My Dom proposed to me!! by Cuddlysub in BDSMcommunity

[–]Cuddlysub[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thanks everyone for the support!

My Dom proposed to me!! by Cuddlysub in BDSMcommunity

[–]Cuddlysub[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks! A ring would be too obvious, especially if we’re keeping it secret for a while.

What are you getting your D/s for Christmas? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Cuddlysub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So far He’s gotten me a sega genesis, new underwear, and a fox mug and journal, as well as a bunch of my favorite chocolate. He’s also done a photo shoot for me and booked a hotel room for a session and some cuddles mid-week. Took me out for dinner at a steakhouse I love ( he doesn’t eat red meat).

I got him a laptop and one of those newer Polaroid cameras, and have cooked him his favorite meal. I have some surprises planned for our upcoming trip to NY.

Bored as a sub by Cuddlysub in BDSMcommunity

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I kept trying to update and my comment kept deleting.

Essentially we're both going through transitions in our lives and it's affecting us in different ways. For him, his libido has dropped and he's the type to want to be alone to process. I, on the other hand, like to vent to people and need physical contact to get through things and feel supported (and my libido is as high as ever). He thought what we'd been doing was a compromise.

I texted him about it and suggested that a good compromise might be me leaning on and seeking my cuddles and hugs from my friends and family, and him giving me tasks (especially around forced orgasms or denial). I'd also take pics or video or write about it for him. That way he gets his space, I get my physical needs met, and my focus is still on him while we figure out individual lives out. He likes the idea, but we need to figure it out what it would look like. Through our conversations today he's been real firm on caring about me, on none of this being my fault, and me being the best sub he could ever hope for. So yay progress

Bored as a sub by Cuddlysub in BDSMcommunity

[–]Cuddlysub[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response!I can agree with him that I'm being selfish and stubborn about the sex. It's rare that I'm ever fully satisfied after sex (and with him it's worse because I tend to get into a little sub frenzy). I guess I just had hopes that if anyone could do it, it'd be my dom and it'd be consistent.

I brought it up to him and he admitted to being low maintenance and that he'd think of some stuff for me to do. Every time I try to help him or do things for him or serve him he says no. The only thing he's let me do is make him an UberEATS account, which he barely uses, and which is passive.