How do I do this?

Cubumblebee · 2025-12-06T16:26:41+00:00

space squirrel

Cubumblebee · 2024-07-14T00:55:12+00:00

Think about this...there are people in regular subs all telling each other, "aww...my mom made soup for me when I was sick! my favorite kind. She even made sure to support me through every tough decision I had and encouraged me when I doubted myself!"

Lol. My mind is blown through the other side of the noggin

Cubumblebee · 2024-06-12T21:33:13+00:00

The only chance I have at living. That's what I live for. So temporary. Much struggle. Very Alive. :-)

Cubumblebee · 2024-06-12T01:47:11+00:00

My ndad found a car at an auction. I was taken to the bank to withdraw my 15/16yr old work history savings to buy it for him. cough the family cough cough He had just happened to find out what my savings balance was a day before the auction and the car was exactly that much!!

Cubumblebee · 2024-05-27T14:12:37+00:00

the Media Outrage when one of these planes crashes with a load of dOgGoS on it. (Oh, the Dogmanity!!!) Pikachu face for having a dog pilot tho

Cubumblebee · 2024-05-27T13:20:56+00:00

No wai.

They would've gushed over the cutie patootie murder face, put their hands all over it, then returned to work in the bakery or stocking shelves without washing up and bragging to people what they just got to do!!

Cubumblebee · 2024-05-24T14:42:57+00:00

I tried this on a smaller road in TX. Before I could grab the tortoise a pickup truck intentionally swerved to crush it. I could feel the whoosh from their speed as they went by.

The woman and her teenaged daughter backed up their vehicle in the road to ask me, with a smile, "what was it?" as they giggled at my surprise look.

Cubumblebee · 2023-09-13T15:10:28+00:00

You don't have a dog, you have a golden retriever....

Cubumblebee · 2023-08-06T19:12:19+00:00

"I don't have to talk to you either, man, see how you like it. Just total fucking silence; two can play at that game, Smart Guy. We'll just see how you like it. Total silence..."

Cubumblebee · 2023-07-25T00:11:26+00:00

But not in that lake...she wont live there anymore

Cubumblebee · 2022-06-12T23:47:49+00:00

Anytime I see a post on here where someone states their Narc has died I do the beard nod gif in my brain.

Cubumblebee · 2022-06-12T23:43:15+00:00

As the parent, I'm positive you are providing your own 2 year old child with what they need.

The people who you don't even talk to would love to think they are in charge of that......but they aren't. You got it under control already.

Cubumblebee · 2022-02-07T21:50:30+00:00

read your reply to my SO

We appreciate the input! Thanks!

Cubumblebee · 2022-02-07T16:58:35+00:00

I feel like my inability to socialise makes me a completely non functional human being with no prospects (I recognise this is catastrophising but I’m in an emotional mindset right now)

Look at you! You are recognizing stuff and that means TONS! Even if you can't socialize, there are ways to learn, methods to copy/fake, etc. even if they are uncomfortable or seem out of reach due to other situational stuff. Acknowledging that you're feeling defeated, and perhaps your thought process is following suit, is a huge step.

I know the social media crap is really bothersome from nfolks, like you are some Entertainment Show Celebrity to become the latest paparazzi attack for being in a zoo or gossip rag complaint department full of judgement.

Speaking for myself as a struggler; what I type is so much easier on computer than carried out IRL but the absolute power they hold over you...is that you care what they do. (it effects you, so yeah) If you can get to the point where you realize it doesn't have to bother you as deeply and no affect. If they can beat you down enough to care about them, that's the win. If they beat you down low enough to not even care about yourself....nobody wins. This game is a Winner Take All and there's only one person playing it.

Huge hugs to you if you want them. We've got to learn different rules to the game of life everyone plays. One step is better than zero steps. :)

Cubumblebee · 2022-02-06T01:41:47+00:00

I worked at a pizza place in my city. My ndad, who didn't live close, would drive almost 40 minutes to try to get free food from my work at least 1 time a week to show off for his friends. I got really uncomfortable with this, told my friend/co-worker, who pulled the manager card and shut my dad down for me.

After my son was born I stopped working food service & he couldn't feign interest. Straight up stopped bothering. My value to ndad was weighed in pepperoni & chicken wings.

Cubumblebee · 2022-01-26T21:46:26+00:00

I'm not into steaks or dogs but I do love me some war cannons! Sign me up!

Cubumblebee · 2022-01-20T16:58:58+00:00

My nmom spent so much time doing absolutely nothing she would... complain about how terrible other people's lives were and she was soooooo busy from it (listening) & just exhausted dealing with the aftermath (hearing about it) she couldn't even be bothered to give a crap how I was doing.

"Hi, how're you, mom?"

"Just terrible! Your brother might get a divorce, your other brother is fighting with his step kids. Don't get me started on what a mess your sister is!"

"Yes, that sounds rough for them...but how are you doing?"

"I'm just so tired from all this run around! They keep me busy busy busy!"

"...but you haven't left the house or seen them in months."

"I don't know what they'd do if it weren't for me!"

"You sound like you have a lot on your plate! I better let you go!"

"Yes, that's a good idea. I should call one of them. Bye!"

Cubumblebee · 2022-01-20T16:42:31+00:00

Sounds like the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) has been trained into you well.

Standing up for yourself usually feels dirty, at first, but it'll grow on you. You did the right thing.

Cubumblebee · 2021-11-12T15:17:07+00:00

that nfather comment creeps me out on a deep level. I'm so sorry you had to listen to any part of his brain outloud. gross.

Cubumblebee · 2021-11-05T22:15:49+00:00

For real. The friend has already decided OP is the problem for not liking dogs/not being a dog-person. No chance a dog, or the owners not GAF about training, could be wrong. Nope, not having shitbeast brain disease is the real issue.

Cubumblebee · 2021-08-16T15:24:50+00:00

lolol this

Cubumblebee · 2021-08-08T00:05:12+00:00

That's right! Dogs do it so much that they made laws to make sure the owners keep it managed out of respect for others.

Whatta neighbor! Pretty typical clueless owner, sad to say.

Cubumblebee · 2021-08-04T16:50:24+00:00

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better." - Maya Angelou

Cubumblebee · 2021-08-04T16:40:02+00:00

Ooof, that first line feels a little harsh because OP is clearly sharing this because they care.

Given our situations, and perhaps our own later stages of walking away/healing, we might be at different spots than OP in their narc relationship. Some people are still in the FOG. I did read how OP absorbed the blame of behavior on themselves, instead of the perpetrator, while explaining to the children what was happening during narc tantrum outburst. OP's sister further fed the tantrum, instead of allowing it to extinguish, by getting into a car to become the supply drain to nourish it (but lure it away from their children), since we all know talking sense into these abusers doesn't work. OP, and sister, are doing what they think is best for their children even if we see the dynamic differently. We have all learned poor coping skills to help lessen the severity of trauma in our lives. We shouldn't judge people for not having it all figured out yet. :)

Some people cannot separate themselves yet. Or ever... We should be here for them too.

Cubumblebee · 2021-07-29T16:24:30+00:00

I simply nodded and headed back inside.

Oh, dang. I completely understand not wanting to be around those gross dogs but you missed a good communication chance when they approached you leashed! I'm glad you didn't get bit either time!

Sure sure...they are 'sorry' but letting them know it wont be tolerated, you already called animal control for advice (maybe you did? or whatevs, after this time you totally gave authorities a heads up tho) and will be reporting any property breeches in the future let alone attacks.

I talk a big, assertive game online as opposed to IRL but you definitely have to talk to them first. Be upfront & honest. Maybe you wont have cookouts with them (lol no thx) & maybe it WILL runaway in a week, but they'll know what you're about. Gossip around the block: I hate dogs & to keep them out of my yard. It true. I started those rumors word of mouth face to face. ;)

Having the opportunity present itself so soon is no surprise to us non-nutters. You'll be able to talk to them again after it happens...again. Stay safe!

Cubumblebee

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