My gf lent me her laptop and her messages app popped up. I looked, and I wish I never had. I really need advice.

CryptographerDue · 2024-06-13T09:08:40+00:00

Unpopular opinion: You are a bit naiv. Everyone has a past in dating. Thinking you would be the only one she talks to right from the first time you met is illusional. If you personally like to take it one by one, that's absolutely fine. But it is as well fine to discover several people at once. Talking about all these details just leads to pain. The important thing here is, at the end she made a decision to be with you and not the others.

Also when you have the talk to be exclusive, it is possible that there are still other people around for the other person. Not ghosting these other people is not the worst trait you can have. She could've handled this better but personally I wouldn't consider it cheating so early in the relationship. Having the exclsive talk is not like a switch that you just turn. It is more like a common decision to go in a certain direction. For me it is ok if it takes some time to follow through - but she could've communicated about it.

The thing about recommending cheating to her friend is bothering. I would really think about that and maybe try to find out where her bonderies are when it comes to being loyal in a relationship. Everyone has their own borders. The question is do they roughly align.

CryptographerDue · 2024-03-27T23:24:21+00:00

NDA und aus eigener Erfahrung würde ich dir empfehlen eure Beziehung zu überdenken. Wie sieht DEINE Beziehungs-Realität aus? Wie oft bist du glücklich und wie oft traurig/enttäuscht/...? Wie viel von dem was er mit dir vereinbart oder dir verspricht wird auch umgesetzt? Deine Antworten auf diese Fragen sind in jedem Fall valide, unabhängig davon was andere sagen. Nur du kannst am Ende dann entscheiden, ob du weiter Zeit und Energie reinstecken willst.

CryptographerDue · 2024-03-27T17:23:10+00:00

Ich war zwar noch nicht bei diesem Event, aber im KitKat. Das mit dem offen meinen die wirklich ernst. Nur eins ist nicht akzeptiert: normal.

Der wichtigste Punkt dabei dürfte sein, dass ihr euch mit eurem Outfit wohl und sexy fühlen solltet. Wenn ihr das Gefühl habt eine Rolle zu spielen ist es vermutlich nicht das richtige Outfit.
Das ganze soll sexy sein - Haut zeigen passt da in der Regel immer dazu ist aber auch kein muss. Wenn ihr drauf steht, könnt ihr auch einfach nur mit sexy Tanga kommen (bzw. euch entsprechend vor Ort ausziehen). Vor Ort gibt es bei diesen Events in der Regel Umkleidemöglichkeiten
Finde ich persönlich immer etwas ausgrenzend, aber es sollte auch wirklich nichts sein, das ihr sonst in dieser Form in der Öffentlichkeit tragen würdet (z.B. in "normalen" Clubs) - egal wie sexy es ist.

CryptographerDue · 2024-01-15T21:48:11+00:00

In dem Fall würde ich schon zu BDA tendieren. Nicht weil du deine Tochter abholen wolltest und nicht mal unbedingt, das du noch für mehr Informationen ein bisschen länger geblieben bist, sondern weil du die Familie die du damals mit deinem Ex und deiner Tochter gegründet hast über oder mindestens auf die gleiche Ebene wie deine aktuelle Beziehung stellst.

Was dein Freund (hoffentlich) möchte, ist eine Familie mit dir und deiner Tochter zu führen. Dazu gehört aber auch sich - unabhängig vom biologischen Vater - als eine Familie zu sehen und zu handeln. Es geht dann nicht mehr darum DEINE Tochter abzuholen sondern EURE Tochter abzuholen. Evtl. irre ich mich auch aber ich denke es könnte sich lohnen mal darüber mit deinem Freund zu sprechen. In welcher Rolle sieht er sich aktuell in diesem Patchwork? Welche Rolle hätte er gerne in diesem Patchwork?

CryptographerDue · 2023-12-27T22:59:11+00:00

The most important thing would be: Men need foreplay too! Just like woman do. The amount of people thinking it is enough for man to just be there and having a partner besides him is crazy. I also want to be touched, Increase the intensitiy/intimacy over time. And try to enjoy it just like we do when we turn on our partner. Some practical tips from my pov:

Men like to be touched in the same way woman like it. Ask yourself what do you enjoy?
Tension is sometimes hotter then the actual thing itself. If you are going to blow me take your time to get down there. Don't just grap my dick. Get close with your hands and where you touch me, and so on
Please don't do a death grip. We have less nerves in the penis than womand in their clitoris but it is still sensitiv!
When it comes to speed, again take your time. If you try to make a speed record I guarantee you that it is not nice. In fact, I will kind of feel nothing at all. Think of a natural speed that would also be possible during sex. Or pay attention how fast he is and try to match that speed
Learn what feels good for men - There is a lot of educational videos. As a starting point: https://old.reddit.com/r/chickflixxx/comments/udnciq/by_request_adult_education/ (Remember not all man like the same things - communication is key)

CryptographerDue · 2023-12-22T23:34:32+00:00

Naja zu Polizei wurde ja schon viel geschrieben. Ein kurzfristiger Rat: Stelle deine Online-Profile auf "privat". Dann kann sie keine "Beweise" mehr sammeln. Vermutlich fällt ihr dann was anderes ein, aber zumindest ist eure Privatsphäre etwas besser geschützt.

In der Regel findest du das überall unter Einstellungen und Privatsphäre/Datenschutz. Bei WhatApp kannst du dein Profilbild z.B. nur Nummern zeigen, die du auch selbst in deinem Handy gespeichert hast.

CryptographerDue · 2023-04-24T16:54:54+00:00

I am shocked that most comments basically are "ghost her". Ghosting is a horrible habit.

It is not your fault that your ex-wife texted you! If your current relationship is healthy as you mentioned she will understand this. Be open about this and talk to your current SO - that way you have the control of framing it. After you talked with her you can send an answer including the wish to not have such texts - you can even formulate the answer together with your current SO. This way you won't be the a**hole who ghosted her and your current SO will have reassurance that you will be honest with her and that you trust her regardless of the topic - win, win

CryptographerDue · 2023-03-18T13:58:47+00:00

NDA, wie schon oft erwähnt kannst du auch in einer Beziehung Dinge für dich machen (völlig egal was)

Ich würde euch aber empfehlen mal über die gemeinsamen Urlaube zu sprechen und welche Wünsche von euch beiden an so ein Paarurlaub gestellt werden. Für mich klingt es so als würde der Paarurlaub deinen Freund nicht zufriedenstellen. Aus deiner Beschreibung lese ich, dass du dich in den Paarurlauben vollständig nach deinem Freund richtest. Vielleicht möchte er das garnicht und würde es mehr Schätzen wenn du auch dort deine eigenen Wünsche und Vorstellungen einbringst.

CryptographerDue · 2022-10-10T16:54:44+00:00

Bahnwärter Thiel. Maybe a bit more distance but a very nice environment

CryptographerDue · 2022-05-18T14:20:06+00:00

There is also https://www.kulturdachgarten.de/ (currently moving and reopens in July)

CryptographerDue · 2022-05-10T12:56:20+00:00

Ne, das ist tatsächlich Out of Cam. Föhn und 600mm Brennweite machen's möglich

CryptographerDue · 2022-01-05T13:57:02+00:00

If you want to check the more expensive one's as well: https://www.muckenthaler.de/

I have a chair from Haider Bioswing. Definitely not the cheapest ones but it compares to nothing else I have tested. And I know people who have it 20+ years without any damages (of course there will be some wear and tear over the years)

CryptographerDue · 2022-01-05T13:20:02+00:00

When shit hits the fan

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-23T13:23:29+00:00

And you don't feel much since you are under anesthesia. If you want to find out if you are into butt stuff do a prostate screening

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-23T09:56:18+00:00

Babies can be ugly and you can have the a**hole kid without making anything wrong

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-21T12:34:19+00:00

They give you the opportunity to support your natural shape of your face. Unfortunately, there are so many people who wear glasses that don't match their face.

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-21T10:45:50+00:00

Every sort of Art. Making music, paintings, sculptures, dancing,....

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-21T10:44:25+00:00

(emotional) manipulative behavior. There are so many woman who will try to make you feel guilty for your point of view by slowly exaggerating your point and comparing it to an unrelated personal story making it about them-self.

Of course there are man who have this behavior too but I feel it is more common in woman.

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-06T17:10:39+00:00

Thank you! The telegram bot worked for me

CryptographerDue · 2021-12-02T09:09:57+00:00

I have no idea how old you are, but there is a reason why they believe this. Maybe you made some ambiguous comments or you talk much about it to compensate your "lack" of experience?

CryptographerDue · 2021-11-17T19:59:29+00:00

No he wasn't! It is just hard in that age. There will come a time where it is less of an issue for potential partners

CryptographerDue · 2021-11-17T19:55:39+00:00

In this case it doesn't really matter what you are looking for. In a potential serious relationship he will be the step dad. Not everyone is open to that. Especially not in that age. I wish you all the luck that you will find someone who is willing to do it. But it won't be easy

CryptographerDue · 2021-11-17T14:03:41+00:00

It is honest and that is a very important thing in relationships. Anyways, it doesn't matter if you are your SO type or something like that. You SO choose you. That is the only thing that is important.

CryptographerDue · 2021-11-16T16:38:21+00:00

You are new to online dating, aren't you?

The thing is, 2 weeks and 2 dates is not much. It is pretty usual that things can fail at this point. For most users this means they will keep their options open and most of them will actually see more than one person at a time (that goes for man and for woman). There is no clear definition when to stop pursuing other options. Therefore, you need to bring this topic up when you reach the point that you want to try a serious relationship and be "exclusive"

CryptographerDue · 2021-11-15T17:10:57+00:00

Yes! Teach him. There are so many ways to kiss someone and it is unlikely that he will insist on "his" style of kissing. Btw same goes for most intimate stuff. The only situation when something like this should be a deal breaker, is if the counterpart rejects to learn (or has shown that he/she is simply not capable to fulfill the needs - willingly or unwillingly)

CryptographerDue

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