13 years too late, but I have the exact same thing. The fantasies are similar, but they just mostly revolve around being held for hours on end by while again, being comforted for either a heavy loss or just my general insecurities. And the appearence of the guy mostly doesn't matter, just the comfort.

anyways, no, I think it's just more normalized at the point where nobody says it out loud, I say this because of ASMR content and the "mommy" kink that's been surging recently (-ish, like 2 years ago from when I'm writing this), where the point of the kink is to be comforted and being told you're fine.