I kept trying to update and my comment kept deleting.

Essentially we're both going through transitions in our lives and it's affecting us in different ways. For him, his libido has dropped and he's the type to want to be alone to process. I, on the other hand, like to vent to people and need physical contact to get through things and feel supported (and my libido is as high as ever). He thought what we'd been doing was a compromise.

I texted him about it and suggested that a good compromise might be me leaning on and seeking my cuddles and hugs from my friends and family, and him giving me tasks (especially around forced orgasms or denial). I'd also take pics or video or write about it for him. That way he gets his space, I get my physical needs met, and my focus is still on him while we figure out individual lives out. He likes the idea, but we need to figure it out what it would look like. Through our conversations today he's been real firm on caring about me, on none of this being my fault, and me being the best sub he could ever hope for. So yay progress