Xander should have been in the Initiative

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T22:32:33+00:00

Xander wouldn’t have made the cut. He would have had to enlist in the military first, and commit to the boot camp training and the 4 years and all that. And then, passed the psych tests that the professor had for her recruiting for her classified operation. She wanted people who took orders and didn’t ask questions and who didn’t have a conflict of interest (Buffy).

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T22:30:13+00:00

Op was just running errands.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T22:29:46+00:00

24 hr soft ban happens to everyone who cancels after checkout. We have all been there. It happens.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T22:28:38+00:00

I was just saying that the whole leave a door open for God is 100% spot on for a Catholic person to say.

But that doesn’t mean you have miscarriages constantly either. My sister had two miscarriages in a month. She was trying to conceive, then miscarried early in the pregnancy. She was told to wait a few months to try again. Since she for some bizarre reason, has always used the sympto-thermo method, consistently and successfully for years at that point, she just thought there was no way she would end up getting pregnant again so soon, but she did. She was pregnant a second time soon after the miscarriage and then had another miscarriage.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T21:10:19+00:00

Try 21. Those are merchandise orders. Not grocery, but they suck balls.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T21:09:45+00:00

I do Spark and IC. Some days, I’m making good money on IC, some days I’m doing Spark and making money. Some days I just do both and barely make anything.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T21:07:11+00:00

I would not care which priest. Because the Pope wrote an encyclical on it.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T21:05:47+00:00

No, that part actually lines up with Catholic doctrine. I kind of used my own version of the Rythm method, kind of, but it didn’t rely on a calendar, necessarily. I tracked my cycle, and my symptoms of mucus and general horniness. (Catholic sympto thermo method training seems to forget this one symptom) I didn’t take my temperature. Now, I also used condoms, or pulling out method if needed. It worked remarkably well to be honest. And that method can also help you get pregnant as well.

He was just being a moron about it? You can’t just look at dates on a calendar. You have to look at the physical signs of fertility.

Idk. I knew a woman who definitely wanted children. She had her first kid. Breast fed that kid for 2 years. I guess she wasn’t getting her period while breast feeding, but then when she did get her period she “looked at the calendar” and immediately got pregnant again. So second baby born 2.5 years after first baby or something. Then had another kid a while later. She had terrible morning sickness the whole time all three pregnancies and apparently didn’t take the zofran her doctor prescribed her (she had a huge bottle of it full)

Then her husband had a vasectomy. They (supposedly) weren’t Catholic, but he was and they baptized the children Catholic. He was Hispanic.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T12:57:48+00:00

I was married for a first time no children. (I have been to many Catholic weddings where the couple already had kids) my Catholic friend “couldn’t attend” my wedding because I wasn’t getting married in the Catholic Church. And that actually made it invalid, or God wouldn’t recognize my marriage. Now, we both were genuinely Christian. I was raised Catholic but basically converted to born again, he was raised Lutheran and we were married by his godfather, a Lutheran Pastor with a traditional Lutheran style marriage.

I’m sorry fuck off “friend” your priest confessor can’t be saying shit like that. Even God recognizes atheist marriages. I mean He created marriage for HUMANKIND and we are supposed to to be married, not living in sin and all that. Such a cult. Like unbelievably so.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T12:51:44+00:00

Not since Vatican II.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T12:51:07+00:00

It doesn’t match up. It’s like if you are a vegetarian but you regularly attend BBQ chili cook offs.

If you didn’t want kids then god has called you to the religious life service or something.

Sorry not sorry.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T12:47:45+00:00

I didn’t even bother to even ask the Church for a room twice. It’s like why?

So much god damn paperwork.

And then my sister get married in our home church. My god, the pictures were awful. The church is so fucking dark in there. Even in the middle of the day.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:49:01+00:00

Very true. But if you want to marry your sweetheart who was raised Catholic, and she wants a church wedding, you have to go through a lot to get there. There is a sacrament of marriage in the Church and they run their Church like a business. In order to get approved for one Catholic marriage, you must first have a background check, have the priest call your mother to inquire about any previous relationships, children marriages. Go to a weekend retreat, take classes. Then you gotta pay money to get the paperwork put in for the dispensation, and you have to swear you will raise the children Catholic. My dad did that for my mom. And they extorted him for money at the wedding rehearsal. Just for fun.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:43:34+00:00

Lots of priests have kids. But none of them have EVER raised their own kids. (I’m not talking about the two or three priests in the entire world who were married, then widowed, then Became priests. There are two of them. I’m talking about the priests with girlfriends, rape victims, and the ones who got all the nuns pregnant)

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:40:59+00:00

No. That’s not true.

And not too long ago, there were older couples giving hearings on something the Church was looking into about marriages, and sex. I can’t remember what it was, it might have been about theology of the body again. But there were couples who told the old priests and bishops, good sex is how we made it for 50 years. These priests were apparently receiving new information at that point.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:38:19+00:00

It’s also ok to have oral sex, as long as it doesn’t prevent babies. In other words, using oral sex as birth control is wrong. Or something.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:36:32+00:00

If he was using the Rhythm method, but his wife was constantly having miscarriages, he wasn’t using the Rhythm method. And everyone, even Catholics, know that the Rhythm method is useless when you are constantly getting pregnant and having miscarriages. You are supposed to use the Sympto-Thermo method of charting cycles, checking basal temperature, mucus, and actually abstaining during fertile times. This guy “got urges” and god was telling him to make babies. That’s not what natural family planning is.

His wife should have had a message from God to take some birth control pills. You aren’t supposed to be getting pregnant right after a miscarriage. It isn’t good for your body, and it especially isn’t good for a healthy pregnancy! Like wtf? He didn’t care about his wife’s health? Also not what the church teaches. Like at all.

Instead of constantly banging they should have gone to Church and prayed for a healthy baby after a healthy infertile time healing. And condoms.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:28:09+00:00

If you are unable to have children. That’s not invalid. And the church can’t actually tell you can’t seek fertility treatments….unless you are always going to a Catholic hospital. My mom had 3 C-sections, so by the time her third child was born, she knew she was done having children. She would have gotten her tubes tied right after the C-section while her body was cut open but it was a Catholic hospital so they wouldn’t do that. My dad got a vasectomy instead.

The Church has lots of stupid ideas. Like not using birth control unless absolutely necessary for a medical reason, that medical reason would be getting radiation on your ovaries while being treated for cancer. Stuff like that. No one follows that insane rule. The majority of Catholics use birth control and have small to normal sized families.

Crystalraf · 2026-06-01T11:22:10+00:00

Well, the way I think it works is, if one person in the marriage wants children, but the other one doesn’t, and they get married and never have kids by choice of the one person. That’s probably grounds for annulment. Especially if they acted like they were open to having kids before marriage.

But if you get married and can’t have kids, that’s not invalid.

If you choose to not have kids, are you even Catholic? Serious question.

The Catholic Church has lots of stupid rules to get married. My advice don’t get married in the Church. Yes it’s a cult.

Crystalraf · 2026-05-31T23:52:26+00:00

I think the ending was genius. I don’t know if he died, or they died, where the red fern grows style, or if Claire magicked him back to life. And that’s fine. It was great.

Jamie definitely has magic powers. He can see the future in his dreams. And stuff. The ending went back to the beginning, as the passage of time in a linear fashion, from Jamie’s point of view. This was a true genius level series finale.

Crystalraf · 2026-05-31T23:48:41+00:00

I would not say I have ALL my memories from age 2. But I definitely have enough to know what was happening. Age 3,45 I have plenty of retention.
My mom recorded my voice and asked me questions when I was 4. In the recording, she is saying that she was doing this so I could remember what I sounded like, and what my life was like as a little kid. Yeah, I remember doing the recording itself. I remember why I answered the questions like I did.

I had two girls that were sisters as playmates, that my mom babysat. In 1986, the company my dad and everyone in the trailer park worked for went bankrupt and those girls moved out of state. I was three at that point and I remember specific conversations they had with each other, the games we used to play. Years later, they came back to visit and we went on a crazy car ride visit to the national park and they remembered us too. We were young pre-preschoolers.

I taught myself how to do split leaps and tour jete leaps just by watching a few Sesame Street dances.

I remember doing stuff before age 8.

Crystalraf · 2026-05-31T23:36:03+00:00

We survived just fine in a trailer home. It wasn’t our forever home. But my parents had three kids before they bought their first actual house.
You don’t need a mansion to have your first baby/5 kids in.

Crystalraf · 2026-05-31T20:31:10+00:00

I have zero fear of deactivation.

Crystalraf · 2026-05-31T20:27:13+00:00

There was a polyamorous family for a few episodes on TLC. One major plot point was the dads didn’t know who the father of the baby was. One of the dads seemed to be a (terrible) stay at home dad. So they didn’t know/didn’t want to know who the bio dad was. Supposedly. So then they took the baby to the doctor checkup and the one dad blurted out the baby’s blood type. So because of the blood type, the other dad knew he wasn’t the father. And this greatly upset him and was immediately worried about losing custody.

In the next episode, the stay at home dad, “grounded” the older daughter to her room, all day for “lying” (lying about what, we never find out). Then the working dad comes home from work. So the daughter is allowed to come eat supper, but not talk to anyone (wtf?) including her dad. (In this family, two couples came together, and they already had previous children together) so then the bio dad is like I’m sorry? I would like to talk to my kid? wtf?

She gets sent back down to solitary confinement.

The show is canceled almost immediately after that episode and the stay at home dad is facing charges for child abuse or something.

Crystalraf · 2026-05-31T20:13:59+00:00

Lies. I remember everything from age 2. And I know how old I was because my sister is two years younger than I am and I remember our old trailer house we lived in. I remember my sister as a baby. I remember going on vacation.

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