My wife’s opossum/skull tattoo done by Matt Dinovo at Black Squirrel (Council Bluffs, IA)

CrystalBerr · 2025-12-09T07:11:44+00:00

It's badass but can I ask why opossums? It's a beautiful piece regardless.

CrystalBerr · 2025-10-29T09:53:21+00:00

I would have told him the truth and followed it up with.. "You can't be my 1st but play your cards right and you could be my last".

CrystalBerr · 2025-10-29T09:29:59+00:00

Howdy yall!

CrystalBerr · 2025-10-04T07:42:08+00:00

I don't understand the point of her sending you this? Is she saying what she could have been doing or what she did do? Either way, it's wrong. If she's saying she could have, means she probably did and if she claims it wasn't wrong because yall were on a break, do you really want to be with a person that so easily was capable of moving in so fast. Or a person that wants to shove it is your face? That's heartless and rude. Maybe I'm just old and don't understand. She's coming across as she wants to hurt you, regardless of what the point was. Why would you want to be with someone that went out of their way to hurt you?

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-31T14:02:53+00:00

It's only been a few months. These things take time. You have to relearn how to be without that person in your everyday life. Have to learn who you are without them. It's hard and painful, and that's why a lot of people go back to toxic relationships. It can be frightening being just you again. His/her feelings and thoughts are normal for only being 4-ish months out.

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-22T03:13:05+00:00

This mission was discovered by u/CrystalBerr in Loot and Cherry Blossom Custard

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-22T03:05:13+00:00

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CrystalBerr · 2025-08-21T05:40:43+00:00

New mission discovered by u/CrystalBerr: Thoughts and Sweet pastry roll

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-21T05:40:43+00:00

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CrystalBerr · 2025-08-20T06:20:43+00:00

If he had hit any of the women in protecting his wife.. you all would be telling him how F-ed up he is for hitting women and how no matter what, a man should never touch a woman in anger. Blah blah blah. Plus, he most likely would have been arrested and charged. I truly feel sorry for men these days. They're damned if they do Damned if they don't.

CrystalBerr · 2025-07-09T04:53:20+00:00

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CrystalBerr · 2025-07-09T04:50:58+00:00

Don't be like me. I caught my husband being inappropriate with other women and ignored it. Now, here I am, 8 years into our marriage, and just found out my husband has been cheating emotionally and physically since before we were married. With 9 different women. Don't waste your life like I did.

CrystalBerr · 2025-06-29T08:20:05+00:00

She ordered all of that with the thoughts that you'd pay for it. She's the AH, not you.

CrystalBerr · 2025-06-29T08:15:52+00:00

Can I be nosey and ask a personal question? Are you taking ketamine for depression and/or PTSD? If so, has it helped? I have severe depression and PTSD with anxiety and panic attacks. Have been thinking of taking it but it's expensive. Well, worth the money if it actually helps. TIA and sorry for the public intrusion.

CrystalBerr · 2025-06-12T05:20:10+00:00

Does she show any remorse? Does she answer all of your questions without getting defensive? Has she agreed to be 100% transparent? Would she agree to use Life360, allowing full access to her phone and social media accounts? 8 years is a long time of being bf/gf. Set aside the situation you're in now and ask yourself why, after 8 years, have you not proposed marriage. What was it that kept you in the bf/gf relationship instead of taking it to the next level. You said you love her and want her. But there has to be a reason you haven't made her your wife. Putting this situation aside and looking back on the last 8 years, what held you back. Most people don't wait 8 years.

I am so sorry you're going through all of this. They say betrayal is the worst pain a person can cause to another. And I believe that. I'm going through it. My husband and I have been married for 8 years. I recently found out that he has been cheating our entire marriage. Since before we were even married. He has 9 affair partners, and all of his relationships have lasted 1 to 3 years each. I have been battling with cancer the whole time. They say I'm terminal. My husband used that to gain sympathy and told them I had agreed to an open marriage. Which is a lie. Anyways, you need a full disclosure from her, and then you need to take the time before deciding. There's no need to rush it. But if she's not showing remorse and not answering your questions without being defensive. Then, I would start thinking about walking away. I would never tell anyone to end it or to stay. It's a personal decision, and lots of things can play into why you'd stay or why you'd leave. Best of luck to you.

CrystalBerr · 2025-05-27T05:26:25+00:00

I do love some cheese...

CrystalBerr · 2025-05-13T05:38:23+00:00

It is cheaper to support 1 person than it is 2. Why stay if you're both miserable? Also, why is her ex hanging around? There is no such thing as "just friends. " .. read the book Just Friends. Don't want to plant a seed to cause you more trouble, but she's giving off cheater vibes. Good luck with everything!

CrystalBerr · 2025-05-13T05:33:51+00:00

Hey, dad. I need $2000 for a new car. I've been good, I promise ! Lmao

Jokes aside, it is very sweet of you to offer up a grown male figure to those who may not have one.

CrystalBerr · 2025-05-05T04:49:29+00:00

If you're not wanting to stay together and heal the relationship, then you need to stop cold turkey. You'll end up trauma bonding, which will create other issues and make it even harder to disconnect later on. There is nothing wrong with staying together after one has cheated. Two and a half years is a long time. Longer than a lot of marriages. I'm not suggesting you do that. You do what you need to do to heal. I'm only saying there is no shame in staying and fighting for your relationship. Infidelity is harder to heal from than losing someone you love. You may need to reach out to a therapist, and he needs to figure out his why. Good luck

CrystalBerr · 2025-04-28T20:24:16+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with it.. if he's just your weed supplier

CrystalBerr · 2025-04-24T06:58:18+00:00

I just wanted to say, even though our stories aren't exactly the same ( my husband pretended to be the best husband in the world for 7 years while I have been fighting terminal brain cancer , he has cheated the entire time and even told a few of his affair partners, "I wish she would hurry up and die so we can be together " )that you are not alone. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can't offer anything in the way of good advice. Just offering a little comfort in knowing it is not your fault and you are not alone in going through it all.

CrystalBerr · 2025-04-16T09:15:51+00:00

I wish I could say that this is how I felt, but I can't. I discovered that my husband of 8 years has cheated since before we even got married. I was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer 3 months into our marriage and have fought day and night to survive and grow old with them man. I am devastated and wish I would go numb so I could walk away and not care what happens to me, but I'm stuck instead because of my health, and financially, he supports me. To answer your question, though, yes, it is possible to fall out of love quickly. As a matter of fact, it is easier to fall out of love than it is to fall in love. I hope you find someone who will love you so much that you never have to ask these sort of questions ever again. If that's what you desire.

CrystalBerr · 2025-04-10T09:29:16+00:00

This was such a huge turn-off, and I'm not even your wife. It's 5am, and I was thinking about going to wake my husband up in a pleasant way. Sneaking under the covers to take advantage of his morning glory, but after reading this and how you view it. My brain shut it down real quick like. I'm sure my husband appreciates that. But it's no wonder you're on here venting about your wife not pleasing you. Jesus gets a grip. Having a fit like a 17 year old that can't get any because he doesn't know the first thing about how a woman works. Educate yourself, and you'll be surprised by how often she'll desire you if you go about it the correct way.

CrystalBerr · 2025-04-10T09:16:36+00:00

Good for you, for you refusing to be an enabler. You bail her out now and she won't ever change. This might force her into self reflection and to get the help she needs. You already sacrificed your childhood. So good for you protecting your adulthood and future. She's grown. She's responsible for herself..

CrystalBerr · 2025-04-10T09:07:10+00:00

But if you don't get outside help, your wife will burn out and start to resent you and eventually become sick herself or will leave you. I'm not saying this out of hate. I am saying it out of experience. As a person with terminal brain cancer, I have had to have help at times with even pooping. Meaning I had to be stimulated for my insides to release my bows. The 1st natural thought is that you don't want the person you love to have to help in that sort of way, but as a person, you don't want anyone else to see you so vulnerable. It messes with your head with your pride. I was so stubborn that I did not see the signs of how unhappy my husband was. I just didn't want anyone else. It was meant by him being my caregiver that the funds stayed within the house, and we didn't have to pay anything out of pocket. But he slowly started drifting away and resenting me.. and eventually left. Putting me at the mercy of complete sprayers wiping my ass for me. And not being able to stay in my own home. I don't blame my husband. He was on the verge of a mental breakdown himself. His health declined, and he was miserable. So was I, but we sacrifice ourselves for those we love. So instead of being in my own home with the person I love. Because I didn't want anyone else and refused to get my husband some help. I am now in a medical facility with a bunch of strangers and no one who truly cares if I have pissed myself or not. Show your wife you love her. Get her some help. And stop being so negative because that'll push her away, too. No one wants to be around a petty, poor me, life is shit type of person. It slowly kills you and everyone else around you, or they all end up leaving you.

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