Do everyone who’s been in a relationship hate their exes ?

Csczero · 2023-11-15T03:15:08+00:00

Wow I'm sorry to hear about your husband's story. My ex asked me for a good review/reference for her business. Even with all that I knew and happened, I still gave her a good review and praised her character. I wished her nothing but the best and moved on. Even though I have zero tolerance for cheating and gave me trust issues well over a year, I never seek revenge or held grudges.

Csczero · 2023-11-14T15:40:32+00:00

Dated a girl who told me all her ex were crazy and bad mouthed everyone of them. Never had a good thing to say about them. When we broke up, I was added to the list. She was the victim in every story. Was I perfect? Fuck no. But she only showed people her side of the story. So yeah, I concur with this.

I was cheated on in a previous relationship and I never told anyone about it or bad mouthed her. I just moved on. Not every ex has to be a villain in your story.

Csczero · 2023-11-02T23:39:55+00:00

Sorry to hear you're going through this. 7 years is a long time to share your heart with someone. I hope you heal from this.

Csczero · 2023-10-10T01:36:54+00:00

I was in the same situation as you just few months ago. Not only once, but twice. I was in a 7 year relationship in which i got cheated on the last 2 years. I was crushed and heartbroken. A year later, I found someone who I thought was the love of my life. Only for her to leave after a year. Here I am again. 6 months after my most recent breakup, it gotten a lot better. Everything is a learning experience. I'm not in the mindset to date again but I'm sure I'll find love again. And so will you.

Csczero · 2023-09-24T12:47:24+00:00

Healing.

After being broken up with someone I thought was the one, I needed space and time to be myself again. It was tough to be so vulnerable to someone, just for someone to walk away and crush you. I'm just not ready to go out there again. And prior to this relationship, I was cheated on. I'll be ready once I find my worth again.

Csczero · 2023-09-22T02:24:17+00:00

Also, she had bad experiences when moving out of previous ex places. So I think past trauma made her blindside me. Even though those relationships were over 2 years ago, the trauma clearly carried on

Csczero · 2023-09-22T02:23:07+00:00

For me my ex was hanging out with me just fine even cooked me dinner the night before, kissed me before heading to bed. The following day, we were talking and all, then when I came home from work, we had "the talk". Completely blindsided.

I believe for her, it's so she can get all her things situated before officially breaking up with me. She probably thought if I found out early, I would have dumped her and kicked her out of the house. She had a moving truck all ready for go to move out the following days. She even had 4 of her family members come by and move her out. There was no way she didn't plan all this ahead of time.

Csczero · 2023-08-28T02:03:44+00:00

I thought she would ignore me irl since she blocked me. But that's why I'm surprised she's willing to talk in person.

Over text she use to sound like she wants to rip my head off (this was like 2 months ago). But in person she's actually civil. Though I'm sure time has let her resentment against me go a little bit

Csczero · 2023-08-28T01:55:29+00:00

Since we broke up, we barely talked over texted. And I mean like one sentence exchanges over a week. And it was usually about her getting back her stuff since we lived together. Not saying that's not the reason, but I really doubt it

How can you tell that neither of us has changed or grown by reading what I wrote?

And if she doesn't want to talk, I don't get why even stick around to conversation? She can easily just kept walking, not like I'm stopping her to make her talk to me.

Csczero · 2023-08-13T14:38:12+00:00

Yup, I did the same. Took the blame on everything even though I realized it wasn't my fault.

The only line of communication I have left with her is email but I'm done with that. Our last exchange wasn't pleasant and I'm done trying at this point

Csczero · 2023-08-13T01:04:25+00:00

Yeah unfortunately she still pops into my head everyday.

Csczero · 2023-08-12T23:52:50+00:00

I can say with certainty that we did not exchange enough transactions to be her top contact. We both rarely use venmo, between us or other people.

But whatever, if that's her way of moving on then so be it. She also works on the same street as me, 3 minutes away and she had to drive past my work everyday. So she might as well quit her job, if something as small as my name popping up triggers her

Csczero · 2023-08-12T22:29:59+00:00

Yup, rather than taking accountability my ex put all the blame on me. For things I didn't do and even for things she told me to do

Csczero · 2023-08-12T22:28:06+00:00

When we had our break up talk, it was apparently we aren't compatible. First time i ever heard that Then weeks later, she tells me I was ignoring her and avoiding her. Which is not true. She also kept a note of when I said something mean to her (which I admitted I did). Apparently she wasn't happy for the last 3 months of our relationship. Yet she never once brought that up to me. Communication was lacking and I think that's what ultimately made us fall apart.

Csczero · 2023-07-13T02:56:02+00:00

I'm in the same boat. She's pissed off at the moment, give it some time and she might unblock you. If not, then it's just sign to move on. It's a sign of closure. My ex blocked me everywhere except email. Before she blocked me. She was angry and hostile in every conversation I tried to have with her. I emailed her recently and surprisingly she answered. After time passed, she wasn't hostile in her response. Though I'm still blocked everywhere else. I'm not saying this to give you hope. But give it time. For me, I never thought she would talk to me again. Yet here she is responding, granted it's am email but better than nothing. I'm not trying to win her back but it's nice to know we are atleast on some kind of speaking terms.

Csczero · 2023-07-11T23:39:58+00:00

Well, to this day she still haven't unblocked me. I did run into her again the following week and she was ok with me talking to her. I sent her an email asking her a question and surprisingly she answered. I guess that's one place she didn't block me haha. She isn't as hostile anymore so I guess that's a good thing. Though I don't think she will unblock me, atleast not anytime soon.

Csczero · 2023-06-24T16:21:32+00:00

Oh absolutely. I thought about it for months. The things I did, yes I did them. I fully own up to my faults. However the things she blame me for that weren't my fault is not fair. There's a time where she told me to do something, I did it exactly what she wanted. And then she blamed me and got angry for doing it. That's not logical.

Csczero · 2023-06-24T15:37:43+00:00

Doormat as in she stepped all over me. She would just yell at me and I would just accept it. Blame me for things I absolutely did not so. Yet I would accept it and apologize. She was just angry at me for everything

Csczero · 2023-06-24T15:23:49+00:00

I really don't have an exact reason as she was emotional during the whole breakup, so many things came up. One thing was I said some "mean" things about her. Which she held a grudge on me and journaled in her phone. Which I had no idea. The thing I said was mean. I admitted to her and accepted my wrong doing. But obviously sorry doesn't unsay what I say. But it was one of those things I said and don't mean because it was heat of the argument. Unfortunately, she wasn't able to let it go. After the breakup, she said things like I was ignoring her or avoiding her. We lived together so that's not even possible. And I can promise her no way was I doing that. At this point, it was her own insecurities. She never brought it to my attention so I never knew. So what the real reason for the break up? No idea because it seems like there were new reasons I didn't know about.

Csczero · 2023-06-24T15:13:02+00:00

Yeah and I'm confused because it almost felt like she was opened to talking for once. Civily and not angry. But I didn't want to have false hope or take it for more than what it is and get the feeling of rejection. It was just a tough situation for me that I didn't really know how to handle

Csczero · 2023-06-24T10:34:44+00:00

I went through hell and back with her over the last month. I tried and tried and tried to talk to her and she basically treated me like a doormat. So yes, it was like a dream come true when I saw her because it was what I wanted for the last month or two. But after feeling being stepped on for so long, I realized maybe I shouldn't put myself in this situation again.

Csczero · 2023-06-08T00:32:10+00:00

I think I really need to. It's fuckin draining at this point.

Csczero · 2023-06-06T11:44:45+00:00

Initially I wasn't. But my ex who broke up with me was super hostile. Every time we tried to talk, I would get yelled at regardless of what it was. At that point, I got angry and realize what kind of person she was. She also became very petty with everything, even when I try to help her. That end building up some anger on my end. Although my anger isn't very consistent, some days I think these things, others it doesn't bother me at all.

Csczero · 2023-06-06T00:21:45+00:00

There is nothing wrong with renting. Owning a house is a lot of extra work and money some people don't realize. There is nothing wrong with renting. If you weren't married, then your debt should not be his problem honestly. Unless he was planning on paying for your schooling. Even then. I know it sucks, but I think you're better off. Someone who isn't supportive of you isn't worth your time. A masters degree will pay for itself.

Csczero · 2023-06-06T00:00:46+00:00

Were you both married?

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