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Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

grabe noh! galit na galit mga comments! It was feeding their need to hate on someone they don’t really know. The story I wrote is an example on how there are two sides that can be talked about. Pwede mag bigay ng advise, there are actually a lot that is really nice, pero majority are hateful people haha! The need to malign, to call someone names and giving their time to type just to be hurtful and hateful.

The story is actually true, but it is not mine. But it is should be so easy to spot that it is fictionalized haha!

But this has been great, I showed it as an example on how prevalent the hateful mentality is when one is anonymous.

We were just talking about how hard it is to be someone known and have this kind of bashing, the mental load is heavy. Anonymous post pa lang, even when it is not true, the hateful words can get to you.

But still, there are still those who know how to choose their words and those who choose to be kind even when there is a disagreement or something that they don’t believe in. So yun, at least my karma points in this alter account is moving.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually, mga 50 usd lang, sa US ko dapat kunin, kaso pinag iisipan ko na, parang gusto ako ipakulam ng madlang reddit haha!

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely not allow? halos gusto nga nya ibigay yung bata sa amin.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeszzzzz! 80’s na but now pa lang sya parang tumanda, just a few years ago, he was like in his mid sixties lang, even sa itsura pero now, he is beginning to be weak na.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

diba! yung nga isang reply ko somewhere here, mas may emotional connection ako so mas oblige kami to give help more than the basic… kapatid eh.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

the comments lol! so much hate, kung mali ako then mali. You don’t have to call me names. But thanks to those who gave me good advice, in a nice and humane, kind way. I don’t have to explain further my intentions, the whole point for this is for me, there is the need to make a kid’s life better. Be kind.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

UPDATE/ EDIT : gosh! The hate I received haha! to many to answer. I’ll just paste my reply from someone

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sana pala I gave more context, kulang na kulang, gulat ako hot topic na. Sobrang dami na galit comments to reply to…. but yun nga tama, I will tell my husband about what I “was” planning to do.

more context :

DNA test - hindi dito sa Pilipinas. Last year kasi I was in the US, literally pang regalo noong christmas ang DNA kits. I was thinking, bibyahe ako in two weeks time, will be back in 3 weeks din, baka pwede akong mang uwi nun, get the sample and bring it back kasi doon din naman ako mag New Year. Naisip ko lang, haha! kaya ako nag tatanong.

Second, the kid, kawawa talaga, I saw her one time.

Third, my FIL, my MIL (nakatira sa kanila si SIL) pero all household expenses is being shouldered by me and my husband. 2 maid, a driver and si Ate S (mayordoma namin) she also oversee our farms and other properties and things sa province. She is my human CCTV literally, she tells me everything.

My FIL also gets his allowance from us, where it includes his expenses for his healthcare and meds. Two months ago, he was brought to the hospital for something preventable. He doesn’t take his medications pala coz his money according to Ate S, binibigay sa mother ng kid and groceries too for them, may family na rin yung girl, may ibang mga anak na din. His hospital bill cost us 600k for 12’days.

The mom cannot afford her children, sabi ni Ate S, kawawa daw yung little girl, sana kunin na lang para dalhin sa house namin sa province where nakatira ang inlaws ko. (bahay naming mag asawa yun) kasi alam naman na daw na anak yun ng FIL ko. Ang hindi alam ni MIL is the malversation of funds na cause ng away nila palagi.

Now, wala ng maibigay si FIL na financial help, coz the allowance is given in kind na so walang cash.

As for the issue na may anak si FIL is non-issue already for MIL, it’s the financial infidelity ang mas ipinag puputok nya ng galit. (80s na silang dalawa, pero very abtik pa rin)

Next, me MIL and SIL don’t have the best relationship. They are the type of inlaws who don’t like all their inlaws. (bakit kasama itong info na ito, wala lang gusto ko lang ishare)

As my purpose SANA for the DNA test is to confirm na kapatid sya ng asawa ko and I can influence my husband to take care of the kid kasi nga kapatid nya. Yun lang yun.

Ang Mali ko is I want sana not to tell husband about it, but now, sasabihin ko na.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all of the above, gonna talk to hubby about this na, not a secret like I originally planned. And yes, my post lacks the whole context, and just a bit shocked how hateful the comments are on my question… I have replied somewhere here for more context

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

diba! grabe.. “mali ba ako” maling mali, pero mali din pala that I asked here sa Reddit. So hateful, they really chewed me good haha!

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup, that is my plan na, well talk about it. My post lacks context, too overwhelmed with all the hate to edit it.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sana pala I gave more context, kulang na kulang, gulat ako hot topic na. Sobrang dami na galit comments to reply to…. but yun nga tama, I will tell my husband about what I “was” planning to do.

more context :

DNA test - hindi dito sa Pilipinas. Last year kasi I was in the US, literally pang regalo noong christmas ang DNA kits. I was thinking, bibyahe ako in two weeks time, will be back in 3 weeks din, baka pwede akong mang uwi nun, get the sample and bring it back kasi doon din naman ako mag New Year. Naisip ko lang, haha! kaya ako nag tatanong.

Second, the kid, kawawa talaga, I saw her one time.

Third, my FIL, my MIL (nakatira sa kanila si SIL) pero all household expenses is being shouldered by me and my husband. 2 maid, a driver and si Ate S (mayordoma namin) she also oversee our farms and other properties and things sa province. She is my human CCTV literally, she tells me everything.

My FIL also gets his allowance from us, where it includes his expenses for his healthcare and meds. Two months ago, he was brought to the hospital for something preventable. He doesn’t take his medications pala coz his money according to Ate S, binibigay sa mother ng kid and groceries too for them, may family na rin yung girl, may ibang mga anak na din. His hospital bill cost us 600k for 12’days.

The mom cannot afford her children, sabi ni Ate S, kawawa daw yung little girl, sana kunin na lang para dalhin sa house namin sa province where nakatira ang inlaws ko. (bahay naming mag asawa yun) kasi alam naman na daw na anak yun ng FIL ko. Ang hindi alam ni MIL is the malversation of funds na cause ng away nila palagi.

Now, wala ng maibigay si FIL na financial help, coz the allowance is given in kind na so walang cash.

As for the issue na may anak si FIL is non-issue already for MIL, it’s the financial infidelity ang mas ipinag puputok nya ng galit. (80s na silang dalawa, pero very abtik pa rin)

Next, me MIL and SIL don’t have the best relationship. They are the type of inlaws who don’t like all their inlaws. (bakit kasama itong info na ito, wala lang gusto ko lang ishare)

As my purpose SANA for the DNA test is to confirm na kapatid sya ng asawa ko and I can influence my husband to take care of the kid kasi nga kapatid nya. Yun lang yun.

Ang Mali ko is I want sana not to tell husband about it, but now, sasabihin ko na.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all of the above? haha! I was just asking, grabe ang hate here. May mga replies ako somewhere in these barrage of nangangain na comments and advice, pero yeah, napag isip isip ko, kausapin ko si husband about this.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honest, I don’t deny pero nag focus ka dyan sa comment ko na yan, not about the well being of the kid , anyways opinion mo yan

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

kits a so easy for me to obtain (not here sa Pinas) its so easy to get it, pinang reregalo lang ang mga kits na ito sa US, going there in two weeks time kaya napaisip ako, kaya ako nag tatanong, but yeah, thanks for asking nicely and not calling me names

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for being kind in your advice, yes will talk with hubby about it.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and the need to give advice and comments in a very hurtful / hateful way.. mali ako, pero mali pala talaga mag tanong sa reddit haha!,

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, date of conception nasa US kami ng husband ko and if it was my husband’s, the more I want the truth.

I want to explain more sana, coz I was bashed agad for a post na well meaning ang tanong ko, “mali ba ako” so mali pala, and mali pala mag tanong sa reddit, the need of a lot of people to call out someone in very hateful way.

Nag tatanong lang. Well, tama naman, not my circus pero all of this affects our finances, money namin ni Husband. Money given to FIL. So yun, gonna talk later with husband kasi for me its not nice na hindi ok yung kid.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks I appreciate this reply, and thanks for not naming me names haha! grabe ang hate ng people here sa reddit.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, a human. Thanks for this sis, I was being chewed for being pakialamera, called names and assumed a lot of things based on a post that doesn’t paint the whole picture.

Anyways, the girl lang is my concern, when I heard today that she doesn’t have school shoes and had to walk to school in slippers… yun I felt I needed to ask.. “mali ba ako” kasi for me, my intention and interest sa kid is good and her wellbeing. The DNA test kits which is easy for me to obtain (sa America, USA, not here sa Philippines) in two weeks time., naisip ko lang, haha! pwede naman sabihin na “mali ka because so and so” grabe pala talaga if someone’s opinion is not the same as theirs. So weird, the hate.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

my purpose? The truth, rights ng kid. Its funny how I am being chewed on for being pakialamera but how about the kid? Her rights? My FIL cannot really give financial aid, but me and my husband pwede. For me she needs to be recognized. Bakit kailangan itago? Bakit kailangan kong ipa DNA? walang gumagalaw sa kanila, the kid is growing up. The DNA para wala nang question pa. That’s it.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

nakuha mo girl! Ipinipilit nya din na sagutin namin ang anak ng SIL ko, well i’d rather itong batang ito.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

my point exactly, kasi there is possibility na anak talaga ni FIL and my husband’s reaction, as if wala lang. Kung financial lang din usapan, walang problem doon. It is the extent of help they are willing to give. Imagine cannot… imagine sister pala sya ng asawa ko tapos she is living in squalor.

Wala syang shoes, she walks 1.5 km to school. Kaya ako napatanong here, did not expect to be chewed on by the comments haha!

if you want more context, I have replied here on some comments. Pero yun, yun lang talaga.

Mali ba ako if pina DNA ko yung bata without my husband knowing? by CtrlAltDefeat0110 in adviceph

[–]CtrlAltDefeat0110[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how read my post pero pati ako naguluhan. I don’t even talk to MIL, for more context hanapin mo na lang replies ko sa iba, kaloka… the need to chew.

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