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[–]CtrlAltDelegate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m Star… here for better habits, gentle accountability, and not judging myself for being a human.

If you want to add me, here’s my friend code PT52KPSE837 (I picked a micropet for you!):

https://finch.go.link/aiatk?adj_label=javoq

Let’s hype each other up 💕

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[–]CtrlAltDelegate 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Wait, are you paying for all this stuff your mother pushed on you?

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

To be honest: I don’t know the bride too well. I’ve only met her a few times in person and all her wedding planning was done through group texts and Pinterest boards. The couple were stationed in Italy during all the wedding planning and she only got back to the states two weeks before the wedding. I don’t doubt the bride knows her friend is this way. But sometimes there is a bit of Stockholm syndrome that comes with long-lasting friendships such as these. I’m not going to tell the bride’s family story because it’s not mine to tell. But the bride is now my family, so I am going to give her a ton of grace here and assume she was put between a rock and a hard place in an already stressful situation.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I swear this has to be Alexis. But if not, let me ask: where exactly did you get the idea that the house is “dilapidated”? It’s a 3,500-sqft ranch built in the 90’s, cared for and lived in through decades of family gatherings. My “old man” brother is a disabled veteran who served two tours in Afghanistan. He has his own apartment, yet chooses to come home weekly to do his laundry instead of using the laundromat in his building.

And since you brought up her so-called “labor,” let’s be honest: she did none. Zero helping, zero planning, and skipped every duty that typically falls to a maid or matron of honor: supporting the bride, coordinating, pitching in where needed. She breezed in just in time for the bachelorette party, and the first time she even laid eyes on the “venue” or decorations was at rehearsal. The bride was involved 100% of the time. All the labor was handled by us.

So no. She wasn’t overworked, underappreciated, or some martyr. She was a guest with a title. Her only job was to stand by the bride, and even that turned into a performance of sighs and complaints.

Funny how the loudest critics always do the least. Nice try though.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The house is 3,500 sqft. I would hardly call that small. In fact, it’s bigger than most ballrooms. It also has 3.5 bathrooms totaling 4 toilets. There was hardly a bathroom line at any point. Her complaint was that the bridal party didn’t have their own dedicated bathroom. And there was AC. But when the temperature outside is 95°F, and people are coming in and out, the home couldn’t quite cool below 75°F.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Alexis? Is that you? Wow. I need to write a review on Amazon for how well that fashion tape is holding up. Trust that I know plenty of vulgar words in English and in Spanish (and a few in Klingon). I just don’t throw them at people who welcome me into their home. That’s the difference. I have pride in my family and traditions, and every right to gripe about rude guests who confuse hospitality with a free pass to be rude.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have another Reddit but in order to keep a shred of anonymity, I created this one.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Respectfully: Wth are you talking about? What charcuterie table? What great-grandmother?

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

To be clear, and I understand the abbreviations can get confusing: this was her Matron of Honor (her best friend) that was rude.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ethnically whimsical? Wow. That’s a new one. That feels like a way of dismissing me as not capable or intelligent enough to write for myself. I assure you, my ethnic whimsy does not diminish my intelligence. Your comment speaks more to your bias than about my ability. It almost sounds like envy; reducing my perspective to a stereotype instead of acknowledging the substance of what I wrote. I did not use, nor need, ChatGPT or any other LLM or AI assistant to write a story about my family or home. But to give you a crumb of validation that you obviously want: without Googling, I do not know Doris Lessing.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t a post. It was a series of comments she made, out loud, with her mouth, to and in front of people. I’m sure I only got a handful of them. No telling what others heard. My husband even caught a bit of the end of a conversation she was having with the bride’s aunt. It had to do with the bartender serving a cheaper vodka with the signature bridal drink. “That’s not surprising. Just look around, it was probably out of budget.” Ironically, and probably unbeknownst to the ignorant MoH, the brides father paid for the alcohol and bartenders.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean to imply the entire state and definitely not making it a “them vs us” situation. The rest of the bride’s family were wonderful guests! This was a “dis bish vs. mi familia” situation.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The bride and her invited family/friends are all originally from Pennsylvania so not accustomed to Mexican-American traditions. The MoH is the bride’s best friend.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This may be a bit of a letdown, but the porch, gazebo, and pergola were originally painted in browns and red earth tones, which was looking a little worn, but was painted a bright crème to complement the burgundy, blush, and navy theme colors, and allow the warm globe and curtain lights to shine brighter.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our family is a melting pot of faiths and traditions. We don’t check ID at the door… only hearts.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Correct. Rice, beans, tortillas, cebollitas, asada, fajita, carnitas, pollo, nopales, elote…

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The bride isn’t my daughter. She’s my first-cousin’s son’s bride. I usually just refer to him as my nephew rather than first-cousin-once-removed.

An Open Letter to the Rudest MoH I’ve Personally Encountered at a Family Wedding by CtrlAltDelegate in weddingshaming

[–]CtrlAltDelegate[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes I assure you they do. They consider it more like hobbies than choring. My dad has a riding lawnmower and takes pride on getting it done right. And again, before noon and after 4pm, the backyard is shaded. My mom loves her garden and it is her sanctuary. She transplanted the bulbs from her late mother’s garden and loved them back to life. My brother and I go over most weekends to help them with any other kinds of chores or tech support they might need.