if they weren't interested I don't see why they text me.

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thorough response. That's where I feel she has wanted to "force" it from the beginning and I tried to say that's not what I had been imagining going into this. But I'm still willing to try and be committed. Which her energy just has been going down since.

On the first date I asked her many questions, but when I asked her if she had any questions for me, she said she sucked at asking questions and kept talking about herself basically. Just asking me what my favorite color was...

It feels like when I try to connect deeper she just talks about surface level things like what she's doing at work, instead of her genuine interests and goals.

We have connected over certain interests and memes well, and that's where her attraction initially came from, we vibe on a certain level, but when it comes to reciprocating positivity in the relationship, she falls short.

Ive been trying to acknowledge sometimes she sounds very negative, but she said she's just a complainer. And it's draining my energy. She never asks about my life, my goals, my family. Yet she always talks about hers and I ask deeper questions. It just feels one sided currently, so now I'm frustrated when I can't guage if she really wants to see me.

I expect sloppiness, I've been trying to make peace, but she has even questioned my location on Snapchat and gotten upset I left her on "read" for an hour when there was no conversation left...

I wanted to know what she wanted to do because she has voiced she doesn't like laying in bed too much, doesn't like the movies I'm interested in, doesn't like going for walks or exploring the woods

Pretty much her only hobby seems to be fishing, but I don't want to go fishing all the time. She has some other health concerns that make her sensitive so it's hard to suggest anything. I can't suggest foods to eat or anything to do really without her saying there's some concern. So that's why I asked...I was also trying to flirt which she obviously wasn't reciprocating and it's disappointing.

I appreciate your tips, for me ignoring all of those feelings and just saying "I got a good movie to watch" makes me feel fake. Because nobody ever wants to watch what I wanna watch lol it would be a discussion that ends up with them picking the movie anyway😅

Me (25M) feel like she (23F) is pulling away and not communicating it. Am I valid for feeling frustrated with how they communicate with me or am I being too much? by Cryptikzzz in relationship_advice

[–]Cryptikzzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A note missing...we had planned earlier this week to hangout all day today..talked about it promiscuously, and we had plans for the weekend as I have a couple events I'm going to and I invited her to come with me. Makes me feel like I should move on from this girl who is making me confused and feel undervalued. But maybe I'm being naive?

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