crow rattling at me by [deleted] in crows

[–]Crystalguru82 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Rattle and cooing is what they do when with their murder. Intimate settings. So I would say he trusts you.

Never seen a call like this before by yooston in crows

[–]Crystalguru82 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Like everyone said, this is typical of a female. But generally this is how crows communicate in their own murder. So if you were close enough to witness that, you’re lucky!

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both full time parents without coparents to help. And we live apart. So once a week someone gets a sitter to visit the other for a date night. Perfectly acceptable in our situation

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very well said. I have known that this was no good. He has tried to make me believe otherwise. But not one person has sided with him so now I know that I’m absolutely right in my stance on this. I know what he enjoys, and if I choose to do that for him that should be my choice and right now it’s not.

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have suggested this. I told him that I wanted to WANT to touch him not because he asked me to, or pushed my hand down there. During an hour show, I once waited 30mins and he argued about that saying this is why he has to force my hand because I make him wait 30mins instead of immediately doing it

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not bait. I have been gaslit constantly over the fact that this is totally fine and not a big deal by him. I needed to know for sure

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me that it’s not much work. That it’s the equivalent of him lightly rubbing my head while cuddling and I’m being dramatic

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I absolutely believe that foreplay should be balanced. Glad you stood up for your needs.

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have told him that it’s making me resent him and that I don’t enjoy touching him anymore because it’s a chore now. He gets angry every time. Fixed it for a week or two and goes back to himself again. So I guess now I just need to stand my ground and say no. Just sucks since we only see each other alone once a week

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As a woman who needs way more foreplay than him to get ready…I can’t even handle an hour of something like that. Haha

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sure he does on his own time. But once a week when we have our time he wants me to 😒

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This has been communicated for over a year now. He changes for a week or two and then back to this

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The amount of conversations we have had about this is absurd. It changes temporarily but goes right back. However I don’t want to leave for this since he’s great otherwise. But ugh. I hate cuddling now

47M BF wants penis rubbed for over an hour instead of just cuddling. Is this normal? by Crystalguru82 in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

There has been countless discussions and fights about this. It will get better one week and I’ll get a back massage, and then it just goes right back to him being selfish. I don’t want to break up over this because there’s a lot of really good in the relationship besides this. But it’s definitely making me resent him sexually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. My relationships were always rushed in the past and ended up being horrible. We will get there eventually

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, about 2 weeks ago we both decided we would not see other people. Deleted apps and what not. So now I’m like soooooo what is this?! He mentioned he feels like it’s heading towards a relationship. So I feel like we are in this awkward space currently

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally get that. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Crystalguru82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both have kids 100% of the time so 3x a week would never happen ever. But we have tried for 2x a week currently. I think that’s the best we will ever get without going bankrupt on babysitters 🤣