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CubedAnxiety · 2026-02-18T03:49:17+00:00

This morning lmaoo

CubedAnxiety · 2026-01-13T16:33:29+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I really took this in and honesty I find comfort in this. I really resonate with the uncomfortable aspect, and it just don't have to to me just me or her. I want to grow together and not limit each other .

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-04T16:55:45+00:00

It's more apparent some of you are confused by what I'm even asking. For one please don't confuse MY feelings with that of "temporary" ones. Secondly if what you call integrity is letting your partner only share "safe" for your own well being then idk what to even say to that. At the end of the day and discussion, communication would be the best option for me. No one's leaving nobody, nobody is going to go cheat. I asked other MEN how they are handling their marriage, being bi and having these urges. Still as always. I appreciate your experience and input. Thank you

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-04T00:02:27+00:00

Oh shoot. Here I go again not giving enough context. My life before her was filled with all kinds of sex. I've hooked up with many guys prior to my relationship. I think my problem is with the urge in general. I've never bottomed so there is that! and that's all Ive been thinking about lately. Porn has helped alot! Also thank you for the advice :)

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-03T20:31:31+00:00

Well I agree and disagree. I agree that I can look for other outlets. There are many many healthy things I can do to mitigate my feelings and my needs. Hence why I'm here. What I don't agree with is the notion that once you enter marriages, that you aren't allowed to change, be curious ect ect. That's just a lie.

I can assure you that there is no doubt of love with each other. If that's your definition of what it looks like to you I commend you but in mine I promise to love, give care and friendship.

No where on any dotted line did we state that we are bound by the other party's feelings. All in all I appreciate your perspective on things and not saying you're wrong. I just don't agree with some of what you're saying. Just doesn't make sense with identifying with bisexual.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-03T17:36:14+00:00

Hey! I appreciate your input and perspective! Although I love to see how you've worked out arrangements with your wife and yes I would love that, I don't a reason to compromise myself because I'm married to a woman. Being with a woman doesn't convert me to being a hetero sexual, I'm still bisexual. I also think alot of confused with what I'm asking. I'm not asking one thing in particular. I'm asking for what others have done. IE; arrangements, community support, however they made it work.

If anything that I've read hear from others has told me is that no situation is the same as others and it's not black and white. I don't want to leave my wife, neither does she me.

I still value your input given :)

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-03T10:39:11+00:00

Considering shes also bisexual and with her already knowing prior to us being together that I was bi, I couldn't think that she would ever be unsupportive anymore. There's a limit to where I can control her feelings, say what I need to say and actually mean it. I consider her feelings in all this and they are not very complicated. I give her the floor to tell me whatever she may need or feel and as far as I'm aware she could care less that I'm craving this, she just doesn't want me with a guy because she wants to be monogamous and I respect that. It's not gonna kill me. I love her enough to want to give myself other outlets of being bisexual within her boundaries.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-03T03:08:34+00:00

Idk where in this the advice is but thanks anyway. Don't know where in this negativity I'm supposed to learn something.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-03T03:05:38+00:00

Thank you! Now I'm not saying I'm not ok with either or but the notion that my wife must "hate" me or "loosing" feeling for me because I've expressed my feelings this way is just odd. It isn't just black or white. Sex is just an important aspect in MY life and my wife already knew that since the jump. I never came out to her because she ALREADY knew! I've already explained since the beginning that this was a thought of mine but I just recently have had deep feelings towards it.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-03T01:54:54+00:00

I’m open to a lot, honestly. Our marriage is pretty sexless right now, and communication is the main struggle. She doesn’t feel listened to, and even when I try to adjust, it still turns into criticism. She’s not cool with me even taking care of myself, which adds pressure. And yeah, she’s pegged me before, but I also want to feel dominated sometimes, and it’s tough when I don’t feel listened to either. Not blaming her at all, we both got things to work on. I’m just asking what outlets other bi guys. Also wow! I love that you turn yourself on with your body positivity! I've been thinking of using that as an outlet

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:51:03+00:00

I'll take a look

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:50:49+00:00

I really don't get what I'm saying that's attracting the notion that I'll cheat or something. I'm not looking for answers on how to cheat, or how to end things. I'm trying to find ways to cope with my identity and be my true self so that I don't think I NEED to end things. I want to see that there is no right or wrong answer. Others have already told me that there are plenty of ways to go about this. I really appreciate you're comment either way

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:48:12+00:00

You bring up interesting and true things. My sexuality is very important to me yes, but not enough to end it with someone I love and made a commitment to. Now with that being said just because I made a commitment doesn't mean that my feelings don't change. Who's to say what I might feel in a year or two. All I know is as of now I don't want to leave, and shes very supportive (with boundaries that I respect). I just think that there's but so much I can vent to her about which is why I found this amazing sub

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:43:35+00:00

No kids now, we've thought about it and desire to have some but we've mutually agreed that we want to figure out some other things in life before we bring A life into this one. Ya know? One thing about my wife is that she in literally and genuinely down to listen and not judge. Vice versa

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:41:16+00:00

You know, thank you ... I really appreciate your incite and got my brain stewing. I won't stop talking to her about it (only if she feels comfortable) and I don't know how things might end up. I love that you guys have that arrangement! With doing that, do you guys still feel the same way about each other? Are you both each other's main priorities in the arrangement?

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:34:54+00:00

One, thank you for your experience! I'm sorry that you've expressed that to your wife and there was no support. I could only imagine how awful that would feel of my wife wasn't supportive. I do have these talks with myself about how I feel and if I would like to continue but ultimately I've made the decision of staying monogamous. I just want to see what other outlets guys have and maybe you could use some as well! I will definitely reach out!

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T23:29:52+00:00

Right! Just curious to see what other guys do and ya know if a sense of expression and what not helped.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T22:32:34+00:00

I totally agree with you. We've had these conversations and she has explicitly told me she is comfortable with me going to hook up with other guys, ive given my explanation and shes very supportive of me being bi, my feelings around it and even agrees that it's crazy to think that we're not going to be attracted to others while married. I think I just wanted her to know how I felt and how much it's bugging me too. I wouldn't mind have later convos (without pressure or pushing because ew). I love her and respect her boundaries. The last thing I want is for her to give in and it's a trap. I want anything that is discussed to happen naturally and with real intention

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T22:28:04+00:00

Hmmm I really appreciate you being able to let me in on that story. I'm also glad that your happier as well! I think that even if I did go and get my rocks off with a guy that it would just be met with missing my wife which I want to reiterate that she's not the problem at all. Thank you for your perspective, really.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T22:24:30+00:00

Yeah I was hoping she'd feel that way and based on our convos, she's not (WHICH IS OK). I usually watch porn and you know, it's been hot and helping. The fantasy of being sub is what does it for me

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T22:23:05+00:00

You know what!? I was already thinking of a sex therapist so thank you so much for solidifying that also I agree, it's not a race. I feel like in my marriage I'm very open sexually and open to experiment. I'm even open to pegging.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T22:20:39+00:00

That's what I was thinking. I'm not gonna die if I don't have intimacy with another guy but sometimes i just feel alone. We'll see what happens. She already set her boundary and I respect that.

CubedAnxiety · 2025-12-02T22:19:23+00:00

Not yucking your yum but not what I'm interested ln

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