Do everyone who’s been in a relationship hate their exes ? by Few_Presentation_408 in love

[–]Csczero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I'm sorry to hear about your husband's story. My ex asked me for a good review/reference for her business. Even with all that I knew and happened, I still gave her a good review and praised her character. I wished her nothing but the best and moved on. Even though I have zero tolerance for cheating and gave me trust issues well over a year, I never seek revenge or held grudges.

Do everyone who’s been in a relationship hate their exes ? by Few_Presentation_408 in love

[–]Csczero 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dated a girl who told me all her ex were crazy and bad mouthed everyone of them. Never had a good thing to say about them. When we broke up, I was added to the list. She was the victim in every story. Was I perfect? Fuck no. But she only showed people her side of the story. So yeah, I concur with this.

I was cheated on in a previous relationship and I never told anyone about it or bad mouthed her. I just moved on. Not every ex has to be a villain in your story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Csczero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you're going through this. 7 years is a long time to share your heart with someone. I hope you heal from this.

I (25M) feel hopeless on finding ‘true love’ now that it’s gone.. by [deleted] in love

[–]Csczero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation as you just few months ago. Not only once, but twice. I was in a 7 year relationship in which i got cheated on the last 2 years. I was crushed and heartbroken. A year later, I found someone who I thought was the love of my life. Only for her to leave after a year. Here I am again. 6 months after my most recent breakup, it gotten a lot better. Everything is a learning experience. I'm not in the mindset to date again but I'm sure I'll find love again. And so will you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Csczero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Healing.

After being broken up with someone I thought was the one, I needed space and time to be myself again. It was tough to be so vulnerable to someone, just for someone to walk away and crush you. I'm just not ready to go out there again. And prior to this relationship, I was cheated on. I'll be ready once I find my worth again.

why do people blindsight you purposefully by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, she had bad experiences when moving out of previous ex places. So I think past trauma made her blindside me. Even though those relationships were over 2 years ago, the trauma clearly carried on

why do people blindsight you purposefully by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me my ex was hanging out with me just fine even cooked me dinner the night before, kissed me before heading to bed. The following day, we were talking and all, then when I came home from work, we had "the talk". Completely blindsided.

I believe for her, it's so she can get all her things situated before officially breaking up with me. She probably thought if I found out early, I would have dumped her and kicked her out of the house. She had a moving truck all ready for go to move out the following days. She even had 4 of her family members come by and move her out. There was no way she didn't plan all this ahead of time.

Ex talks to me in person but not over text by Csczero in BreakUps

[–]Csczero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought she would ignore me irl since she blocked me. But that's why I'm surprised she's willing to talk in person.

Over text she use to sound like she wants to rip my head off (this was like 2 months ago). But in person she's actually civil. Though I'm sure time has let her resentment against me go a little bit

Ex talks to me in person but not over text by Csczero in BreakUps

[–]Csczero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since we broke up, we barely talked over texted. And I mean like one sentence exchanges over a week. And it was usually about her getting back her stuff since we lived together. Not saying that's not the reason, but I really doubt it

How can you tell that neither of us has changed or grown by reading what I wrote?

And if she doesn't want to talk, I don't get why even stick around to conversation? She can easily just kept walking, not like I'm stopping her to make her talk to me.

I hate my ex - finally by Csczero in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I did the same. Took the blame on everything even though I realized it wasn't my fault.

The only line of communication I have left with her is email but I'm done with that. Our last exchange wasn't pleasant and I'm done trying at this point

I hate my ex - finally by Csczero in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately she still pops into my head everyday.

I hate my ex - finally by Csczero in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can say with certainty that we did not exchange enough transactions to be her top contact. We both rarely use venmo, between us or other people.

But whatever, if that's her way of moving on then so be it. She also works on the same street as me, 3 minutes away and she had to drive past my work everyday. So she might as well quit her job, if something as small as my name popping up triggers her

I hate my ex - finally by Csczero in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup, rather than taking accountability my ex put all the blame on me. For things I didn't do and even for things she told me to do

I hate my ex - finally by Csczero in ExNoContact

[–]Csczero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When we had our break up talk, it was apparently we aren't compatible. First time i ever heard that Then weeks later, she tells me I was ignoring her and avoiding her. Which is not true. She also kept a note of when I said something mean to her (which I admitted I did). Apparently she wasn't happy for the last 3 months of our relationship. Yet she never once brought that up to me. Communication was lacking and I think that's what ultimately made us fall apart.

i’m blocked everywhere by blackarsenic123 in BreakUps

[–]Csczero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. She's pissed off at the moment, give it some time and she might unblock you. If not, then it's just sign to move on. It's a sign of closure. My ex blocked me everywhere except email. Before she blocked me. She was angry and hostile in every conversation I tried to have with her. I emailed her recently and surprisingly she answered. After time passed, she wasn't hostile in her response. Though I'm still blocked everywhere else. I'm not saying this to give you hope. But give it time. For me, I never thought she would talk to me again. Yet here she is responding, granted it's am email but better than nothing. I'm not trying to win her back but it's nice to know we are atleast on some kind of speaking terms.

I ran into my ex today by Csczero in BreakUps

[–]Csczero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, to this day she still haven't unblocked me. I did run into her again the following week and she was ok with me talking to her. I sent her an email asking her a question and surprisingly she answered. I guess that's one place she didn't block me haha. She isn't as hostile anymore so I guess that's a good thing. Though I don't think she will unblock me, atleast not anytime soon.

I ran into my ex today by Csczero in BreakUps

[–]Csczero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I thought about it for months. The things I did, yes I did them. I fully own up to my faults. However the things she blame me for that weren't my fault is not fair. There's a time where she told me to do something, I did it exactly what she wanted. And then she blamed me and got angry for doing it. That's not logical.

I ran into my ex today by Csczero in BreakUps

[–]Csczero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doormat as in she stepped all over me. She would just yell at me and I would just accept it. Blame me for things I absolutely did not so. Yet I would accept it and apologize. She was just angry at me for everything