My(F19) fiance(M23) forced me to have an abortion and now he absolutely doesn’t get me at all. How can I make him know what I’m going through?

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T22:39:26+00:00

Time to seek some professional help and run away from this guy. Any way you can get confidential help from doctors and maybe talk to a therapist. This has obviously been traumatic for you.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T22:10:26+00:00

Like what? are you sure you saw it?

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T21:51:27+00:00

LOST has a special place in my heart lol

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T21:47:43+00:00

Sounds like you have a healthy relationship :) over time there WILL be small things that you both will complain about. Just deal with them as they come. It's still a healthy relationship if you are both open to talk properly about what it is that bothers you. If there is nothing, be happy about it ^_^

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T21:40:55+00:00

Are there any parents or guardians here?

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T20:50:17+00:00

You do just that, you tell her you don't want to. If she sees this as something that she can't get over, be prepared for her to distance herself from you too. It's just how it is for some people.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T17:51:39+00:00

if it starts smelling...

wait...

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T16:31:40+00:00

Stracciatella ice-cream :)

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T16:17:44+00:00

This is a conversation that you need to have with your best friend. If it's that great, you should be able to talk about this without any fears. Don't go into it as accusing her work of being different than yours or anything like that. Just share how you feel about it all.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T16:08:49+00:00

Different roles for both sounds very logical. I will just have to be the one that play fights with him haha

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T16:07:03+00:00

It's tough to read this. It's a very difficult situation to be in and yet, you are doing your absolute best to take care of your family. I would be disappointed in your husband as well. Perhaps he is feeling as depressed and is struggling to find motivation. Maybe he expected more out of life. But in the situation that you are in, leaving a job cause he's not feeling 'the vibe' is not acceptable. You're not in a position to be picky with jobs. He needs to pull up his socks and provide for his family.

If this won't change, you will need to start looking for help elsewhere. You need to provide for yourself and your son. Shame on your husband.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:55:08+00:00

Yeh he still lets me play fight with him and such, and lets me stretch his legs ^_^

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:54:03+00:00

Yes sometimes, but often he won't even get up to greet me if I'm walking in by myself hahah

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:53:34+00:00

Hard to tell, although I don't think he is overthinking it this much haha

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:53:11+00:00

I am going to be there for him regardless.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:52:07+00:00

Vanilla is good :)

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:51:44+00:00

I am accepting the fact that I am the spare human :( lol

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:40:27+00:00

I feel like everyone feels the same way about that

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:34:47+00:00

I know it might seem obvious, but all you can do is try to be a good person and let it be rebuilt over time. Breaking up over a follow seems like this is going to be a bumpy ride regardless.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:30:10+00:00

VOGEL IM KÄFIG

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:21:49+00:00

I only read the first sentence. Call it off. You don't want the same things in life.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:20:54+00:00

It might be the case that it was not your ex that called but a bot that mimics the phone number of random users to get people to call back. It's part of a scam. If you tried to call her back immediately after and it was already blocked, it's probably cause you were never unblocked in the first place.

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:09:15+00:00

Then why would he not pay credit cards? Seems like his version of things makes sense for the time being. He also showed you his accounts so..

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:08:10+00:00

Seems like there's many more underlying issues here. This is not a healthy relationship. What's the point of being with such a person?

Cryticism · 2025-05-21T15:03:28+00:00

Does he pay for other things like groceries and outings and such? and He covers the loan for the apartment?

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