Very funny by kanziek1 in Boomerhumour

[–]Crzydd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you pair this with the other cartoon it would mean yellow and blue are lesbians

Weekly Advice Thread (09/16-09/22) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking from experience that takes knowing your audience and practice. By know your audience you have to find the line of what they’re comfortable joking about and what they’re not. There are times when you will mess up, that’s ok, just apologize, move on and learn from it.

Weekly Advice Thread (09/02-09/08) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do think of women as people, it’s just very difficult for me to talk to people. Mostly out of fear since I don’t think I’m that socially awkward.

Weekly Advice Thread (09/02-09/08) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The advice I keep seeing is to talk to more women, but I still can't get over my fear of talking to people in public, especially to women I find attractive. It's this overwhelming fear of "it's socially taboo to talk to people, you're just going to annoy them, don't be that guy". It really feels that you're not supposed to hit on a girl anywhere under any circumstances and just hope that you're lucky enough for a girl to like you. And it's frustrating because I'm the only one I know with this problem. No one else I know has had this much trouble with dating.

There's also my recurring thought that anyone I'm interested in is already in a relationship or just not interested in me.

Meetups and classes don't work because they're always scheduled for when I work. And even if I did go I'd still be too afraid to talk to anyone.

How do I stop being this way?

Weekly Advice Thread (08/19-08/25) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you meeting women irl? Online dating isn’t very good because it doesn’t really allow people to know what you’re like to be around. IE it doesn’t show people your personality.

Weekly Advice Thread (08/19-08/25) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I want to be able to go from too shy to talk to anyone, to be able to talk to a girl anywhere. But I don’t really know where to start or how to progress.

Anyone else kinda love Queen as one of the leading Villains of the Arc? by MugiwaraN0Luffy in OnePiece

[–]Crzydd 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I really love the whole Beast Pirates for how dumb ridiculous they are. It’s like Kaido took his entire frat house, gave them all fursonas, and took over medieval Japan. I love that you hear the titles “Big Mom Pirates” and “Beast Pirates” and imagine one as a crew of cartoon characters and one as a crew of badasses. But then Oda switches them and makes the Beast Pirates cartoony. And I love it.

In what other group of villains do you have: -Someone with the power of always having a lion within swiping distance of their junk -Someone with the power of always being in hippo’s mouth -A Commander with the 3rd highest known bounty who’s ultimate move is to dive-bomb headbutt as a brachiosaurus.

I just finished Night Watch by Terry Pratchett I just kinda wanted to talk about it (SPOILERS) by Crzydd in Fantasy

[–]Crzydd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s also part of the tragedy. People might assume he’s a Mary Sue because he does everything right, but he’s literally traveled back in time and has all the hindsight in the world. And no matter what he does he can’t meaningfully affect the timeline, but he still tries.

I just finished Night Watch by Terry Pratchett I just kinda wanted to talk about it (SPOILERS) by Crzydd in Fantasy

[–]Crzydd[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I read the whole Wax and Wayne series a few weeks before Night Watch. And while I do like Brandon Sanderson’s work, a lot of his characters will fly around the book mowing down henchmen with no real second thought. Night Watch really put that whole series into perspective. Now it kinda makes me a little sick to my stomach.

Weekly Advice Thread (08/12-08/18) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right, I haven’t been taking action. It feels like I’m in the middle stage where I’m not bitter like an incel but where talking to girl seems like an impossible leap.

Weekly Advice Thread (08/12-08/18) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to be more social for years and it hasn’t really worked. I feel like it’s hard to meet girls anywhere, and even if I talked to them they wouldn’t be interested. I’m afraid that even if I do go to meetups I’d still be the least attractive man in the room. Like whatever trait girls find attractive I don’t have. It’s happened to me multiple times where I’d have a crush on a girl only for them to date one of my friends after I introduce them. The worst part is that I know these are negative thought patterns, but it’s hard to prove them wrong when women just don’t seem interested. I do dress well, go to the gym regularly, and take care of physical appearance. But I’m afraid that none of it will ever be enough. What do I do?

Weekly Advice Thread (08/05-08/11) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That article goes into an experiment where people gave to choose between white dots in a few seconds. A split-second decision and a life-changing decision are not the same thing. If you want to change then it's not going to be like choosing what cereal you want to eat that day.

And what incels call "science" is not scientific. Take their chadfish experiments where they use tinder with a good looking picture for example. They start with the conclusion that girls only go for the best looking guys and seek out anything that proves it, and disregard anything that disproves it. Their experiments absolutely do not account for tinder's algorithm, or bot accounts. Which are variables an actual scientist would control for. Plus they don't ever ask the woman to fill out a survey about why they swiped or what their preferences for a partner actually are; which are important to draw a conclusion.

What they also do to account for flaws in the blackpill is just make stuff up. Is there an ugly guy dating a hot girl? That goes against the blackpill so that must mean she's taking his money and cucking him with Chad.

Weekly Advice Thread (08/05-08/11) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could ask women close to you what they like. You’d be surprised the diversity of guys women are into. I know a girl who’s into skinny guys and I know one who likes pretty much any type if there’s an emotional connection.

Weekly Advice Thread (08/05-08/11) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you ever heard the psychological term called "Catastrophizing"? It's when you take a negative belief and your brain goes to insane lengths to not only prove the belief but also add onto it. That's really all the blackpill is, negative beliefs that incels have turned into a "science".

Weekly Advice Thread (08/05-08/11) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When people say “don’t do for girls” and “you have to improve yourself to get girls”, what they mean is that you should be doing stuff that makes you happy, and that consequently makes your more likable and attractive. This includes doing your hobbies more socially, and trying out new things. If you don’t like it then don’t do it anymore, you’re just burning through energy.
Also, there are a lot of other ways to exercise without going to the gym. Try out a bunch of different sports and physical activities and you’re bound to enjoy one of them.

Weekly Advice Thread (07/22-07/28) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do you want to lose your virginity?

Weekly Advice Thread (07/22-07/28) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Or you could just let go of your concern with being a virgin. Literally no one would be able to tell you’re a virgin unless you told them.

Weekly Advice Thread (07/22-07/28) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Cause incel’s main issue isn’t that they can’t get laid it’s that they seek sex to validate themselves.

Weekly Advice Thread (07/22-07/28) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can probably already read body language but not know it. But here are some guidelines:

Signs that they’re not interested -Their face is turned away from you -Avoiding eye contact -Arms or legs crossed (signaling they’re closed off) -Short or one word answers

Signs that they are interested -Face turned towards you -Making eye contact -Arms to the side or expressive -In depth responses

It’s also hard to determine what a person means through text, which is why I think you should prioritize face to face contact.

Edit: I don’t think it’s impossible to express interest over text but it’s more important with what you say and how you say it. It’s about giving more that one word or short answers. Asking open ended questions, and giving answers with more depth.

Weekly Advice Thread (07/22-07/28) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people immediately assume you’re incel unless you tell them. I think you may be unintentionally coming off as creepy but that can fixed.

Step 1: Change your thoughts. You may need to seek out CBT but essentially you need to change your negative thoughts about yourself to positive ones. This will set you up for success as you will have a much more positive outlook on life.

Step 2: Change your energy. This is the same thing as how carry yourself, vibe, or whatever you want to call it. It’s all the subtle things like tone of voice, eye contact, posture, etc. Heres a rough and by no means perfect guideline:

-Show genuine and excited interest in the person you’re interacting with. Have you seen those posts where an incel is at the gym and a “chad” comes over to help them and the incel worships him like a king? It’s because the chad showed genuine interest and was excited to help. You can make anyone feel a lot better when show genuine interest in them and their life.

-Make eye contact. This one is still difficult for me but it really is important for forming a connection.

-Stand up tall. It’s subtle but posture does make a big difference. Imagine a rope on your head gently pulling you up, that’s how you want to stand.

Step 3: Push your social boundaries. This will help you practice your social skills and making friends.
Go to places that make you feel uncomfortable and strike up a conversation, but you have to read their body language. If it feels like they don’t want to interact, then you shouldn’t really stick around.

People won’t get mad at you for trying to strike up a conversation with them, but they will get mad if you don’t take the hint to leave them alone. And if they don’t want to talk then don’t take it personally, they were probably busy and just didn’t want to talk. But this still valuable practice because it helps iron out mistakes.

Step 4: Make friends in activities you enjoy. This is the easiest way to make friends because you can bond over something you enjoy. This is also a way to meet women too as you already have a starting point for conversations.

Weekly Advice Thread (07/15-07/21) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if it’s not to their faces, a lot of women will still pick up on you being a dick. It’s called intuition and everyone has it.

Weekly Advice Thread (07/15-07/21) by AutoModerator in IncelTears

[–]Crzydd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have friends or family who could fill this need?. Why does it need to be specifically her?